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If you are fully supporting DC through uni - how much is is it really costing?

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QuandryQuaint · 07/09/2026 11:19

As title really. DH has got a big promotion and we are looking at whether it will be possible to fully support our DC going to uni without any loans. If you are fully funding your DC would you please share what this is actually costing you per year? Assuming not in London.
Fees : £10k ish per year
Accommodation?
Basic living costs? - food, study texts/equipment, basic clothing.

Just trying to get an ideal if this is even feasible for us.
Thanks

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NullaEffugium · 09/09/2026 23:58

We saved from pregnancy onwards. I was so angry when tuition was tripled overnight and then when maintenance grants were scrapped. It made it very difficult to fund their UG degrees.

WindsorGreatPark · 09/09/2026 23:26

Pioneerofaerodynamics · 09/09/2026 22:15

27k a year is only a few k under my entire annual salary. This really isn't the norm over here unless you're very well-off or in the top % of earners, of which there seem to be many on here.

It is the norm for the annual cost of going to uni in UK though, unless you are able to stay at home. Fees + accommodation + subsistence is around that. The discussion is about how that is funded.

AllJoyAndNoFun · 09/09/2026 23:25

SerenaCat93 · 09/09/2026 20:38

What's the point in a student flat if you still have to commute to uni?

um because you don’t have to live with your parents which, dare I say, affords you certain “freedoms” that you might appreciate as a young person.

Ellesatree · 09/09/2026 23:10

Current loans are designed so that the majority will pay them off. Many paying much more than they took out, especially mid-earners like teachers or social workers taking a full loan.
We give a weekly amount (on top of accommodation, circa 10k) nowhere near 3 figures and only during weeks DC isn't at home.

Pioneerofaerodynamics · 09/09/2026 22:15

MissAmbrosia · 09/09/2026 22:03

I'm agog at the UK costs. My dd's tuition in Belgium was 850 euros for UG and 1000 for Masters. Rent and bills roughly 600 euros per month - though she could have lived at home - and I paid her phone. She had a pt job to cover the rest and has graduated with no debt at all! I did sub her a bit for spends and deliveroo but 27k per year - OMG.

27k a year is only a few k under my entire annual salary. This really isn't the norm over here unless you're very well-off or in the top % of earners, of which there seem to be many on here.

MissAmbrosia · 09/09/2026 22:03

I'm agog at the UK costs. My dd's tuition in Belgium was 850 euros for UG and 1000 for Masters. Rent and bills roughly 600 euros per month - though she could have lived at home - and I paid her phone. She had a pt job to cover the rest and has graduated with no debt at all! I did sub her a bit for spends and deliveroo but 27k per year - OMG.

NullaEffugium · 09/09/2026 20:49

SerenaCat93 · 09/09/2026 20:38

What's the point in a student flat if you still have to commute to uni?

Many Unis in the UK have a student housing crisis. Student flats within walking distance were £1250/mo for 1 bedroom in a flat share for one of my DC. So they got a private flat share a 45min commute away but £1k/mo cheaper.

Didimum · 09/09/2026 20:39

I think it’s silly not to take out the loan. You’d save more money just paying their loan repayments for them afterwards.

SerenaCat93 · 09/09/2026 20:38

NullaEffugium · 09/09/2026 17:16

Around that. The £800/mo included sports clubs, lab fees, transport (their student flat was a commute away), dentist/eyes, prescriptions, etc

What's the point in a student flat if you still have to commute to uni?

FeelingOldOldOld · 09/09/2026 19:31

josays · 09/09/2026 09:11

So approx £10k fees, say £10k accommodation, so £10k spending?

Over £800 a month spending money, even spreading it across 12 months? 😲 Or did they save a lot from that?

Just trying to do the sums for my eldest who is starting university soon and I must admit I'd assumed they'd manage on half that amount outside fees and rent. Am I deluded?

My eldest has just graduated, and we used to give him £300 per month (term time) for living expenses (food / bills / spending money). He didn’t go out drinking much at all, but we used to occasionally subsidise trips with his club, and travel back home, and I would buy him clothes / shoes if needed (as I used to before). He lived frugally at uni (shopped in Lidl), and told me he used to spend maybe £30 on food each week (self-catering). He worked each summer, and had a part-time job in year 3 - which funded holidays with friends and ‘luxury’ items. I think living frugally and budgeting is a really important part of the student experience!

Autumnallaround · 09/09/2026 18:42

LathkillDale · 09/09/2026 18:33

Dove Dale was always my favourite; but it seems overcrowded now, so have to go for Lathkill Dale; but I also like Beresford Dale!

I’m guessing you went to school in Sheffield?

Edited

@LathkillDale Stockport. 😁

LathkillDale · 09/09/2026 18:33

Autumnallaround · 09/09/2026 10:49

@LathkillDale i did my GCSE Geography coursework on Lathkilldale in 1994 😊 haven't seen that word in a long time!

Dove Dale was always my favourite; but it seems overcrowded now, so have to go for Lathkill Dale; but I also like Beresford Dale!

I’m guessing you went to school in Sheffield?

NullaEffugium · 09/09/2026 17:16

josays · 09/09/2026 09:11

So approx £10k fees, say £10k accommodation, so £10k spending?

Over £800 a month spending money, even spreading it across 12 months? 😲 Or did they save a lot from that?

Just trying to do the sums for my eldest who is starting university soon and I must admit I'd assumed they'd manage on half that amount outside fees and rent. Am I deluded?

Around that. The £800/mo included sports clubs, lab fees, transport (their student flat was a commute away), dentist/eyes, prescriptions, etc

LathkillDale · 09/09/2026 17:10

redskyAtNigh · 09/09/2026 17:05

Why not at least work in the summer though? For most courses there is 3 months of summer holiday. We provide DD with a roof over her head and food and toiletries (and lifts) over the summer; she works to cover her social life and a holiday with friends. No impact on her studies and she appreciates the money she has worked all the more. Plus future employers will appreciate the work experience.

The person I am thinking of is doing a vocational course, and I have absolutely no doubt, they will be able to get a job after graduation!

redskyAtNigh · 09/09/2026 17:05

LathkillDale · 09/09/2026 10:41

A day school! I don’t know how much the fees are now, because I don’t ask.

As for teaching DC the value of money, I don’t consider making DC take out student loans and working through university is the best way to do it. Why saddle them with loans at all, if you don’t have to?

We couldn’t afford to support DC fully at university, but we paid £6,000 a year for their accommodation and let them live rent free at home in the holidays. We preferred them to get a first than a 2:2, because they had to work part time. DD2’s health wasn’t up to work part time anyway.

Why not at least work in the summer though? For most courses there is 3 months of summer holiday. We provide DD with a roof over her head and food and toiletries (and lifts) over the summer; she works to cover her social life and a holiday with friends. No impact on her studies and she appreciates the money she has worked all the more. Plus future employers will appreciate the work experience.

Exhausteddog · 09/09/2026 13:00

Peonies12 · 09/09/2026 11:38

Why would you pay for everything? Get a loan, they will never pay it back then it gets written off. You are literally spending money that they could get for free. Save your money to give them for a property instead.

I imagine there are a lot (possibly majority) of students with some level of parental (or grandparent) financial support. If you look at the loan figures, even the maximum loan wont cover rent and living expenses in a lot of areas.

josays · 09/09/2026 11:45

Peonies12 · 09/09/2026 11:38

Why would you pay for everything? Get a loan, they will never pay it back then it gets written off. You are literally spending money that they could get for free. Save your money to give them for a property instead.

But with the longer repayment term now, most students WILL pay it off. And it's definitely not free money! Although interest rate being set at RPI does make it a cheap loan compared with others.

Peonies12 · 09/09/2026 11:38

Why would you pay for everything? Get a loan, they will never pay it back then it gets written off. You are literally spending money that they could get for free. Save your money to give them for a property instead.

Makingsenseofitall · 09/09/2026 11:33

josays · 09/09/2026 09:25

Thanks. Is that £120 a week term time only or all year round?

I only do term time. But one of mine no longer really has holidays so it adds up tbh…..

Autumnallaround · 09/09/2026 10:49

@LathkillDale i did my GCSE Geography coursework on Lathkilldale in 1994 😊 haven't seen that word in a long time!

Hoppinggreen · 09/09/2026 10:43

Day schools near us (North) are usually around £20-25K per year now)

LathkillDale · 09/09/2026 10:41

Autumnallaround · 09/09/2026 08:17

£25k?

No, more like £45k - £60kpa for boarders. Uni is affordable by comparison.

A day school! I don’t know how much the fees are now, because I don’t ask.

As for teaching DC the value of money, I don’t consider making DC take out student loans and working through university is the best way to do it. Why saddle them with loans at all, if you don’t have to?

We couldn’t afford to support DC fully at university, but we paid £6,000 a year for their accommodation and let them live rent free at home in the holidays. We preferred them to get a first than a 2:2, because they had to work part time. DD2’s health wasn’t up to work part time anyway.

Hoppinggreen · 09/09/2026 10:27

DD has actually taken the tuition loans and on top of that it costs us around £15k per year
She was at private until 6th form so we were paying that anyway and for the 3 years before Uni (Gap Year) we put away the cost of school fees for Uni so its not too painful
It will be similar for DS, although i think he will go to a local Uni so costs will be lower if he is living at home

NotSmallButFunSize · 09/09/2026 10:24

clary · 07/09/2026 22:46

Will he get only the min loan? ie is your HH income above about £65k (which I know if not that much if two parents are working FT)?

You (and he) may need to factor this in to choices about unis. Some are much more ££ for accommodation and other aspects. Obvs a further-flung one will cost more in travel. As already noted, some unis offer much cheaper accommodation. Places like Leicester, Leeds, Sheffield, Newcastle have cheaper options (not in any way an exclusive list there, just some ideas).

Or he may be better going to a local uni. If a degree is not contact-heavy this may only require attendance 2-3 days a week. We are in the East Mids and in striking distance of Leics, Lboro, Derby, Notts, Sheffield, Brum, Stoke. You may have a similar list of possible local unis (and remember lots of big cities have two or more unis - Nottingham and NTU, Sheffield and Sheff Hallam etc).

We live in the same place 😁

He will only get minimum loan but as you say, doesn't mean we have loads of money!

It feels a shame doesn't it, I feel like they get so much out of moving away to uni but it seems so unaffordable

Exhausteddog · 09/09/2026 10:21

josays · 09/09/2026 09:25

Thanks. Is that £120 a week term time only or all year round?

I know you were asking another poster, but we give DD around £400/month living expenses while she's at uni, but less (or she works) during the holidays. When she's at home im buying food/toiletries etc so she doesnt need to cover that.
Bear in mind university terms are a lot shorter than school. Oxbridge I think has 3 x 8 week terms.
Start in mid-late september. My own DD finished her 2nd year in mid May, although she stayed in the house until June. In a private house obviously rent is due for all 12 months whether they are there or not , first year generally students are in halls which have a shorter contract, iirc ours was 41 weeks.

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