To think less of those who slept with a lot of people

I don't care how many people someone has had sex with, but I'd find it bizarre if they felt the need to tell me. I'd not think less of them. It would simply be a case of us having different ideas of privacy and appropriate topics of conversation.

Have you really met that many people who have not only slept with 100s of people but also tell people about it? Because I don’t think that’s very common. How strange. You must keep very odd company which possibly says something about you.

I think there is a disgust response that can’t always be helped. I’m pretty liberal but when I hear about some of the stunts that Bonnie Blue has done it makes me feel grossed out. Mostly people keep these things to themselves so if they are going out of their way to tell you maybe your response is more to the bragging the the number.

This. That’s gross as it seems exploitative. But otherwise it’s nothing to do with me.

I’d judge someone collecting conquests like football cards.

Why does it matter to you?

ive shagged plenty. I settled early and got divorced and wanted to have fun. It was all consensual. What has that to do with anyone else?

i always practiced safe sex and had regular STI tests just in case.

This wasn’t a post about external beauty but about tolerable personalities. If OP is this judgmental and patronising and enjoys baiting people as much as this thread describes, I doubt many want to get close!

Bloody hell 😂

The people I know who have slept with lots of people have all been not that attractive tbh. The gorgeous people I know got snapped up by other gorgeous people in their 20s!

Wow OP, are you this aggy in real life?

YABU for using phrases like “work smart” and “making memories”… and for having narrow minded opinions about sex, and for jumping down the throat of everyone who disagrees with you.

No wonder you’ve not had much sex, I can’t imagine you’re much fun at parties ;)

I don’t mean literally every six months on the dot, more like a one year relationship followed by a few dates with someone and then get ghosted etc. I think it’s normal to date like that in your twenties and doesn’t necessarily make you that promiscuous as we might think of it eg clubbing one night stands, more just a little unlucky in love.

Also tbf I’ve met enough men to understand why someone might be switching them out every six months 🤣

Your arrogant and patronising attitude meaning nobody fancies you or wants to have sex with you is showing here — it’s ok to wish you could have persuaded more people to tolerate you for long enough to have sex with you, it’s not OK to judge others for things that they choose to do with their own bodies, in their own time when they’re single!

My experience has taught me there's bad sex, God sex and amazing sex and you have no idea which it'll be before you do it! And sex is also very personal, I could think someone amazing in bed and you could think they're mediocre. And some people need an emotional connection to have great sex, for others it's purely physical.

I'm very glad I'm not still with the person I lost my virginity to though!

That’s because for most regular people, once you’ve encountered the time and effort it takes to, for example, build and progress a career / raise a family / build a business / travel / excel at a hobby / maintain friendships and family relationships / find lasting connections and fall in love / get a degree etc etc, there’s not that much time left to sleep with an insane number of people

Maybe you just need to be better at time management?!

I think it depends on the number, because high to one person could be 20 people, which I think is probably about average. One person told me that her boyfriend broke up with her and then she slept with 100 people in about 9 months to take her mind off it. If she genuinely enjoyed it then fair enough, but it just didn’t sound very healthy.

I think I would judge a prospective partner if it was very high because I’m looking for a relationship so if it sounded like they slept with random people and then fucked off I probably wouldn’t consider him to be boyfriend material

I judge people who think this matters tbh. As long as all sexual relationships are consensual and honest (ie not cheating) then I think people should do what makes them happy.

Yes, I think less of people who sleep around a lot. That's hardly an unusual or controversial view. I wouldn't cut out a friend or colleague if they told me but I would lose some respect for them. If it was something I knew before I became close to a person it would put me off pursuing a friendship or relationship, that's not to say they couldn't win me over because they could, but as a first impression it would make me hesitant.

I don't have an opinion on the number of people other people have slept with, I do have an opinion on how they treat those people, which to me, is by far the more important element in deciding and judging their character.

Lots of sexual partners? who cares.

Sexual targets? Sleazy

Quality over quantity. Just because you’ve shagged lots of people doesn’t mean you’re any good at it