MIL situation after she arrived early

If you want to mention the "apples don't fall far from the tree" argument, then I can only assume your forebears were as thick as fucking mince.

100% my experience!

Your DH did a great job, and his dad sounds lovely.

MIL is a nobhead.

You know, the more of your posts I read, the more I’m beginning to wonder if you’re actually the MIL in question. 🤔

I can't figure out if you ever had a job, or if you are just bitter against people WFH?

It's not a recent concept, most people WFH actually WORK and have been for decades.

You cannot genuinely believe you would drop absolutely everything the second your own MIL click her fingers 😂

I'm not sure many jobs require a lack of reading and comprehension skills.

Ahaaaaaaa. If you think people stick to the rules when they wfh you must have come down in the last rainshower.

From what the OP said, he didn't even know she was coming.

Because he had no idea that she was coming.

'I just dont understand why you'd have to go and lie down in a darkened room for a week with a sack full of of paracetamol if you had to.put a teabag in a cup..'

But surely the above ridiculous hyperbolic comment could equally apply to OP's MIL who was just sitting there doing nothing. If she was thirsty (or 'gasping' as you prefer to put it) surely she could manage to totter to the kitchen and put a teabag into a cup, rather than expecting her DIL to leave the room in the middle of an interview?

I know it’s madness. She’s a family member not the Queen or an acquaintance that might feel uncomfortable making herself at home.

We will have to agree to disagree on this. He spent an hour with his grandmother and fixed her phone for her. He'd have had dinner with her too if she hadn't gone home early in a huff. I know who I think behaved badly and it isn't the OP and her familiy.

a guest has been invited. She was not. She was even told not to arrive before 2:30.

She was not a guest, she was an inconvenience 😂

She's family. She sees them every couple of weeks. No need to stand on ceremony or expect to be waited on during working hours when she turns up early.

It also wouldn't have killed the MIL to show up at the agreed time instead of 2 hours early when she already knew no one would be ready. Being polite doesn't stop just because you're old.

She didn't get the attention she expected and threw a tantrum.

You'd think from the number of posts supporting the MIL that it was a pretty even split on this thread, before noting that there are a very small (<7%) number of extremely highly invested and prolific posters.

@DayglobooWhilst I strongly suspect you have ill-intent on this thread, I will nonetheless ask would your parents have popped home from their full-time jobs or you from school, to put the kettle on for a guest you didn’t know was arriving?

Tell that to the MiL, who could easily have done this while waiting for her son & DiL to finish the work they are paid to do.

No. She was the guest

Actually, she wasn't the guest until 2.30pm when she was invited to come round. MIL decided to turn up early before the invitation time and that isn't polite and its not being a guest but an imposition

I'm not British either but the grandma was rude first by showing up 2 hours earlier than they bag originally planned. When you agree to a time with someone and they tell you that they won't be available at all until that time it's rude to show up 2 whole hours early and expect people to be ready. If she had shown up at the time they all agreed then the youngest kid would have probably been done with their school work and would have been available along with everyone else. If she didn't want to sit alone twiddling her thumbs for two hours then she should have not shown up 2 hours early.

The youngest was trying to get his work done which is the responsible thing to do. And according to OP they visited with the grandma for a bit but then had to go upstairs to work. Again everyone not being ready isn't their fault, it's the grandma's fault for showing up early.

But he had no idea she was there in the house. 7 or 8 hours sleep is normal.
I doubt he rolled out of bed and went down in his boxers. I imagine he woke up and showered and dressed. He then spends an hour with her. Would have been longer if she’d stayed for dinner as she was asked to.

Maybe because he’s similar age to my dd I feel really sorry for this lad being called rude.

My dd was working abroad last summer. She arrived home after a travel day of 50 hours (3 flights) and slept about 24 hours. My mum was here day after and dd was in bed. She came down later to see grandma and grandma was delighted to see her. I’d have been so cross if my mum had said dd was rude as she wasn’t at the door when grandma arrived.

Nonsense. No employee would walk out of a work meeting or interview to make someone a cup of tea, especially if that person shouldn't even have been there during their working hours. You really don't seem to grasp that for responsible professionals working from home the working environment and rules are basically the same as if they were in the office.

Who comes on a busy work and school day? This cannot be the first time she has behaved like this. Sounds like one of those all-about-me narcissistic types

I really don’t think your DC were rude, your eldest had good reason to be in bed so late, and god forbid a young person have some fun before going off to university!

Your youngest wanted to get their work done, fair enough. Sounds like they did stay around and chat for a while too. They weren’t expecting your MIL to be there when they got home.

I don’t think you have done anything wrong, you obviously can’t get up and leave an interview because it’s your clocking off time!

Hope you can move past it with your MIL!