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AIBU to wonder if Facebook shows who has viewed your profile?

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TotaleclipseinFrance · 08/09/2026 12:22

I recently found out that an old school friend's dad has died.
We drifted apart after school and haven't met for a long time - not because of dislike but because she moved to the other side of the country.
I searched for my friend on Facebook.
I did not send a friend request at the time as I was trying to figure out what to say. Or indeed if it were appropriate.
Their name is not common so I had look at several profiles of the same name.

Anyway, a few days later, I see I have a friend request from my old friend.

Sorry this is just a long-winded way of asking if you look at somebody's profile will you appear on their page?

I know the background may be unnecessary.

I also appreciate this has probably been asked lots of times before but I guess it's a constant query.

If it's not appropriate to ask about other social media sites here I understand why it may be removed. No problem.

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hotmumshit · 08/09/2026 13:10

Can you turn off 'people you may know' so you dont appear in their lists?

TotaleclipseinFrance · 08/09/2026 12:43

MrsBeesBakedBeans · 08/09/2026 12:36

I am suspicious that people who appear in 'people you may know' are people who have searched for me and clicked on my profile.

I had somebody appear (distinct name, no mutuals) who I work with over email only. I've never met them and work from home. I have never searched for them either. I found it very strange that they appeared there.

So maybe you appeared in theirs.

Yes.
I'm not a big Facebook user. Use it mainly for local news, a handful of friends only.

I only started using it to sell a few bits and bobs on a local page or give stuff away.

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MrsBeesBakedBeans · 08/09/2026 12:36

I am suspicious that people who appear in 'people you may know' are people who have searched for me and clicked on my profile.

I had somebody appear (distinct name, no mutuals) who I work with over email only. I've never met them and work from home. I have never searched for them either. I found it very strange that they appeared there.

So maybe you appeared in theirs.

TotaleclipseinFrance · 08/09/2026 12:31

Thanks for the replies.
We have no mutual friends though.

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AdeleRochester · 08/09/2026 12:27

Makkka is correct, you’ll have appeared in her suggested friends list.

My bosses wife appears on mine which is entertaining 😆

Makkka · 08/09/2026 12:25

No it doesn’t tell them who has viewed their profile. You may have appeared on their “People you may know list” especially if you have mutual friends. That’s likely what’s happened.