To ask if my boyfriend doing this last night is ‘normal’?

Mine doesn’t either. Won’t poop on the lead and runs off into the long grass so he can stay hidden.

I've been with my husband 26 years and neither of us would do this. Disgusting and I'd dump him. I do remember reading something about narcissistic toilet behaviour which involved this type of thing , absolutely not normal and a way of exerting some sort of power over you.

Now I wonder if this was intentional. Him suggesting the wine then coming in and doing that AND you have other bathrooms available??

Did the wine ever appear while you were in the bath?

Time to have a ponder on if he's tried to push boundaries before that you gave him the benefit of the doubt for but now see differently.

He’s a pig and if you have 2 other toilet’s available then he was definitely testing boundaries. I wonder what else he does that he thinks is “funny”.

No

To be fair my dog did look embarrassed at times. She honestly didn’t like me looking at her.

No. Unless he had raging diarrhea (I can never spell it), there is something very wrong here. My husband has never had a poo in front of me and vice versa and we have been married for 18 years. Back in the day when we first lived together and only had one bathroom, we would each say to the other something along the lines of 'I'm going in the bath / shower now. Do you want to use the loo first?'

She has 3 toilets

This makes it sound like he offered the wine just so you would leave the door unlocked and he could do this. He knew what he was doing. It sounds extreme but I wouldn’t want to be with him, he enjoyed subjecting you to that the underlying psychology is effed up

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So you have three toilets and he chose to do that in front of you!?
Thats weird. And horrible.

What were his motives I wonder?
That would seriously make me think twice.
YUK

that is revolting.

Who has voted YABU?! And why?!

He had 2 other toilets he could have used and still went to the one in your bathroom. That’s even worse. Grim.

This has got to be a wind up right. No sane human being would ever do that.

No not the norm. Only under dire circumstances and if no other loo in the house. We have been married for 30 years and have never done this.

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Fucking nasty. He's lying about having done it with other partner, or maybe that's what ended those relationships.

The only way this could happen is if he was ill or plain bursting and told you first so you had the option to vacate.

Honestly this makes me sick and angry at his blatant lies on top of his foul thoughtlessness.

I actually think they might. I recall my family dog hiding under the kitchen window when going for a poo in the garden, if she looked and saw us watching - she would also sometimes look over at us sheepishly, as if to say "ffs why are they watching me".. obviously, so we knew when to call her back inside, not some weird fetish.

Animals, especially dogs, do seem to feel shame. I recall the look of guilt when another dog destroyed something of mine. Or when they had run off and not come back when I called. The body language said it all. Or when the dog accidentally knocked me over and hung its head low afterwards, as if by way of apology, and then refused to leave my side because I was limping. That was a big deal because that dog loved running off and exploring everything, chasing anything that moved.

He would never set foot in my house again.

We've been married over 40 years and I have never seen DH have a wee never mind a poo.

One of my favourite episodes but in real life…. NOOO!! Think it would be enough to dump him (pardon the pun).

I know loads of people who do this.

I know more women who do this (but I have more women as friends).

I would never do it and would hate it done to me though.

Just tell him not to do it again.
If he does, then it’s over.

Wtf. No way ever ever.

My ex-husband had a some serious faults but having a poo when I was in the bath would not have been one of them.

He's an uncouth pig!

It has never happened to me. What else would he expect you to put with? Make sure you tell him why you’ve gone off him.