To ask if my boyfriend doing this last night is ‘normal’?

I don’t know how it could be ok as it’s going to smell, so he expects you to inhale his stink! Gross! 🤮

That kind of behaviour 4 months into a relationship is not a good sign. I would be showing him the door for that. As a pp has said, it’s a bit of a power move at worst and disgusting and disrespectful at best. Either way I’d be done with him.

I would retch at the smell of someone else’s poo. Mine are quite fragrant

We've been together 16 years and I'm often caring for DH who is now very unwell. I help him dress and he often has to break wind in front of me. He would be mortified to have to poop in front of me, let alone do it on purpose.

I have a situation down shower with a curtain rather than a bath, so there is no visuals to contend with, but my late OH and I were fine with the other popping in for a wee while we were in the shower. We both had disabilities that meant showering could take a solid half hour to finish as we'd need to stop and rest a lot. Sometimes we'd stay and chat for a bit.

Number 2 was "only in a total emergency" but as we both had bowel conditions it happened from time to time. The rule was to go as fast as you can, shut the lid immediately and crack the window to keep down smells.

Jesus Christ, no way!!

In 30 years I’ve never taken a dump with my OH in the bathroom and would wonder WTF was occurring if they did!! A slash doesn’t bother me, but not a dump!!!

No matter how well you know someone, there are limits!!

Utterly revolting. Get rid.

Gross however many years together to do that.

What, he tricked you? OR expects you to drink wine in the same room he does a dump? Ew

Wee yes. I've gone in when leaking blood postpartum to clean up and he's in the bath but no, shitting is a step too far.

Hmm. I'm married 20 years and we would do this. However neither of us mind. If you do mind and he doesn't respect that going forward, that's an issue. So it's less about the action and more about his respect for your viewpoints and preferences. If you explained you didn't like it and he apologised and said he wouldn't do it again then that's ok. If he deliberately poos in your presence to piss you off then it's a dumping offence

This is why you lock the bathroom door.

Omg absolutely not!!! I’m lucky in that I have a separate toilet and bathroom (plus an en suite) and if my boyfriend is round and “needs to use the facilities” he either goes upstairs if we are downstairs or downstairs if we are upstairs out of courtesy!

4 months in?

I mean, my husband of 16 years wouldn’t do that, but 4 months, Jesus wept.

And he wants you to still fancy him after that?

Absolutely not. Wees maybe if busting/you've reached that stage, poos absolutely no.

I include children and cats in that (we keep the litter box in the bathroom, I close the lid so they can't use it while I'm in the bath - they have other litter boxes, but like to hang out with me and will inevitably use it if I don't)

My ex husband used to do this. It’s a power play in my view, humiliating and degrading. I would never again tolerate such utter disrespect.

This has never happened in any relationship I've ever been in

Disgusting

OMG No. That doesn’t bode well for you future together. Is he belching, farting, scratching his arse or picking his nose in front of you yet? All of those would be unacceptable to me.

Not normal at all. Rank.

Absolutely not normal. You were having a nice bath and he came and shit all over it. Literally. I have been married for 30 years and we don't even pee in front of each other. And this guy is doing a number two in your presence after 4 months?
He is testing boundaries. Shut that behaviour down right away.
Of course he was laughing - this was meant to embarrass you and make you feel bad.
Not sure how much you like this guy but for me it would end the relationship.

🤮 instant dumping offence imo. Pun intended.

Not normal , in my entire life no one has taken a dump in front of me .. even animals feel shame when they do it. Yuk