Husband opens blinds in baby’s room

News flash: this is a discussion board where people discuss thing. Not your job to police who says what.

Nevermind the blind issue, I’ve just read how much you’re taking on and it’s too much unless you’ve got a live in nanny or something! If it were me I’d go down to working 3 or 4 days and keep the kids in nursery 4 days or 4.5. You need time for YOU (not chores, work, caring for the kids).

She said the window is open.

This would piss me off too OP

After disagreements with dh along these lines we now have a house rule that you dont fuck with the light/heat/ventilation in a room youre not actually going to be in.
He would eg walk into a room that only had me in, say "it's too dark in here", switch the Big Light on, then walk out 😡

As I say, he doesnt do it any more, but it had to be explained very clearly that I am an equal partner in the household and also get a say in these things

I’m with your DH. Rooms need airing.

If this is how you think a healthy relationship works, using petty tactics to piss the other one off, I feel very sad for anyone who has the misfortune to live with you.

Opening blinds is a perfectly normal thing to do. Only on MN would it be seen as some sort of deliberate act of war that requires such a ridiculously childish escalation.

If the baby is getting so over tired that a 10 second delay while blinds are shut is a problem, OP needs to either take him/her to the room earlier or ask her husband to go and shut the blind.

Non issue

I can’t stand it when the blinds aren’t open. I get where your husband is coming from. It just feels depressing and lazy and I can’t quite explain why! X

If he's doing it to "air" the room for example, why doesn't he then pop up at some later point before nap time & close them again?

Or you hand him "baby" whilst you do it?

Omg people are acting as if this child never sees sunlight. The child will be lifted from its room and taken to a bright room. I have blackout blinds sellotaped down so light cannot get in to my boys rooms, we can open the window but not the blinds. Who cares? Honestly the child only sleeps in the room so it Doesn't matter if theres sunlight there or 15seconds later in the next room child is brought to.

It's really impossible to say if that's the reason your children slept well.

My child has always slept well and I used a blackout blind for naps in the day.

Maybe she will... she's a grown adult she can do that too. Instead she's having a commotion on the Internet.

What a non issue, OP.

Let air and sunlight in the room during the day, it's healthy.

Put the baby in cot and shut the blinds.

Not opening blinds or curtains feels slovenly and unhealthy to me.
Surely lying the baby in bed then closing the blinds lets the baby know it's bedtime?

Opening your eyes to daylight is actually really important and I do open ours - even when DH is still sleeping ( at a reasonable time I hasten to add )

Change the blind to a pull down one - not corded - or add curtains which are easy pulled and once the baby is fed and settled, wrestle with the existing blind

On the face of it you're being unreasonable but it's not about whether the blinds are open or closed is it?

It's about the blinds being the final straw to your camel's back when it comes to bedtime.

So either he takes it upon himself to prepare the bedroom for bedtime before you take baby up - Every. Single. Time.

Or...he leaves the blinds alone to support you when you're sleep deprived, frazzled and touched out.

If he wants to help make the home healthier and fresher then tell him to pick up a duster or grab the hoover.

Napping in the light helps babies develop Circadian rhythm; I swore by it and my children were quick to sleep through at night.

Open at start of day, keep open for nap, close at night. That's what I'd do.

Because light vaporises every bacteria known to man and her child will grow up unable to know the difference between night and day, according to some posters.

If it’s really that annoying for the blinds to be open just shut them again once he leaves for his 12 hour shift. Honestly how often can this be happening if he works 12 hours a day and works away sometimes too? That’s without the fact that a 16 month old is perfectly capable of holding their own bottle, so no reason you can’t put them in their cot and hand them the bottle before going over and pulling the blinds.

Or maybe she'll say: you put him down and make sure he sleeps ))

YABU, IMO. I can’t bear to have blinds/ curtains closed all day, to me it feels oppressive and stuffy. Natural daylight coming into a room can help with circadian rhythms and mood also. If it’s difficult to lower blinds while holding the baby then put baby down while you do it? If you manage it while holding a baby (albeit a struggle) then I’m guessing it wouldn’t take long at all to do it without holding a baby. They will cope being put down for the matter of seconds it takes you to do it. This is a real non issue.

Why do you need to let light in to a room that is literally only used for a baby to sleep/ nap in?

As long as you are opening the window and airing it out, light is really neither here nor there.

As someone who's only just taken off a blackout blind that was stuck onto my window for 6 months to help my little one nap... YANBU!

Sleep/ naps are priority number one with babies. If your husband disagrees then maybe he should be putting the baby down instead.

Why can't he just go up half an hour before and close them? Or if he's able to go up with you and close them for you at the time? Or you close them when you last go for a pee before settling baby?
It does sound like a non-event on paper but I know what it's like when that one, usually irrelevant thing, can feel like the breaking point. If he wants them open, fine, he can also be the one to close them in time for baby having a sleep?

I really don’t think opening and closing blinds should cause any problems. It’s a 2 second job. You need to let light in the room and open them every morning.