Husband opens blinds in baby’s room

I never closed the blinds for daytime naps so this wouldn't bother me at all. Closing the blinds at night was always part of our bedtime routine as we said goodbye to the day time and got ready to sleep.

But I think the real issue here is that your husband is ignoring your preferences so you're not unreasonable to be annoyed about that.

It's difficult when you are looking after everyone, and likely full of looking-after-everyone-hormones to meet blank refusal with equal blank refusal back. You have asked nicely many times, and you have explained why, but because it is you who is inconvenienced rather than him (and potentially for other reasons) he will not back down. He doesn't even have to do something, just not do something.
If you can't make it his problem to put the baby down to sleep (obviously you mostly can't) the next best answer is......
Break the Blinds.
No really, I know, but your post hormonal self will thank you for it.
Make it as difficult for him to open the blinds as it is for you to close them. Sometimes you have to speak their language for them to hear you.

YANBU.

It is literally no skin off your husband's nose to just... not open the blinds in the morning. He isn't going to be in the baby's room at all, it's not going to affect him.

However you do go into the baby's room in the day time and have asked him not to do his weird little foible to save you having to mess with the blinds at nap time and he's refusing.

I'd be annoyed too. It's just a small thing but there's no need for him to do it. He's going out of his way to do something that a. Doesnt need doing, b. Causes you to juggle the baby and the blinds, and c. you've asked him not to do.

Find something small that'll piss him off and start doing it; like putting his coat in the wardrobe upstairs every single time he takes it off, or storing his car keys in a drawer in the kitchen every time he puts them down. Once he's had this insignificant niggle for a few days he might be more amenable to not 'helping' with things that don't concern him.

I agree with him, sorry. I couldn't stand to have the blinds shut all day. All blinds and windows are opened every morning for a good few hours here, weather dependant.

I honestly don't understand why you don't just go and close the blinds before you take the toddler up to bed? We're not talking newborn here, surely they're not attached to you 24/7?

If he's opening a window, fair enough but not if he's just opening the curtains and blinds.

I would think that moat posters here do have or dis have multiple small kids at some point.

If your 16 month old is having a nuclear meltdown and is emotional before going up for the nap then 2 things: it's probably too late for the nap, maybe try earlier and secondly, if already having a meltdown another 5 seconds won't hurt to just put the child down to close the blinds.

You sound like you've too much going on in your life and the problem isn't the blinds. You gave multiple jobs, multiple very young kids, a caring role and drawing on a renovation too? Something probably needs to be pulled back and I dont mean the blinds.

If you don't argue with him over the blinds, it'll be something else.

So you’ve asked him to stop doing something and he’s just refused for no particular reason? Is this illustrative of his attitude towards you in general?

I was wondering if OP had a disability? Some of the things which are easy to most people can be very tricky. Or does your husband, OP, and is that why you're always doing the naps?

UV light has antimicrobial properties and it's good to flood a room with light and fresh air each day. I can't really believe the blinds are so difficult that you can't put the baby down for a few seconds to lower them. If nothing else, the change from light to dark and back again is a good signal for the baby that it's time for sleep (or to wake up).

Almost as if a kid doesn't have hands 😂😂😂 Honestly stupid comments are rife here

This! what a tosser. You need to be way firmer with him. What other ways is he making your life more difficult?

I never shut the curtains or blinds during the day for naps. Only at nighttime.

Yes to this ^^

It does sound trivial and fixable but assume there must be more going on for it to be this annoying to you to want to post here.

If it is something you want to fix though, Ikea (and probably other shops) make a roller blind that is easy to pull down with one hand in a nano second (almost)

I do agree with your DH that it is good to refresh the air and let sunlight into a room.

Mind you - I have grown up children now and I'm irritated that DH opens the blinds in the kitchen out of habit, even though they are those ones that let in light but keep out the sun. During the heatwave they needed to stay down all day. I guess some people have an ingrained habit to open blinds each morning!

You should open them and a window and air the room out daily. Just go up half hour before nap time and shut them .

Maybe an IKEA blind would help, it has a pole on the side you just push it up and down it's brilliant

OP I think you are feeling cross and resentful with your DH.

That's ok, and I also get why, in those circumstances, the blinds are annoying.

But it isn't just about the blinds.

He's right, it's normal to open blinds in the morning and let light and air in. I thought only teenagers lived like that in the dark. My teen kids don't do it and it drives me mad. I sometimes leave home before daylight for work and when I come back at 3 o'clock it's blazing sunlight but the house is dark inside and they're in the kitchen like idiots with the lights on and all the blinds and curtains drawn in the whole house.

You can reach behind it. From the side. Or though them if they are slatted blinds. Or under it, depending on how your window opens.

Or you’ve opened the window when the blinds were up and they stay open until you want to shut them again.

I have slatted plantaion style blinds. So they are “down” all the time, even when the slats are open. To open the windows, I reach through them or underneath.

Jesus, It’s a bit of fabric or wood, not a steel door.

With a 16 month old surely you can give her a cup of milk down stairs and then put her in her cot or if shes breastfed breastfeed put her in the cot and then flip the blinds as you leave the room.

This is either a tip of the iceberg and you have much worse problems to think about, or it’s one of those issues that feels huge when your tired and getting to grips with having a baby but in the grand scheme of things isn’t worth thinking about.

How do you open the window if the blind is down?

I have certainly been through periods of time when my kids were little when opening and shutting curtains was more than I could cope with. Looking back, I wasn't "surviving", I was absolutely drowning.

I think he needs to stop and realise that if this is such a big deal for you whilst it's a total non-event for him, then he's not pulling his weight. If you are one set of blinds away from collapse, then you need more help from him than just leaving the blinds shut.

Er -hello!! IF the blind is DOWN - the CORD is up!!