To ask if my boyfriend doing this last night is ‘normal’?

I hated it when my ex did this once. So before I got in the bath I used to ask everyone to use the toilet before I got in. I rarely had a bath in peace when DD was little. She always wanted to get in with me.

My husband and I have been together for 19 years. He would never poo in front of me, unless it was an emergency and even then, he would make me out my fingers in my ears etc

When you dump him tell him that his actions have repulsed you so much, that you no longer find him in any way attractive and you couldn't be in a relationship with someone so rough and dragged up.
Let it sting.

Abusers like to constantly demean their victims.
This was meant to humiliate you.
To put you in your place.

It is a massive red flag.
It wouldn't be the last time he would humiliate you.

He laughed at you, vulnerable in the bath while he humiliated you.

He's scum.

Please update that you’ve dumped him 🤢

Urgh no. Husband and I have been together 17 years, pretty relaxed about a lot of things but have never pooed in front of each other, just feels like a line that we wouldn't/shouldn't cross! At four months in I'd be done!

Editing to add we only have one bathroom and have still managed this - if there were two more toilets that's even more absurd and obviously off.

He is a foul, disgusting, low class pig.
He doesn't have an ounce of respect for himself or you.

You are out of your mind if you allow such filth near you again.

Of course it was deliberate.
To show you just how little respect you deserve.

Only on MN do things like this happened.
I can tell you a lot of women would have told him to leave.
I certainly couldn't look at such a pig again.

Only one of us has pooped in front of the other- and that was the one giving birth.

Your shitty DP might be right he did it in front of exes but that's quite a lot of them and quite telling.

Be the next one.

Yeah. A twat. Get rid.

"I have three toilets. I was in the main bathroom, there is also an en-suite and downstairs loo."

So he was expecting you to accept boorish behaviour from him - setting it up saying he'd bring you a glass of wine, then laughing as he left. This does not bode well OP. Do you really want to live with someone like this?

Nope. He ruined your relaxing bath. He would be gone. Four months? He is much, much too comfortable. Or just a twat.

end it now, complete lack of boundaries and likely to get worse

Ugh disgusting.

Married 20 years and we spent many of those years in a 1 bathroom house.

We’ve wee’d while the other is in the bath plenty of times (sit down wee for DH in that situation) but never ever pooed in front of each other. Neither of us wants to be either part of that arrangement. The only acceptable reason that will become a reality would be if it were medical issue/emergency.

Definitely not normal if you have more than one toilet. If only one toilet maybe it could happen if someone had a bowel issue but i am sure that a normal person would be very apologetic.

Gross and disgusting. I could not be with someone who behaved like this.

Jesus christ, I assumed it was the only toilet and I still thought he was bang out of order! The fact that there were two other toilets available to him and he made a conscious choice to interrupt your lovely, relaxing bath by forcing you to watch him do a shit is seriously fucking weird.

Get rid, OP. You're only 4 months in, he will definitely get weirder.

If there are other toilets in the house, why on earth would anybody choose to have a shit in the only bathroom that was occupied? It has to some kind of statement or test. Whatever it is, it's gross and disrespectful.

Poo troll?
Only 2 prev posts, both within 5 minutes of starting this one

Weeing is fine. Pooing is completely different!

At four months into the relationship he should be on his best behaviour, never mind this! In all of our 25+ years together, my late DH and I never used the toilet in front of each other.

Your update confirms it: your boyfriend is making a point, @Helenaslide. He's testing you. Get rid, it will only get worse.

You have other loos so this was a deliberate thing. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Get rid. You deserve better.

This is not red flags waving in your face OP, but more like a commie parade marching in front of you. Gross, juvenile, disrespectful etc... come to mind This is what you should expect of this guy, and its only 4 months... "honeymoon phase". yikes!

Yeh if you have other bathrooms this is deliberate. I’ve been married 20 years and even. When had one bathroom we never did this!
He’s showing you what he thinks of you especially laughing. Get rid

Not only revolting, but sick in the head, not normal.

This happened to me once but he said it was accidental (often sat down for a wee) and has never done it since. I've never known anyone else do it and I think it's horrible. Couldn't he wait ten minutes or so?