AIBU to be woken up at the weekend?

Around 6 at the weekend and 7 in the week

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Me and my millennial siblings mostly with small children, 8.30-9am ish, but obviously try not to wake anyone before they’re ready in general! Wait til they appear. My retired boomer parents, definitely after 10am if not more like 11am or noon. We let them lie on on holidays together and just get on with our morning outing.

Surely you chat about plans the next day?

We stayed with a friend over the summer and one of the things we chatted about each evening was what we were planning on doing the next day and what time this would be.
So we'd have one day we were only planning on going down to the beach after lunch and wander down about 11am. And another where we had something booked at 9:30am so were up by 8:30am.
None of us are early risers naturally, so that would effect our plans too.
We did once stay with a family whose natural rising was about 5am and would all be asleep by 9pm, so we planned things earlier, and would be up and out by 7am one some days.

I wouldn't expect them to keep off doing their normal things after 9am though, nor would I expect children to be creeping around to accommodate me in their own home.

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I’d be very annoyed if my DH woke me up before I was ready. I used to like to stay in bed til 9am, so huge lie in, imo, but recently, I rarely make it past 6, usually lots earlier.

If someone is deliberately waking you up for no good reason ie you don’t have dc or it’s your day for a lie in, I’d be furious.

This are they doing a Reveille or just getting up?

Depends on whether I'm sharing a bathroom or not. 7am at the latest usually. I love early mornings when I'm away.

It depends on the weekends plans. If you are going our for the day on activities and it has timings, then any time can reasonable.

I wouldn’t wake anyone up, they’re not a child and I’m not their mum.

But in terms of what time to decide to get up, it would depend entirely on plans- and also how many bathrooms there are in the accommodation.

What do you mean by 'woken up'? Someone deliberately waking you at a time of their choosing or just house noise waking you up.

Why aren't you telling the full story 🤣

Who is waking who up, and why? Unless there was a very good reason I would not expect someone to wake me up on a weekend away with friends. If there is a very good reason to be up at a certain time eg planned outing with a set, agreed time, then everyone can use the alarm on their phones. There is no need to wake anyone up.

What do you mean by being woken up?

As in they come into your room and shake you awake - so intentionally wake you up?

Or if they are just making normal noise and so unintentionally waking you up?

And what were the plans for the day?
And was there a rough time of when you should leave?

We're going to need a lot more info.

If it’s not light outside it’s too early.
If it’s lunchtime it’s too late.

I’m a morning person and get pissed off at people still asleep at 9am.
My friend is an owl. She gets pissed off if I disturb making coffee at 8am.

As everyone else has said …it depends.

I wouldn't wake another adult, they wake when they're ready. I also wouldn't lie in bed in silence to avoid waking anyone, I wouldn't make any loud noise but I'd get up and have a drink. The time I'd start showering would depend on the time we went to sleep. Up till 2am I'd probably hold out until 9.30. In bed by 11pm I'd be doing normal activities by 8am.

I’m not certain what you are asking.
your question says “Am I being unreasonable to be woken up at the weekend?”
But I don’t think that can be what you mean. How could YOU be unreasonable if someone else work you up?
Do you mean “Is it unreasonable for someone to wake me up at the weekend?” or do you mean “Would it be unreasonable for me to wake someone else up at the weekend?”

Much more information needed!

Are you camping?
Are there young kids/pets?
What plans do you have?
Who is sleeping where, eg is there a couple in the lounge?!
What did you say at bedtime last night-sleep well, see you for x bright and early?!

Surely at some point communication has happened?!

The dogs/kids will probably be up at 6!
The venue opens at 10, so we need to had left by 9. Breakfast at 7.30?
I can’t wait for my lie in-we have no plans tomorrow!

Or do you not speak to each other?

No plans: 10am. Plans: 9am. Earlier if plans are before noon.

What's your AIBU?

I'm 63. Wake with my alarm at 7ish every day although frequently awake before hand. I'd not expect contact from others until after 8 although do text my kids early occasionally.

Depends on your age but in my 50-something circles 9am would be the latest.