Aibu feeling uneasy about men taking little girls to the toilet in the womens toilet?

There is no should about it with safeguarding. Parents should make judgements based on their children and where they are.

He does if his daughter needs to pee.

I don't believe anything is going to happen but a young girl shouldn't have to go in there if she doesn't want.

She doesn't have to worry about seeing men at urinals or feeling she's in the wrong place.

Surely a child should be prioritised over grown women?

This is short sighted, you get little girls used to using a cubicle in the men’s toilets while surrounded by strange adult men peeing, then when they grow up they won’t care about single sex spaces for women. They will be ok with unisex toilets and hearing men pissing in urinals while they say cor did you see how cute she was? I could eat her up.

Ridiculous "lol"

she's with her father. What's the issue

Men should take their daughters in to the men’s loos if their daughter is not old enough to go in the ladies alone. Cover their eyes if they feel they have to, or have a quick look in before going in with the child to make sure no bloke is stood there with his pants round his ankles, which wouldn’t be appropriate for a boy child either 🤷‍♀️

So do the men in the men's toilet have the same right over their single sex space, have they the right to bar the young girl to enter the toilet or to demand she leave?

But the dad would be with the child . What do you think is going go happen .

Exactly. It is simple. You take your young DC into the toilets that match your sex. I took my young DSs into the women’s loos. I didn’t use the gents!

A dad should take his daughter into the gents, moving her swiftly past the urinals.

My husband does tend to take her in men’s if disabled not available but he hates it cus it smells like piss and there’s usually wee on the floor or the seat and there might be men at the urinals it’s not a nice place for a little girl

The men's loos in our new office have no urinals. The toilets for men and women are segregated but they're identical in layout. Cubicles with floor to ceiling doors and a row of washbasins.No reason why a father couldn't take a young daughter in.

So the little girl should pee within ear shot of half a dozen strange men, after having to walk past them while they are partially undressed with their genitalia outside their clothing?

Make it make sense. How is this nothing, but an adult woman seeing a fully clothed dad helping a little girl some kind of horror show?

Wouldnt really bother me to see a man in there but I know it does bother other women so no, he shouldn’t be in there.

My DH takes our daughter into the men’s if I’m not there.

But what do you think is going to happen in the men’s toilet, if Dad is in there too? Surely you’d use the cubicle so it’s not like you’re hanging out in the men’s for ages?

Nosy toilet user?

its a women,s space. He doesn't belong there.

And they don't know who the women are either.

They could be drugged up psychos for all anyone knows 🤷‍♂️

I’m saying that girls have rights too. She has been hardly considered but she’s the one that needs a safe, private toilet.

Which is a whole other level of disgusting anyway.

Not to mention a health risk.

The women in the toilet don’t know who this man is . He is a strange man and that’s that . Adult men should never ever be in female only spaces .

When my DH takes DD out he will generally use a disabled loo where possible, but if not then the men’s loo. He’d feel really uncomfortable taking her to the women’s loo. And not sure what anyone thinks is going to happen to her in the men’s loo - it’s not like he’s dangling her over the communal urinal for a wee, there are cubicles.

It's grown women putting their wishes above that of young children.

No young girl should have to go into a adult male toliet if she doesn't want to.

It's a wise mum that doesn't let her young pboy go into a male tolet in his own and brings him to the ladies instead.

Shocked that so many grown put their own needs above that of a child.

You’re not answering my question at all. Why do you think little girls in the men’s toilets is less traumatic than a fully clothed dad with his little girl in the women’s? What end of days are you afraid of?

I think it’s really naive to think all the strange men in the men’s toilets are good guys. Surely the odds are better if an adult sees 1 clothed dad with a child than he isn’t a predator versus a little girl being forced to use the toilet in the men’s toilets with potentially half a dozen men lingering about?

His little girl bursting for a pee takes precedence over some nosy toilet user wanting to make both father and daughter feel bad.

Or at least it will if he's a decent, caring father.

No man should be in a women's toilet. Tells you a lot about the entitlement of some men. I've only come across it once and I told him to get out. He tried to argue with me but I could see he wasn't 100% he was right anyway and he got out.

So what right's does the young girl have? Does she have the right to use a woman's toilet? Does she have the right to have the help that she requires from her parent? I don't think men taking their daughters to a women's toilet are using the opportunity to enforce their perceived rights. I think most men would rather not encounter a mob of hostile women, but it's the lesser of two evils of taking the kid to a men's toilet. I think this has become such an issue as it's somehow merged with women objecting to men identifying as women using women only spaces. That I can understand but I see the scenario that OP raised as totally different.