To think less of those who slept with a lot of people

Numbers matter not at all to me but the feeling it is something to brag about would bother me more. How would people who have slept with loads of people even know? Obviously you'd know it was quite a few but knowing it is 107 or whatever would be quite odd and suggest someone who sees it as something to brag about and that they just want to 'win' you and then move on. Though OP don't agree with your point on who has the time and it suggests not following healthy pursuits - if you were a uni student on a 3 year course say you could sleep with a different person every other week and end up on over 100 people just during that 3year period, say on a night out every other Saturday. You could easily be training to be a brain scientist in the meantime.

A man I know publicly claimed to have slept with 100s of women, and it's what I think of whenever I see or hear of him. I think I've judged him and just can't take him seriously....all of think of is what he said. He did nothing illegal, but if he would have kept his mouth shut, his private life would have remained completely private.

Issues with critical thinking AND reading it seems.

Yes! A man who has been with a prostitute or a woman who has cheated are much more of a concern to me than the number.

This exactly. I can't really see why anyone would care if it didn't affect them

I honestly don't understand how the number of people I or anyone else have or haven't slept with has any bearing on a person's worth, character or integrity - unless they're cheating/ sleeping with someone in a relationship?

People have sex without being in a relationship.

How do people find the time to spend hours in hairdressers, beauticians, nail salons or getting a fake bake - all things women do to feel validated and attractive - @AIBUISJUSTASBADASAITA ? Someone could just have sex with a different person every six weeks and it would be far less time consuming. Probably more fun too.

I don't think there is any one answer to this.

I am more likely to judge someone on the basis of one or two choices not the number. Any man who took part in Bonnie Blue's sexual events, any woman who willingly had a relationship with Russell Brand, for example.

There can’t be that many people who you know who have an extreme number though and are openly talking about it, surely? I’m assuming you’re not asking them. If you are you’re really a bit rude!

I read a post on here yesterday about a woman who had met what she thought was a lovely man. They got into discussions about how many they had slept with and she had been in the swinging scene in the past with a previous partner but isn’t in to it any more. I don’t know if they slept together before or after this conversation but they did have sex and then he said she wasn’t relationship material. That was very judgemental and it shouldn’t actually matter.
I don’t have a huge body count because I’ve had 2 LTR since I was 16 - 9 years then almost 20, and now in a 5 year relationship. If I hadn’t met people that I liked I think there would have been many more.

You're brave OP.

youre not funny?

Did I completely miss the point? Someone who has had sex with someone from every continent is only 7 people (plus the others). Agree the ick would be that they set themselves a challenge but the actual number of 7 isn’t many.

That’s because for most regular people, once you’ve encountered the time and effort it takes to, for example, build and progress a career / raise a family / build a business / travel / excel at a hobby / maintain friendships and family relationships / find lasting connections and fall in love / get a degree etc etc, there’s not that much time left to sleep with an insane number of people

It really doesn't take all that long to sleep with someone. And not all people are raising a family. But building a carer, maintaining friendships, travelling and excelling at hobbies still leaves plenty of time in an average year for sex. What material difference does it make if one person sleeps with the same person once a month or with 12 different people over the course of a year, averaging 240 people over a 20 year period?

Humour sadly lost on you then is it?

You clearly missed the point of that conversation 🙄

😂

You are judging the judgemental people. And so you become one of us.

The circle of infinity

I definitely judged a girl at uni. She was very proud of bringing back a new man each week. By the age of 20 her number was over 100. I think the judgement was more I believed she was very insecure and did it to try and make herself cool or something. More look at me.

If someone had a few one night stands and relationships more in a normal range i don’t think I would bat an eye lid. Providing people practice safe sex it’s not an issue.

I don’t actually care how judgemental people are, but if they choose to tell me, I think less of them.

Yes, absolutely. Telling off judgmental little bores is always enjoyable to me 😇

I'm not jealous of any of those things either

Woah that was nasty. A. I didn’t disclose my number b. I didn’t say I was good in bed and c. My god I hit a nerve with you there didn’t I? 😂😂😂

You judge people for buying their babies designer clothes? Why don’t you direct this energy into real issues like the Epstein files, the Ukraine war or Gaza?!

Nah, bit weird. I would start to feel uneasy if someone asked.