Friend has cancelled on me last minute

I don't believe she meets up with the friend regularly though so if she is cancelling it will be a big disappointment.
I don't dispute not being able to stop is classed as a problem. That's why I don't go out drinking much as I know I'll end up with a major hangover.

If it's "hard to stop"...then you have an alcohol problem. Binge drinking is an issue.
If you (or anyone else) can't limit themselves, it's an issue.

You can have a good night and catch up with friends WITHOUT getting vomit-in-the-street drunk!

OP says she's out every weekend to let her hair down.
So it's certainly not a lack of opportunity and a hankering for her drinking days...

I think this is a teenager who was using their mum's account from the beginning, and has now changed their username. Go and get your homework done, silly boy / girl.

I also thought it was incredibly aware of the friend to cover the entire cost.

Most people can handle their drink by their 40s and are not vomiting in the street, making a spectacle of themselves and in need of nursemaiding home. It's just sad, immature behaviour, forgivable in teenagers but not fully fledged adults. I say that as someone who is far from teetotal.

Whatever!

She do this everytime though? Sometimes you just need a good drink and sometimes you misjudge your limit. Once you get the drink in you it can be hard to stop. I've usually had a good night even when vomiting and good to meet friends that you don't often see.

There's a difference between going out for a drink, and ending up staying for 2 or 3, and getting so hammered that you vomit in the street and need help getting home.

Just rewritten your post to help you out OP.

“Just posting here to say how amazing my friend is. We had a planned weekend away, sharing costs, but due to a family problem she has had to cancel. She has paid me for everything – yes everything – so that I am not out of pocket; even though she obviously has much more important things to think about than me. I hope I am a good friend to her but sometimes I think ‘what did I do to deserve such kindness?’”

I did as I haven't read the full thread but even so, who hasn't vomited before? It happens. I miss my drinking days. I don't get the opportunities very much now, although I don't miss the hangovers.

Did you miss the part where she said she vomits in the street and needs to be put in a taxi?

And yes OP, we know it’s you commenting under a different name

Where does she say she gets in a state? Sometimes it's difficult to stop drinking and get the balance right. She sounds like she just wants to have a good time, not such a crime?

There’s letting your hair down, and there’s getting yourself in such a state that you cannot look after yourself and you ruin other people’s nights because they then have to look after you. I think it’s incredibly selfish behaviour to expect other people to have to deal with someone in that state.

Thanks so much for replying, it's been baffling me! All clear now, thank you 😊 🙏🏼

Bit harsh. She sounds a good friend and wanting to let her hair down. Understandably if married.

Yep, I think she's run off to get blind drunk with her younger ''friends'' whilst chatting up random men to buy her drinks and believing all the compliments they throw at her are genuine.

OP, you come across as so insecure that you measure your self worth in how many random men will buy you drinks, and that a good night out involves copious amounts of alcohol and throwing up.

Your friend seems to have - RIGHTLY - outgrown your behaviour a long time ago, but you still refuse to see it.
Stop trying to drag her down to your level.

You're 42 years old, OP. although I'm sure you believe you look much younger.
Is there a reason why you can't go on holiday or spend time with your husband???

She’s probably in the pub with her husbands mates, cramping their style.

You don’t sound like a nice person, I wouldn’t want to go with you either.

I think the OP must have got bored and buggered off

A reverse is when a poster describes the situation from the other party’s point of view, instead of their own, to see whether readers would agree with that version. It’s a way of checking whether they’re being unfair, biased, or missing something.

Why people do it

• To see if the “other side” sounds more reasonable than their own stance
• To test whether they’re being unreasonable without admitting it outright
• To get honest reactions without people being influenced by the OP’s emotions
• Sometimes to highlight how ridiculous the other person’s behaviour is by showing how it would look if they were the one posting

Readers then respond to that version, and the OP can see whether the friend’s feelings are justified.

There are lots of piss heads in the town centre, perhaps you could hang out with them.

She wasn’t a friend, she was a drinking buddy, she’s outgrown going out and pissing it up, she’s outgrown you.
Find another drinking buddy.

I'm more concerned that you mentioned having children and yet you're out (on the piss by the sound of it) every weekend?

What about time with your kids and husband?

Genuinely, get to therapy and work out what you're running from. I suspect there's a lot of projection and some underlying issues with disliking men...as you seem to have a real issue with her husband in particular, rather than accepting she is 42 and weekends doing DIY with hubby and going round charity shops seems a very 'normal' weekend!

Whilst there's no age limit on fun or drinking...your behaviour sounds problematic.
You said you don't "do anything" yet accept drinks from men...have you not heard of spiking?
You throw up in the street.

To be honest, I suspect your friend has had the realisation that her children are off to Uni ..thus she is no longer 'responsible' for children..yet on your nights out, it seems that YOU are the liability and need babysitting because you get in a drunken state.
Maybe she's tired of that dynamic.
Maybe she wants to "let her hair down" too, but with another adult who has self-control and can limit themselves.

She's been a decent friend to you by making sure you got home safe the time you were too drunk to do that yourself.

But I think it's time for YOU to grow up and act more responsibly.

You can still go on the break away, take a book and see the sights.

I'm younger than you and couldn't think of anything worse than ayia nappa and afterparties!!

A woman in her 40’s, who goes out drinking every weekend, and cheats on her significantly younger husband is fucking tragic 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣