Am I being unreasonable for feelings of rage from the sound of someone eating crisps?!

Have you read the other posts where there's comments about wanting to tear their faces off or staple them through the face? If any of these things were said about males telling a partner that they wanted to do that or just getting into a rage and ordering her to eat in a different room because she made 'disgusting noises' and he wanted to lamp her for it, it would be red flags, LTB, that's abuse, that is, all over the thread.

I can't tolerate some noises due to combination of tinnitus, hearing loss and HA use amplifying the exact ones that hurt (most painful are things like clapping, people moving programmes at shows, balloons popping, babies crying, that sort of thing, most frustrating/confusing are in crowded areas with lots of people talking/laughing/shouting at once, like a school dinner queue, as it's a wall of sound slamming into the side of my head). No fantasies about hurting anybody who is making those sounds, though. Because that is not a proportionate or reasonable reaction even when taking into account a disability.

I think those people are being hyperbolic. It doesn't have to be to your taste, but using violent metaphor does not actually mean you would do violence.

And actually, I think we don't react to women using such hyperbole precisely because it's rare a woman actually does these things to a man. It would not be as funny or as obvious of an exaggeration for a man to joke about exactly what men do all the time.

I could say "oh, my parents would murder me if I did X", and nobody would be concerned because it's very rare for parents to murder their adult child. If I said "oh, my husband would murder me if I did X", it is more concerning because... Well, we've all actually seen that happen.

I have terrible misophojia that has definitely got worse with age / menopause .

can’t even eat Christmas dinner with my family anymore as I want to kill
them all.

Definitely a you problem OP even if it misiphonia. You'll have to learn to be more tolerant I think

It’s still nonsense, there’s probably a medical condition apparently for every sort of neurosis but it’s the holders problem to manage but if they struggle to cope with normal everyday behaviour from others then it’s a problem for them nobody else. Most people are not autistic.

It being nonsense is objectively untrue, as I just explained, and how to manage it is a separate conversation entirely. Not the sharpest tool in the shed are we?

DH eating grapes gives me the 😡

Yawn bored with all the trauma, adhd, asd, medical conditions.. fro with it all

There is no way people can tell you have misophonia just by looking at you. It’s clear that you genuinely suffer from the sounds other people make in your vicinity. It’s difficult, because most other people around aren’t bothered at all. Could your doctor offer some stragies?

yabu because it’s so an OTT angry reaction. You need to deal with the rage, it’s your problem not theirs

It’s a ridiculous problem, apparently it’s a medical condition. These people are an absolute drain

There is debate as to whether it’s a medical condition, as has been had on the other post about misophonia this evening (I get the impression it’s the buzz condition everyone on Mumsnet will suffer from for a bit)

Physical over stimulation related to ND is of course a thing, and something I suffer from myself, but I have to learn to cope/ control it lest I murder someone with the rage from it. That’s our responsibility as adults

What was the incident at the Chinese for context. Do you think it's unreasonable that that people at a Chinese meal munch on prawn crackers?

I suffer from it too but 99 times out of 100 I say nothing. Other people are not responsible for the fact that you are sensitive to noise from people eating or other sounds. Leave them alone

I think I would have to divorce him in case I lost the plot and stabbed him.

I’m the same as your hubby, it really winds me up. I won’t have meals with family members because of the way they eat. My mother and mother in law are disgusting with it, they seem to wait until they’ve loaded their mouth with food before talking, I’m getting a rage just typing this, 😱

I struggle significantly with this too, but I voted yabu because I think we have to keep our tolerance up as best we can. In your situation I would not have been able to eat so I would have put my sandwich away and moved off in the hope of finding a more suitable spot, but we can't avoid the unpredictable world so we have to maintain some degree of tolerance.

You are not alone. Don’t even get me started on sloppy eaters, even more so when they are shoving in it and not eating with their mouth shut! I know this is my issue but it’s frustrating when I desp need my break and have to give up on it for this reason. It’s made me very aware of my own eating habits and will restrict what I eat when in a room with other people. The other one is people who scrap their plate or even their Tupperware! Tried Loops but they didn’t help this type of noise!

I almost lost my mum 9 years ago from a particularly aggressive cancer. There's much more to worry about in life than how someone eats their meals.

The last time I went to the cinema there was no crunching and no slurping. Just people enjoying the film. The entitlement is reeking on this thread. People don't just exist to annoy complete strangers. If you can't stand slurping and crunching -stay at home! It's normal for people to make noise when they are eating FFS

Misophonia is real and so are sensory issues for autistic people. No need to be angry that some people struggle with these noises. Manners are really sunk low these days. There's no need for the constant chomping all the way through films but that's how cinemas make their money.

People should eat with their mouths shut but that's getting rarer. Ironically my son is autistic and I'm constantly reminding him to stop chomping and making noise when he eats.

You know there are people in this world who would have the rage from watching you eat your sandwich outside on a bench.

Surely you need to be more tolerant of these people @ShakingAndCrying and eat your sandwich in an appropriate place.

When it’s a normal activity I think the onus is on the person having a problem with it to move away rather than for them to expect other people to adapt their perfectly normal behaviour.

It's such a weird affliction, isn't it! I didn't really have it until about five years ago, and find it so bothersome now. For those who don't have it, it's not really a rage based on others being inconsiderate or bad mannered with their eating noises. It's like a visceral response of profound disgust and rage to something I know logically is pretty normal. It happens with people who I love, and who I know are eating normally/innocuously. I totally get that it's a me problem, and usually just make excuses to distance myself.

It doesn’t work like that, it’s not about learning to be tolerant. There’s a difference between being a bit irritated by noisy eaters and having misophonia. You can’t just turn it off or tune it down. The only solution we have found (my husband has it) are noise cancelling headphones or ear plugs.

Thanks for explaining @Nightmary
Quite a few ignorant comments on this thread. It’s not about entitlement and just being intolerant. My husband has it, it’s very limiting in our life and curtails some of what most would consider normal activities such as eating out, going to the cinema, where we sit it public near others etc. It’s not life limiting but it is a problem.