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WIBU to give my daughter's friend a lift home in torrential rain?

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DinonneS · 08/09/2026 15:31

A bit of advice need to how to handle this situation. So dd is 15 and walks to and from school. It’s about a 10 min walk so not far and dd has a group of friends, including one of our neighbours dd, who all walk together. Today we have had torrential rain all day so I dropped her this morning and said I’d pick her up. Messaged my neighbour (who works until 7pm) and asked if she’d also like me to pick up her dd. She said yes please so I’ve rocked up outside school to pick the two of them up. While there I see dd’s friend who lives about. 20 min walk but only a 7 min drive away and offered her a lift too and it was genuinely pouring down. She was very grateful and I know her mum so I knew she’d have no problem with it. All in all the extra drop off took me an extra 15mins and we were home at 3.10pm instead of the usual 2.55pm. Neighbour has completely kicked off that I didn’t tell her I was picking up and dropping another child while her daughter was in the car. She said we’ll be chatting about it tonight when she’s back home. Not sure what I’ve done wrong tbh

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Sassylovesbooks · 08/09/2026 15:36

I can't see what you've done wrong here either. All I can think is, she was expecting you to collect her daughter and bring her straight home, not to have to detour to drop off another child. I presume all the girls are 15, so they aren't little children. Your neighbour is making a huge fuss over nothing. It's not as if you took her daughter on a jaunt hours away without telling her! I guess she'd have preferred you to have left the other girl, that you kindly offered a lift to, walk home in the pouring rain??!!!

Clydebuilt · 08/09/2026 15:36

I’d say ‘Yes! We certainly will!’ Its a pity you won’t be picking her child up again though 🤷‍♀️

metameta · 08/09/2026 15:36

She’s crackers. No good deed goes unpunished OP. You’ve done nothing wrong.

annonymousse · 08/09/2026 15:35

I'd be telling her the words she searching for are "thank you" and in future I will leave her daughter to walk and get soaked. Like they say no good deed goes unpunished.

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