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Tummytroublesagain1 · 06/09/2026 15:42

Not after any pearls of wisdom but would be nice to vent

DH is mostly rubbish at DIY but admittedly is shit hot at putting together flat pack furniture

My dad is a joiner so I defer to him when I actually need holes drilling in the wall. I need a curtain pole putting up, so he’s very kindly offered to come this afternoon and put it up for US. The US is the important bit.

DH has just announced that he’s going to the gym - I’m like er no can you wait until later until after dad has been to do the curtain pole. Cue a mini tantrum from a 55 year old man about why can’t I help him instead.

I had to mansplain to him that actually it’s highly inappropriate to be out at the gym when my 76 year old dad comes over to do a job for us.

Send wine and chocolate

honestly it doesn’t warrant a leave the bastard but sometimes I do wonder………

OP posts:
Glamghirl · 06/09/2026 15:47

I get it. I would be mortified. My dad is a joiner too and helps us out a lot, my husband would never leave while he's here doing jobs for us.

Tummytroublesagain1 · 06/09/2026 15:47

risingup · 06/09/2026 15:46

So ?

How old are they anyway? Surely they must be older if your dh (and by extension you) is 55.

Edited

Funny 🤣

OP posts:
risingup · 06/09/2026 15:46

Tummytroublesagain1 · 06/09/2026 15:44

I have twins to look after

So ?

How old are they anyway? Surely they must be older if your dh (and by extension you) is 55.

Tummytroublesagain1 · 06/09/2026 15:46

They would definitely be a little offended if they had arranged a time to come and then my DH went out

OP posts:
SeptemberRains · 06/09/2026 15:45

Will your father need both of you to help put up the pole? Or will he be offended if your husband isn’t there?

LarryForPrimeMinister · 06/09/2026 15:45

Surely you can help your dad? It's a curtain pole hardly difficult?

InterIgnis · 06/09/2026 15:45

I don’t see the problem with him going to the gym here at all.

Tummytroublesagain1 · 06/09/2026 15:44

I have twins to look after

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hoarahloux · 06/09/2026 15:44

Why can't you help your dad?

Why is it highly inappropriate?

I think you're overreacting.

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