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"How do black people feel? How do brown people feel? How do cripples feel? How do fat people feel?"

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Temptree · 07/09/2026 22:34

As stated by Miriam Margolyes today, as she gets worse and worse...... and worse.

Link to previous thread:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5574225-omg-miriam-margolyes-andi-peters?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

It was intolerable what she said on This Morning last week.
And now what she's saying today by way of defending herself is even further intolerable.

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HopeSpringingHigh · 08/09/2026 22:49

Does anyone else think it was partly the person who hired her fault? As in shes always been rather forthright shall we say , or rude and that as an 85 year old she probably has even less of a filter.

I suppose I despair modern life . Everything is done for the drama and attention and talking about people at others expense.
In her own way shes quite vulnerable at her age and then of course you have victims of racism or people who have been hurt or offended .

thefourthbeatle · 08/09/2026 22:47

JHound · 08/09/2026 21:55

You don’t think her asking the black presenter “what are you” but not posing the same question to the white presenter demonstrates racial prejudice?

Ok.

she is ad-libbing characters she is inventing off-the-cuff. just watched the original clip again. she's an annoying bore who thinks she is displaying effortless acting skills, that's it. i can't stand her, but she is not exhibiting racial prejudice.

AquamarinePearlGold · 08/09/2026 22:11

Temptree · 07/09/2026 23:09

Well the context is that whilst on live daytime TV last week she was blatantly racist towards Andi Peters on several counts, along with impersonating his co-host Christine Lampard's NI accent to her face in a mocking way. And because of the backlash from the offence she has caused, she has now defended herself by using yet more offensive and discriminatory language to describe people who she apparently feels need to be othered.

Maybe she has dementia.

PrettyLittleRose · 08/09/2026 21:58

JHound · 08/09/2026 21:55

You don’t think her asking the black presenter “what are you” but not posing the same question to the white presenter demonstrates racial prejudice?

Ok.

Beggars belief doesn't it - that ANYone thinks this is anything other than racial prejudice?

JHound · 08/09/2026 21:57

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:13

Exactly, the woman was showing interest and completely misunderstood. The hounding of her was outrageous. This is not comparable.

She was “showing interest”. She was harassing somebody because she refused to accept her answer that she was from Hackney.

JHound · 08/09/2026 21:55

thefourthbeatle · 08/09/2026 18:56

I fail to see how Margolyes' language in the live broadcast exhibited racial prejudice towards Andrew Peters. Tactless to make personal remarks in the situation, yes, but remarking that black people have a variety of shades of skin is simply a factual observation. I have many friends - also family - who are black, and the subject occurs in conversation with regularity; predominantly in assessing from what region of Africa a particular person is likely to originate. Conversations not restricted to within black circles, I might add. The subject is very interesting.

That said, Margolyes' use of the colonial-era term "high yellow" was crass, as were her later comments attempting to extenuate the original perceived offence. She is an insensitive bighead (and crashing bore), at worst, and it was this and this alone that was the cause of any unease experienced by Andrew Peters.

You don’t think her asking the black presenter “what are you” but not posing the same question to the white presenter demonstrates racial prejudice?

Ok.

PrettyLittleRose · 08/09/2026 21:31

Dontlletmedownbruce · 08/09/2026 20:46

Yes she is exactly like that. I haven't seen the interview but I actively avoid watching her especially on Graham Norton. She is elderly and sounds upper class, and very articulate. She tells anecdotes that start off eloquent and then will say 'sucking cock' or some such thing, and everyone hoots with laughter. That's her thing. I don't know her views but I suspect she is being more controversial to get more attention that's all she seems to care about.

Yeah, that just makes me roll my eyes when she comes on to a late night chat show and starts with her filthy mouth and c-bombs. Incredibly predictable, and seemingly the only way she can stay relevant and in the news, seeing as no-one has employed her as an actress for about a decade and a half!

Never knew she was the Cadburys Caramel bunny voice. Thanks for that little nugget. Smile

Dontlletmedownbruce · 08/09/2026 20:48

She was also the voice of the caramel bunny in the 80s. (Random irrelevant fact, I know)

Dontlletmedownbruce · 08/09/2026 20:46

BooksandSlippers · 08/09/2026 05:52

I've never heard of her, she sounds s bit like that desperate Katie Hopkins who used to say controversial and racist things for attention. Some people are just born unkind.

Yes she is exactly like that. I haven't seen the interview but I actively avoid watching her especially on Graham Norton. She is elderly and sounds upper class, and very articulate. She tells anecdotes that start off eloquent and then will say 'sucking cock' or some such thing, and everyone hoots with laughter. That's her thing. I don't know her views but I suspect she is being more controversial to get more attention that's all she seems to care about.

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 20:43

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 20:28

No she's not. She's also not required to victim blame some Jews by likening them to Nazis during the holocaust. That hasn't stopped her though.

Very little stops her. She's wrong of course about Israelis, but she isnt talking about Jewish people as such, she is talking about Israelis. And even if she was talking about Jewish people as Jewish people solely, she is not required to do some sort of group think

tsmainsqueeze · 08/09/2026 20:40

UnwillingAdvocate · 08/09/2026 08:42

She’s 85 years old. How many of your 85 year old parents aren’t stuck in their ways and living in a different reality? She’s from an entirety different world altogether. It doesn’t make it right. It doesn’t make it palatable. But it does explain why she doesn’t understand the modern world.

I totally disagree , she is an intelligent ,successful woman in her field .
Her age is no excuse whatsoever , my mother in her 80's and other family members plus many other people in that age group wouldn't dream of being so rude and crass.
She has played many film parts with a wide age range of cast members and she knows what is and isn't acceptable to say.
She has a full grasp and many advantages in the modern world but she is a law unto herself and just does not care what she says and who she offends.
Unless she has dementia nothing excuses her.
I have disliked her for quite a while now but i am really angry with how she spoke to Andi Peters, then the further crap she spouted.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 20:28

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 20:21

They certainly are and its a disgrace in this country that its being allowed. But 'their own' does not apply to her re Israelis. She is not required to support the Israeli regime or the Israeli people.

No she's not. She's also not required to victim blame some Jews by likening them to Nazis during the holocaust. That hasn't stopped her though.

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 20:21

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 20:09

Are you saying British Jews aren't being persecuted? Racist my eye.

They certainly are and its a disgrace in this country that its being allowed. But 'their own' does not apply to her re Israelis. She is not required to support the Israeli regime or the Israeli people.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 20:09

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Are you saying British Jews aren't being persecuted? Racist my eye.

Lomonald · 08/09/2026 19:46

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 19:04

Where do you start with this 😆 🤣 😂

I honestly just went with his name isn't Andrew, because there is soo much to unpack!

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:35

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likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:32

MrsSlocombesCat · 08/09/2026 13:22

I was under the impression that Miriam had mimicked Christine's accent but it was Andi. But I don't think she was being racist at all. She was just clumsy, after all she's pretty old and believe me I have older friends who would never say that everyone is welcome! Even if she did add the footnote that there were a few who wouldn't be. High yella may be considered to be offensive now but originally it was intended as a statement that you were of high status. She just sounded genuinely interested to me, albeit without a filter.

Its not reported that way. Why would Andi Peters be impersonating her?

However that makes sense in that I couldnt work out what led her to ask him 'what is your normal accent'.

Is that true that its been misreported?

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:27

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Why are you being so hostile, nothing that poster has said indicates they're a 'fan'. You're just bullying them because you dont agree with their observation about something.

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:24

HotGrapefruit · 08/09/2026 11:51

I've heard a LOT of people who are disabled refer to themselves as cripples or their walking sticks as their 'crip sticks'. But you probably haven't, if you are not disabled yourself.

> And no, NO-ONE is ok if Chubby Brown or Jim Davidson says it too.

Well, they play to sold-out venues every summer, so apparently lots of people are very okay with it, and a lot, lot worse. This is a perfect summary: https://www.vice.com/da/article/roy-chubby-brown-gig-133/

Yes Im surprised people dont know this about people with disabilites reclaiming the word. Im disabled and I wouldnt use it about myself. I do wince a bit at it but its like some black people using the N word which I also baulk at.

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:13

RhannionKPSS · 08/09/2026 10:42

Are you aware that the lady in question was speaking to someone who was wearing traditional African clothing which no doubt prompted her question?

Exactly, the woman was showing interest and completely misunderstood. The hounding of her was outrageous. This is not comparable.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 19:13

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:07

Yes I was going to say this, someone upthread says she probably hates fat people and cripples. Well she doesnt, this is how she also identifies

I think although I dont agree with what she is saying, its quite refreshing that a celeb (so to speak) doesnt apologise for something.

That's all very well but if she were another celebrity or similar refusing to apologise, she would be crucified.

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:07

HotGrapefruit · 08/09/2026 09:03

She’s built her whole career on this schtick so none of it is a surprise. There are worse acts filing the summer season theatre in Torquay so I find it hard to get riled up about it. People will keep interviewing her because people want to watch it - look at the posts here asking for links etc. Of course it’s vile but it sells papers.

I don’t take offence at the cripple word - my siblings and I use sticks for our mobility and referrals to ourselves an old cripples. MM does the same.

Yes I was going to say this, someone upthread says she probably hates fat people and cripples. Well she doesnt, this is how she also identifies

I think although I dont agree with what she is saying, its quite refreshing that a celeb (so to speak) doesnt apologise for something.

LuckyHazelFox · 08/09/2026 19:04

thefourthbeatle · 08/09/2026 18:56

I fail to see how Margolyes' language in the live broadcast exhibited racial prejudice towards Andrew Peters. Tactless to make personal remarks in the situation, yes, but remarking that black people have a variety of shades of skin is simply a factual observation. I have many friends - also family - who are black, and the subject occurs in conversation with regularity; predominantly in assessing from what region of Africa a particular person is likely to originate. Conversations not restricted to within black circles, I might add. The subject is very interesting.

That said, Margolyes' use of the colonial-era term "high yellow" was crass, as were her later comments attempting to extenuate the original perceived offence. She is an insensitive bighead (and crashing bore), at worst, and it was this and this alone that was the cause of any unease experienced by Andrew Peters.

Where do you start with this 😆 🤣 😂

likelysuspect · 08/09/2026 19:02

CinnamonJellyBeans · 08/09/2026 07:39

A woman as old as her, who has written a book, has enough life experience and intelligence to know that the way she referred to the colour of Andy Peter's skin was grossly and wilfully offensive. The accent was also grossly offensive.

If I said that to someone, I'd rightly lose my job. There's no way you can explain away calling someone that unrepeatable term.

I don't think Andy Peters dealt with it well at all. If it is safe to do so, you should call out racism every time, terminate the conversation, or refuse to further engage with the person. He did none of those. It may well have been a surprise for him to have experienced overt racism on his own talk show, but as a seasoned presenter, he should have managed that better.

Oh yeah its all his fault. FFS

And his name is Andi

Its a morning magazine show, not his 'talk show', he was right to deal with it quickly by getting her off, it would have been completely inapprorpriate to 'call it out' at that stage. And, I might add, its his choice as to how to deal with anything given its about him. Not you.

Lomonald · 08/09/2026 19:00

thefourthbeatle · 08/09/2026 18:56

I fail to see how Margolyes' language in the live broadcast exhibited racial prejudice towards Andrew Peters. Tactless to make personal remarks in the situation, yes, but remarking that black people have a variety of shades of skin is simply a factual observation. I have many friends - also family - who are black, and the subject occurs in conversation with regularity; predominantly in assessing from what region of Africa a particular person is likely to originate. Conversations not restricted to within black circles, I might add. The subject is very interesting.

That said, Margolyes' use of the colonial-era term "high yellow" was crass, as were her later comments attempting to extenuate the original perceived offence. She is an insensitive bighead (and crashing bore), at worst, and it was this and this alone that was the cause of any unease experienced by Andrew Peters.

His name isn't Andrew !