Husband opens blinds in baby’s room

I’d want the blinds and windows open every day really.

It shouldn’t really cause that much of a problem - why are you the only one putting her down for a nap, is it because of breastfeeding? Can she be put down for 5 seconds while whoever is putting her down shuts the blind? Can’t he go up and shut the blind before you take her up?

But if he’s doing this as a “fuck you” and refusing to help with naps or shutting the blinds then the blinds aren’t really the biggest issue.

Put your baby down in the cot to do it.
Ask him to close them ready for bedtime at 5pm.
Don't bother making the room super dark for daytime naps you make a rod for your own back usually.
Couldn't he just pull them open and open the window for air and then make them dimmer later on?

Is he generally useless and this is just what's making you most resentful atm

Opening blinds and curtains in each room every morning is completely normal behaviour. I really don't understand why it would be an issue to close them again at nap time. Just put baby in the cot and close the blinds, it can't be that fiddly?

Couldn’t bear blinds/curtains shut all day. Open them all up and open the window. Put the baby down then close them. Don’t see the problem

Why can’t you put the baby down in the cot for the ten seconds it takes to lower the blinds?
This. I can’t fathom how this is an issue. I agree with opening blinds and windows every morning, it’s just part of mould/damp reduction and gets the air circulating.

Get a grip

The blinds should be open and the windows too for at least an hour a day. More this time of year when it’s mild. A shut up room is horrible and stuffy IMO. What kind of blinds do you have? If they’re not toddler safe due to cords maybe an opportunity to upgrade them to something easier like remote control ones.

To certain extent, morning light is good in a bedroom as is opening the window for twenty minutes minimum for air. So he’s not wrong.

But I am intrigued why you have to try to lower the blinds with one hand? Why can’t you put the baby down in the cot for the ten seconds it takes to lower the blinds?

Or if it’s that difficult, ask him or go up and lower the blinds before the morning nap time comes around.

What kind of blinds are they that are so fiddly OP ? I mean venetian blinds are just one tug on a cord to bring down.

I would open the blinds too, it’s just a normal part of switching to daytime mode for many people, I don’t think he’s unreasonable with that impulse.

however your difficulties managing the blinds at the same time as holding the baby are also real and important, so compromise should be made.

my solution would be to get a less fiddly blind/curtains, one without string is safer for a child’s room anyway, so then you can have the benefits of sunlight and dark without anyone struggling.

however in the short term, he should listen to the difficulties you’re having and agree to leave the blinds, or do them for you. Has he tried closing the blinds whilst baby is fussing in his arms?

Can he put the baby down? How old is the baby?

He’s a fucking idiot who is trying to make your life harder.