To think less of those who slept with a lot of people

yes in terms of sexual experience. Not much else 😂😂

In a way I agree. I think people who slept with more partners tend to be more interesting (not always of course)

Shot in the dark here but I think maybe that might be more to do with the affair bit than anything else. Hurt and angry people lash out.

Its a strange thing to do to tell people that they dont really believe what theyve told you they believe because you've decided you know better.

Exaclty.
Someone who has slept with 2 people and been married for 50 years is a very different type of person to someone who has slept with 500 people and used sex workers and been dogging. Those 2 people will be quite different

yes yabvu what’s it to you? Lots of people experiment/ have fun when they are younger and then settle down when they get older. And even if they don’t as others have said how does that impact you?

Yes, some people would call the woman "grim" and a "wrongun" for her prior sex life. I know that some people are misogynistic.

But I'm still not sure why you can't believe that some posters genuinely have different opinions to you.

No I'm sure they wouldn't be supporting the woman regardless.

But it is absolutely a sign that the woman is a wrongun, and people would use it as an reason why the woman is grim!

It is not my business or my body. The choices and actions other people make don’t impact me unless it was a potential partner, then I’d have to have a think about it.

Even if someone said her husband cheated on her with a virgin, I don't think many posters would be saying "hope she had a good time"
I'm sure there would be some people responding as you suggest, but that doesn't mean everyone who disagrees with you is pretending. We might just have a different opinion to you!

oh! How strange.

I definitely think less of men who brag about their sexual exploits. I’ve not come across women doing this but it’s more the bragging than the number itself that would make me think less of someone.

yep. In my opinion, anyway

In the same way that 3 is the acceptable number of divorces. If you get married again after. Being divorced 3 times, my eyebrow would be rising

So, 49 is fine, 51 is not?!

What’s a lot, OP? And in what way does it affect you?

I think it’s just plain bizarre giving a number regardless of if it’s low or high for men and for women because it is none of my business. People can put their genitals wherever they like as long as where their genitals ends up consents.

For example:

Your beloved husband announces he has been having an affair. Then you find out the affair partner is a swinger who has shagged 100 men. I think most people would be like ewwwww you are well rid, what a vile woman etc. And I can just imagine the mumsnet posts!

AIBU - my husband left me for a swinger who has shagged 100 men. AIBU to think she is disgusting and he has very poor taste?

1000 replies saying URGH how grim, not 'oh how nice for her. Hope she had a good time 🤣

Why would anyone care whether random people on mumsnet think they're 'cool'?

If it was my (adult) daughter, I might be concerned for her safety, but I wouldn't be judging her character.

I don't think I've ever called someone a slag. If I disliked a woman enough to insult her, it would be for a better reason than her sex life!

DP has slept with quite a lot more people than me - not hundreds, although I don't see how that would change anything. For some people, different values around sex may be a compatibility issue, but I don't think that's inherently judgmental. For me, as long as we're on the same page now, it really doesn't matter.

You're batshit mate, never mind unreasonable.

I say keep it to yourself. I think most guys boast and make the figures up on the spot, and I'm sure nobody but my partner is interested in my number

No, but I think that people will say 'Oh I don't care at all' as they think it makes them look open minded etc.
BUT they would take a different view if it was either someone they didn't like, or someone close to them, or a potential sexual partner.

So people do actually care, they just don't care about people who don't concern them (fair enough). But they don't actually see it as a good or positive thing, and would judge people for it. Bonnie Blue for example, how may of the 'oh it;s great' people think Bonnie Blue is a role model or liberated woman living her best life?

I am a bit weirded out by people sharing the number of partners they’ve had with me … mainly because I am middle aged and don’t need to know that.

I also find it weird and uncomfortable when someone (of either sex) tells me that they are very good in bed. I don’t need to know this and it’s really subjective. It reminds me of girls (back when I was a teenager) telling everyone that “they were definitely the best kisser - everybody says so”.

The whole ‘women who are relaxed about sex are just trying to be a cool girl’ trope is incredibly misogynistic.

You really believe women aren’t capable of forming a sincere opinion about sex, and that women who enjoy sex for its own sake must be lying about it because women can’t possibly truly enjoy sex like that?

Wow. Mumsnet is so full of internalised misogyny when it comes to women’s sexuality.