To ask if my boyfriend doing this last night is ‘normal’?

Male or female, you poo in an empty bathroom! Period!
Totally disgusting and disrespectful to do this when your partner is having a bath/shower.

I think you've probably lived a narrow life if you don't think this thread could be true.

Massive drip feed that you have THREE LOOS. come on.

this is beyond ridiculous.

how could you not know this is bizarre / grotesque?

more to the point, why hasn’t mumsnet deleted yet another weirdo OP?

for crying out loud.

Absolutely not. It would at the beginning, but we've been together ages, he's seen me giving birth. We are a bit odd though 😂

Alan..are you the poo monster?

So admirable to shit in front of someone trying to relax in the bath despite there being two other bathrooms, then laugh in their face when they shout to ask you to stop so are clearly upset by it.

If you have a partner I feel sorry for them, Alan.

It could be the year 2000 and the offender was Brad Pitt. It would be over for me.

The fact that there were 2 other toilets available strongly suggests a darker motive for doing this.

The fact it was so calculated is a red flag - the wine offer was definitely a trick.

And that he did it in your house - asserting dominance over your space. Lots of bad 'uns do this.

Probably had long-term plans to move in with you - is your place nicer than his? Or is it simply that you pay for and clean it, cushty for him...

Nah - you have all the support of this site in dumping him! Lots of angry women have your back! Courage! 🤗

A definite "dumping" offence 😂

😂 So many puns in such a short reply

I agree, think he may have a kink and was testing the waters to see if you might be into it, OP @Helenaslide

@Alan42

lol. He has just made himself gross and unattractive to the OP, she won’t want to shag him now….not very admirable really.

Animals feel nothing of the sort.

🤣

WTF??? You've got quite an imagination

I hope you have dumped this pos.

I would see this as the ultimate 'fuck you' gesture. Sorry.

Failing that, a kink.

Wee fine but poo no, my H will come in & have a wee if I’m showering which I don’t mind but we’ve been together years not 4 months. I’m surprised any normal person thinks taking a shite in front of someone else is fine & I don’t believe for one minute that all of his previous girlfriends were fine with it, he’s just said that to justify his appalling behaviour.

I’ve been with my hubby for 46 years and that is something neither of us would ever do. Although my SIL does it when her hubby is in the bath, she believes it to be normal. She’s brought their son up to fart in public and doesn’t see any wrong in this, 🤢

I actually don’t think this is unusual OP, I think a lot of couples do this however my husband wouldn’t dare!!!

That is absolutely repulsive, I could never let him put his hands on me again. What a scumbag.

I initially assumed you only had one toilet and he was bursting. In that case I'd have to tell the other person to get out of the bath. I'd apologise.

But you have three toilets. This is disgusting disrespectful behaviour. Dump him.

If you don't live together then when he comes round isn't it to spend time together? Seems a funny time to take a bath, unless it's together. His action was revolting, I totally agree, but I wonder if he was making that point (in a spectacularly idiotic way).

I’ve been married nearly 40 years and we have never done that. Unless he was ill with diarrhea I can’t believe he couldn’t have waited a bit. It was a deliberate act done to undermine/test you. That would end a relationship for me as it is disrespectful.

I've been married for 25 years and we would never do this. Really horrible and disrespectful.

A quick wee is one thing, a shit is another.

And there were other toilets, so even if he was desperate, he had options. This was deliberate.

Dumping offence in my book.