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Normalized · 07/09/2026 02:03

Recently on YouTube the Oxford Union Channel released a debate titled this house believes Israel never really wanted peace. I'm not going to go through the arguments back and forth as anyone can watch it, however what's really annoyed me is that's not a single debater, including on the Israel side, mentioned who actually started the war.

There was a lot of talk whether Israel did truly ever want peace or not, but nobody actually spoke of the fact that Israel never started any wars. It was the Arabs and Palestinians who started first the Civil War in 1947, then Israel's war of independence in 1948. I would think the onus for peace is on the party who actually started all the wars.

It's such a weird debate to pull up Israel for 'never truly wanting peace' while completely ignoring the role of the other side who actually started all the wars.

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Normalized · 07/09/2026 13:04

First of all, I'm not going to get into the debate over whether Israel truly wanted peace or not. That was the subject of the Oxford Union debate and it's not the point of this thread.

What annoys me is that this debate came after another Oxford Union debate about whether Israel is a greater threat to regional or world peace than Iran. I don't even remember the exact wording of the motion, but the premise itself is so ridiculous that you have to wonder whether there are actually intellectuals at Oxford anymore or just students smoking pot.

Whatever you want to say about Israel, when Israel is left in peace it isn't a threat to the world at large. Iran on the other hand funds terrorist organisations throughout the Middle East, works to destabilise the region and has a regime that openly chants "Death to America." Yet somehow we're having debates about whether Israel is the greater threat to world peace.

But that's not even my main point.

What really bothered me about the "Israel never truly wanted peace" debate is that nobody, including the people arguing on the Israeli side, seemed to think it was relevant to mention who actually started the war.

The UN voted in 1947 to partition Mandatory Palestine into two states, one Jewish and one Arab. The idea was that both peoples had a claim to the land and would each get a state. There was no plan at that point to throw the Arab population out of their homes or create what would later be called the Nakba. It was basically a question of which flag would be flying over which part of the land.

The Jewish side accepted the partition plan. The Arabs rejected it and started a civil war against the Jews.

Then, when Israel declared independence in 1948, the surrounding Arab countries invaded Israel and started the war of independence.

So yes, during that war many Arabs who would later be known as Palestinians lost their homes and became refugees. Exactly why each person left is a separate discussion. Some were expelled, some fled the fighting, some left for other reasons. I'm not trying to get into that here.

My point is much simpler: The Arabs started the war.

And if you start a war, surely the responsibility for stopping that war and making peace lies primarily with the side that started it.

Instead, we have somehow reached a point where Israel is constantly being asked why it hasn't made peace, while the fact that the other side started the conflict in the first place is treated as almost irrelevant.

Israel didn't start the Civil War in 1947. Israel didn't start the 1948 war. The Arab side did.
And the fact that Israel survived, became stronger and is now capable of defending itself doesn't somehow change who started the war.

The victim becoming stronger doesn't turn the victim into the aggressor.

If you start a war against someone and lose, you don't get to spend the next 80 years blaming the person you attacked for the fact that the war is still going.

The responsibility, at the very least the majority of the responsibility, should be on the people who started it to end it.

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likelysuspect · 07/09/2026 13:03

Didimag48 · 07/09/2026 12:57

Read your History! Arabs, Jews and Christians lived peacefully under the Ottoman Empire.
Zionism rose in the West but was not favoured by the Jewish National Council.
Palestinians welcomed Jews from Eastern Europe after WWII.
Read about ALL the massacres committed by the "settlers" against the Palestinians after the creation of "Israel"! eg the Naqba!
Gaza was and is the largest concentration camp since WII.
Israel has attacked and is attacking hospitals, schools, universities, mosques and CHURCHES!
I used to believe in "Israel" until I went to Jordan and learned the true history.

Its not quite as black and white as that, there is far more nuance.

PinguMoll · 07/09/2026 13:03

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Twiglets1 · 07/09/2026 13:00

LuckyHazelFox · 07/09/2026 12:58

For one minute I had to check I wasn't on the CITME board.

Haha probably a name changer from there.

LuckyHazelFox · 07/09/2026 12:58

Didimag48 · 07/09/2026 12:57

Read your History! Arabs, Jews and Christians lived peacefully under the Ottoman Empire.
Zionism rose in the West but was not favoured by the Jewish National Council.
Palestinians welcomed Jews from Eastern Europe after WWII.
Read about ALL the massacres committed by the "settlers" against the Palestinians after the creation of "Israel"! eg the Naqba!
Gaza was and is the largest concentration camp since WII.
Israel has attacked and is attacking hospitals, schools, universities, mosques and CHURCHES!
I used to believe in "Israel" until I went to Jordan and learned the true history.

For one minute I had to check I wasn't on the CITME board.

Didimag48 · 07/09/2026 12:57

Read your History! Arabs, Jews and Christians lived peacefully under the Ottoman Empire.
Zionism rose in the West but was not favoured by the Jewish National Council.
Palestinians welcomed Jews from Eastern Europe after WWII.
Read about ALL the massacres committed by the "settlers" against the Palestinians after the creation of "Israel"! eg the Naqba!
Gaza was and is the largest concentration camp since WII.
Israel has attacked and is attacking hospitals, schools, universities, mosques and CHURCHES!
I used to believe in "Israel" until I went to Jordan and learned the true history.

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 07/09/2026 12:56

PinguMoll · 07/09/2026 12:40

And Egypt, Syria, Tunisia, Lybia, Iraq, Jordan, Bosnia and Kosovo...

This list gkes on and on and on

Yet people support mass immigration of Muslims into every European country.

What could possibly happen when the Muslims become the majority here? Hmm?

And its only getting worse as younger generations of Brits cannot access social housing, cannot afford private rent, cannot afford utilities, cannot get GPs or dentist and so are choosing not to have children. Whilst the immigrant communities are happy to live in multigenerational homes and quite frankly most women don't have a choice in having child after child.

And Labour naively seem to think that will continue to vote Labour,

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 07/09/2026 12:42

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/09/2026 12:24

Oh I know. I am definitely not glorifying the behaviour of the crazy extremism. I only care about the innocent people. The Christian people in Nigeria and the Congo being slaughtered is barbarous by Muslim extremists. Sudan had a river of bodies.
I would be terrified to live anywhere near the conflict’s, wars.

A reminder of the significance of 9/11 - this was the date that the Ottoman Muslim army was repelled from Vienna by a coalition of Christian forces turning back the Islamic conquest of Europe.

Also a reminder that in the last few year MI6 has stopped over a score of Islamic terrorist threats.

PinguMoll · 07/09/2026 12:40

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 07/09/2026 12:18

Lebanon - a Christian state that welcomed Palestinian refugees when Muslim countries refused. Only to have them turn on them and massacre them.

And Egypt, Syria, Tunisia, Lybia, Iraq, Jordan, Bosnia and Kosovo...

This list gkes on and on and on

Yet people support mass immigration of Muslims into every European country.

What could possibly happen when the Muslims become the majority here? Hmm?

And its only getting worse as younger generations of Brits cannot access social housing, cannot afford private rent, cannot afford utilities, cannot get GPs or dentist and so are choosing not to have children. Whilst the immigrant communities are happy to live in multigenerational homes and quite frankly most women don't have a choice in having child after child.

To be annoyed nobody mentioned who started the war
likelysuspect · 07/09/2026 12:31

DisforDarkChocolate · 07/09/2026 07:59

I agree, creating Israel without creating Palestine too was always going to create war.

There wasnt a palestine.

There was people's land for sure and it should have been done more fairly to avoid people losing livelihooods and homes etc

But Jewish people have been enslaved and ostracised and decimated for all time, going back to the Egyptian pharo periods, including from their own land, from European countries, from African countries.

Its an unusual situation but not one that has any comparables to other groups.

LuckyHazelFox · 07/09/2026 12:27

likelysuspect · 07/09/2026 12:23

Oh excellent, thats on my bingo card, let me tick it off

Erm, The British caused all this - tick.

It was all that Balfour's fault!

likelysuspect · 07/09/2026 12:26

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 07/09/2026 10:13

And that is why the flags for Palestine are flown all over Ireland.

Palestinian flags are flown because a lot of shallow thinking people have this vague romantic ideas Gaza with no knowledge of the horrors for the people living there under Hamas rule. And because the ‘Free Palestine’ movement in the west is funded, supported and encouraged by Iran to destabilise the west.

You just need to look at groups like ‘Queers for Palestine’ to see how detached from the reality of Gaza they are.

Edited

Exactly, a bit like Amercians who romanticised the IRA and supported them for a lot of the last century, being connected to their muvvaland etc. Yet any other terrorist group would be bombed out of existance.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/09/2026 12:24

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 07/09/2026 12:18

Lebanon - a Christian state that welcomed Palestinian refugees when Muslim countries refused. Only to have them turn on them and massacre them.

Oh I know. I am definitely not glorifying the behaviour of the crazy extremism. I only care about the innocent people. The Christian people in Nigeria and the Congo being slaughtered is barbarous by Muslim extremists. Sudan had a river of bodies.
I would be terrified to live anywhere near the conflict’s, wars.

likelysuspect · 07/09/2026 12:23

Error404FucksNotFound · 07/09/2026 05:57

You need to go back further than that to properly understand. This is a region with a looooong history.

Also, probably look at the role the British played in fucking things up then walking away, whistling innocently. As always.

Oh excellent, thats on my bingo card, let me tick it off

Erm, The British caused all this - tick.

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 07/09/2026 12:18

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/09/2026 12:01

Or rather, their demand (singular) met: the non-existance of the Jewish state and for a Jihadi state to be built upon its ruins. For many, it's hard to take the Palestinians seriously when they don't take themselves seriously.
Israel will be expanding across Gaza if allowed and parts of Lebanon built upon the ruins.
I feel for the people in Israel, Lebanon and Palestine who just want to live their life, without the constant terror.
Christian places of worship are being destroyed in Israel too. The Christian people who have ties to the land for centuries are being beaten and intimidated.
Settlers are expanding, they’re not very kind or compassionate nor are their dogs.
It is all horrible.
People have different interpretations of when and how it started, we know that the current conflict started in October the 7th.

Lebanon - a Christian state that welcomed Palestinian refugees when Muslim countries refused. Only to have them turn on them and massacre them.

DeterminedRat · 07/09/2026 12:15

Dopop · 07/09/2026 11:57

Did a memo go out about using this stupid phrase in relation to the conflict in Gaza or what? Why does everyone say this and not what they mean?

I didn’t even realise “I think we all know why” was a phrase, let alone some phrase that everyone is apparently using in relation to Gaza. News to me.

If you want to call people antisemites just do it, have the courage of your convictions and say what you mean instead of this pathetic nonsense.

If I wanted to call someone an antisemite, I’d call them an antisemite. I just don’t accept the premise that “I think we all know why” is some universally understood code phrase for it. The whole point about antisemitism mutating to fit its era is that it doesn’t always announce itself explicitly.

I didn’t even realise “I think we all know why” was a phrase, let alone some phrase that everyone is apparently using in relation to Gaza. News to me.

That's interesting, it's frequent usage must be absorbed subconsciously. It's like when racists say “There are certain groups you’re not allowed to criticize.” or “People will call me racist for saying this.” or “We all know who I’m talking about.” blah blah blah. If you are so sure about what you are saying then stand up and say it with your chest.

You say you didn't mean because people are antisemitic with your twee little phrase, then actually we don't all know why. Why is it that Gaza has gotten so much attention?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/09/2026 12:01

Or rather, their demand (singular) met: the non-existance of the Jewish state and for a Jihadi state to be built upon its ruins. For many, it's hard to take the Palestinians seriously when they don't take themselves seriously.
Israel will be expanding across Gaza if allowed and parts of Lebanon built upon the ruins.
I feel for the people in Israel, Lebanon and Palestine who just want to live their life, without the constant terror.
Christian places of worship are being destroyed in Israel too. The Christian people who have ties to the land for centuries are being beaten and intimidated.
Settlers are expanding, they’re not very kind or compassionate nor are their dogs.
It is all horrible.
People have different interpretations of when and how it started, we know that the current conflict started in October the 7th.

Dopop · 07/09/2026 11:57

DeterminedRat · 07/09/2026 11:10

I think we all know why.

Did a memo go out about using this stupid phrase in relation to the conflict in Gaza or what? Why does everyone say this and not what they mean? If you want to call people antisemites just do it, have the courage of your convictions and say what you mean instead of this pathetic nonsense.

Did a memo go out about using this stupid phrase in relation to the conflict in Gaza or what? Why does everyone say this and not what they mean?

I didn’t even realise “I think we all know why” was a phrase, let alone some phrase that everyone is apparently using in relation to Gaza. News to me.

If you want to call people antisemites just do it, have the courage of your convictions and say what you mean instead of this pathetic nonsense.

If I wanted to call someone an antisemite, I’d call them an antisemite. I just don’t accept the premise that “I think we all know why” is some universally understood code phrase for it. The whole point about antisemitism mutating to fit its era is that it doesn’t always announce itself explicitly.

Dopop · 07/09/2026 11:49

Comesround · 07/09/2026 11:16

I think that tends to be how people groups operate - being long established on the land to the point that they share much more than the land. A lot of the time we don't really know where they were before. The name we give to them doesn't matter very much. It really only matters that they are a community now, with rights, vulnerabilities, needs and aspirations. We ignore that at the risk of our own humanity.

And what about other minority ethnic groups in the Middle East crying out for a homeland of their own, who have never been offered one in a month of Sundays — Druze, Kurds, Alawites, Rif Amazigh, etc. — and who are continually ignored by the international community? Why do they never get the headlines, the column inches, the NGO press releases?

I think many people internationally would have more sympathy for the Palestinian people if, alongside those “rights, vulnerabilities, needs and aspirations”, you also added the word “responsibilities”. Like the responsibility not to murder, rape, maim and capture innocent civilians in order to have their demands met.

Or rather, their demand (singular) met: the non-existance of the Jewish state and for a Jihadi state to be built upon its ruins. For many, it's hard to take the Palestinians seriously when they don't take themselves seriously.

Chrysanthemumsinpots · 07/09/2026 11:48

JHound · 07/09/2026 11:41

I am not sure it is conveniently forgotten but not relevant to the topic of the debate and OP.

You don’t think the treatment of Jews (and Christian’s) in Iran is relevant to Iran’s attempted colonisation of Israel (via Hamas)?

JHound · 07/09/2026 11:41

Lentilcakes · 07/09/2026 10:43

Conveniently forgot that Jews were driven out from Syria, Iran etc.

I am not sure it is conveniently forgotten but not relevant to the topic of the debate and OP.

OneWiseEagle · 07/09/2026 11:16

GeneralPeter · 07/09/2026 10:05

These sorts of parallels never work perfectly. But we can try the thought experiment.

I think Ireland pre-independence is probably the closest we can get.

The land was ruled by another power (Britain). Most Irish had left, either because of poor conditions or oppression, and now constituted a big diaspora population. So far, the parallel holds.

Imagine, in, say 1900, a horrific pogrom by Protestant extremists in North America of Irish-descent Catholics, which had killed over half of the world’s population of Irish people, many many millions over a few years. Let’s say the same had happened to a lesser degree across Europe too, and that many European rulers agreed with the pogromists.

There might have been a movement that said: we Irish aren’t safe except in our own homeland. That homeland should be Ireland, which should be freed of British control and become independent. We Irish will go there to escape persecution and build a country.

If Britain, with UN endorsement, had left the land and created an Irish state, partitioning the land, for two communities.

Should that Irish state have been tolerated?

If the northern Irish Protestants had joined with surrounding European states to invade and destroy the new Republic of Ireland, would that have been justified?

If that attack had failed and Ireland continued to exist, as an Irish state, what should we feel about it and them now?

Edited

Well, what do you think? Plus add a few hundred years into the timelines

Comesround · 07/09/2026 11:16

Dopop · 07/09/2026 11:02

Today's Palestinians are a loose conglomartion of Levantine peoples whose ancestry includes long-established inhabitants of the region as well as people who migrated into it from other parts of the Arab world — such as Egypt, the Arabian Peninsula, Syria and Iraq — and whose modern Arab identity developed through centuries of Arabization.

But the concept of a distinct Palestinian national identity is a modern political invention, cooked up by the Palestinian Liberation Organisation (PLO) and the Soviet Union.

Edited

I think that tends to be how people groups operate - being long established on the land to the point that they share much more than the land. A lot of the time we don't really know where they were before. The name we give to them doesn't matter very much. It really only matters that they are a community now, with rights, vulnerabilities, needs and aspirations. We ignore that at the risk of our own humanity.

DeterminedRat · 07/09/2026 11:10

Dopop · 07/09/2026 10:50

More Israeli Jews were killed in the 1948 war than Arabs. The Arabs being the aggressors, FYI.

They could have just, I don't know, accepted half of the loaf as it was offered to them. The Jews were extremely happy to receive half and create a state in their ancestral homeland. But no, the Arabs had to launch a war of annihilation because they wanted the whole lot. You reap what you sow.

Nakba means catastrophe. But the man who coined the phrase - Constantin Zureiq - didn't mean that innocent people had been displaced from their homes. He meant that the Arabs had lost the war they started.

What was happening at the same time? The partition of India and Pakistan.What's your take on this event? Death toll of that was approximately 1 million, and roughly 14 to 15 million people were displaced during the chaotic split. Compared to 700,000 (UN's figures) Arabs?

Why does this conflict receive so much attention despite not even coming close to being among the ten deadliest conflicts of the past 50 years?

I think we all know why.

And just for historical context, Jews are the only nation in history ever to have established a nation state in the land, and the only nation never to have lacked a presence there. Jews pray towards Jerusalem, and have done so for about 2,500 years. That's why.

I think we all know why.

Did a memo go out about using this stupid phrase in relation to the conflict in Gaza or what? Why does everyone say this and not what they mean? If you want to call people antisemites just do it, have the courage of your convictions and say what you mean instead of this pathetic nonsense.

Dopop · 07/09/2026 11:02

Spidermandino · 07/09/2026 09:14

The Palestinians that are there are the Caanites that became Jewish, Christian, Muslim, Atheist.

The same way the Christian white English people in the UK are not Middle Eastern just because they follow a Middle Eastern religion. They are the native white people who changed their religion.

Today's Palestinians are a loose conglomartion of Levantine peoples whose ancestry includes long-established inhabitants of the region as well as people who migrated into it from other parts of the Arab world — such as Egypt, the Arabian Peninsula, Syria and Iraq — and whose modern Arab identity developed through centuries of Arabization.

But the concept of a distinct Palestinian national identity is a modern political invention, cooked up by the Palestinian Liberation Organisation (PLO) and the Soviet Union.

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