Friend has cancelled on me last minute

I was wondering the same, but it's certainly keeping us all entertained!

Oh grow up @hungryowl

"We have had a few nights out where she’s had to drop me home"

Did dhe have to drop you home because you were too drunk to get yourself home? Or did she just give you a lift?

This is not real people

I'm not having that this is a genuine situation! A wind-up, got to be.

are you jealous she has other interest and freinds ??

thanks her for the money and phone round your other friends see if anyone can join you or go and have fun on your own.

Is this a reverse?

Its unkind of her to agree to it and then drop you at tge last minute, whatever her reasons may be

And you think she should accompany you on a boozy weekend? Leave her alone, you muppet.

If he's got that idea from her then maybe that's how she sees you too

Whatever the grand finale of this silly drip feed is, will you just get to the point please 🤣

You sound like the controlling one tbh.

Stay away from her, OP.
You're not interested in her wellbeing, you're just narked that you've lost a drinking buddy.
Why is it 'boring' to say no to alcohol?
TBH, if you need alcohol to have a good time, then it's YOU that has the problem, not your friend.
Knowing that she's given up alcohol, the fact that you arranged a holiday around bars and clubs, and cannot understand why this may no longer appeal to her, makes you sound incredibly self absorbed.
Please don't try and drag her down.

I'm not voting, because I think you're unreasonable for your attitude toward your friend, yet you're NOT unreasonable to want to end the friendship. It's not working for either of you, so better to let things cool off. You don't want to do the same things any longer. It's okay, but it means friendships either evolve or end. She paid her share. That's all she owes you. Don't make plans like this with her again if you don't want to be disappointed again, though it sounds like she's realised this for herself, now.

She’s just not that into u anymore. Don’t blame her.

You’re calling her an ‘adult’ as if that’s a bad thing

AT 42 !!!! 😂😂😂

Sounds like she may be maturing and you not to the same degree. You need to accept you aren't the same age as when you met and see if you want to evolve or not.

But don't you see, she does have her reason to cancel, she doesn't want to go on a boozy break.

You just need to find another friend who is able to go with you, or take your husband instead. It's paid for after all..

Well good for you! Although actually I can't believe that you go out drinking and clubbing and having affairs and your husband has no issues? in my 50's now but I know for a fact that my husband wouldn't like me regularly going out clubbing and getting wasted, and I wouldn't like him doing it either, as you state she still has children at home. It doesn't make either of us 'controlling'. We are just respectful to each other.

This doesn't seem a healthy and balanced friendship and you seem more focused on the husband as the enemy rather than being a good friend. Is it possible she has an actual drinking problem which requires support, patience and love from her family, friends and recovery organisations? Drinking problems come in all shapes and sizes and one thing you absolutely have to do if you are going through recovery for alcohol (at least at first) is avoid situations where you could fall back into drinking patterns. If you are a "drinking event" friend you might find yourself taking a backseat if your friend is changing her life and habits. Perhaps, if you genuinely want to nature this friendship and get it on a more healthy footing, maybe meeting for coffees, going to the movies or taking picnic lunches to beauty spots might be nicer than the hostility and selfishness you are showing now.

Ok, so with her recent marriage issues, have you been there for her?

TBH you sound like me ex best friend. We were friends since we were 17, I grew up and she didn't. She hated it that I didn't drink anymore, said I had changed. My reply was yes, I've grown up.

It sounds to me like your friend was aware she had an issue with drink and so she stopped. My sister is a bit like you, loves a drink and so when I went on a massive health kick she got all preachy. Telling me it was boring to hang around with people who eat salad and don't drink. I told her the only people who find non drinkers boring are people who have issues with alcohol and want everyone around them to be drinking so they don't feel they are the ones with a problem. Personally, the thought of spending a whole weekend in bars and clubs is my idea of hell. Did you have anything else arranged, like sight seeing, or shoppping. Or was it all centred round getting pissed. I find drunk people beyond boring and irritating.

Her husband is aware she is not drinking so I don't blame him for not being massively keen on her going away with a pisshead.....although ibv if she really wanted to go then of course she should. She probably doesnt want to go at all, it's just easier for her to say he doesnt want her to, you don't sound like the sort of person who makes stuff like this easy. Don't go round there. She doesn't want to go, she has refunded you the money so just let it be.

That or he cares about his wife who went to him and asked for support to stop drinking and knows what a selfish bad influence you are on her.