Aibu feeling uneasy about men taking little girls to the toilet in the womens toilet?

Men should not go in women's public toilets. My dh managed to look after our dc when out without having to go in the ladies.

Find a unisex space, family room whatever. Or, the dc are with their parent so going in a cubicle in the men's is fine. If I ever see a man in the ladies I'll helpfully suggest any of these very common sense options.

Do women march into the men's with their sons? Nope.

A 9 year old should be able to go into the men’s on their own unless they have special needs or something and can use the disabled changing room. In my swimming pool there are signs up everywhere saying boys over 8 no longer allowed in the women’s . And that’s fair enough I think as a mother of boys .

Its creepier to take a girl into a stinky cesspit where men stand in a line exposing themselves!!
No. I am firmly with team take into ladies loo. We are more civilized and prefer to wee in private not public so we have cubicles; nothing for the dad to see. FGS!

There are lots of things my children don’t want to do, but I teach them to do them because they have to. There is no safety reason why DH cannot take DD into a men’s toilet. I am not going to ask my adult DH to impose himself on women-only spaces (where, incidentally, other young girls may be using the toilet - should they have to use the toilet around a ‘strange man’?), for no good reason.

I'd much rather a man took his daughter into the women's than a little girl had to go into the men's. If there is no family bathroom a dad can, imo, knock and loudly announce that he's bringing his daughter in.

I have seen this with my children: more comfortable with groups of women they don’t know than men they don’t know. I think it might be instinctive.

You don't get to decide its ok for all disabled people

I was at the swimming pool with my 4y.o. A mum and her son aged around 9 came in the changing room. I felt uncomfortable but if I say anything I'll get flamed on her and everywhere else. My husband cannot take her to the swimming pool, where would they change? There is need for more family rooms/loos etc.
Edit to add: my daughter is female, she goes into her designated room. Her father is just to help her. No way is she going to men's rooms. This is utterly ridiculous.

I’m disabled and the absolute right thing to do is to use the disabled toilet. It’s absolutely fine for this. Men shouldn’t be in women’s toilets - little girls shouldn’t be in the men’s toilets.

It absolutely is a problem with men out with their little girls. I remember my dad saying he found it awkward knowing what to do when I was little and I’m 45 now but he wouldn’t have dreamt of going in the ladies.

So mothers should take 6-7 yo boys to men's if the boy would be more comfortable with that?

I don’t know if I’m missing something but I really don’t see the issue with this. Women’s toilets all, to my knowledge, have individual cubicles, so the most a man would see a female - adult or child doing, is washing their hands??? If a young girls went to the men’s the urinals are open to all - and smelly and grim. I think I’d be a bit surprised but it wouldn’t bother me. How is it different to places havung unisex toilets? Obviously a man loitering in the ladies with or without a child would be a concern but they’d be a concern anyway!

Why? We all use cubicles don't we? Nothing to see here!
Surely its better than submitting little girls to men with their bits out and that stink!!
I always took grandsons into ladies toilets till they were older,whats the difference?

Yes but your choice is based on a ridiculous fear of absolutely nothing plus is incredibly selfish towards other women . If a little
girl shouldn’t be in there neither should a little boy . Little girls don’t need to be wrapped in cotton wool .

And she will get a safe, private cubicle when her father takes her to the men's.

The young boys have rights as well.
In your logic, should fathers bring their boys to women's (to avoid going through men's), or mothers their boys to men's (because boys have rights too)?

And what if the female child isn't comfortable with that? Why do adult female's comfort and preferences trump those of a child's ? I'm really astounding by the double standards on this thread.

Yeah this makes no sense. Go to the accessible toilets.

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they are not for people who can't be bothered to use the correct ones.

I’m sorry for your experience.

Admittedly I have not spent much time in men’s toilets but I don’t think there is any full frontal nudity though, is there? If there are urinals I don’t really see how full front nudity would happen?!

I think changing rooms are different, but more likely to be family facilities available, or individual cubicles.

You’re still not answering the question.

Your child your choice. My child my choice.

Unless one of them is disabled he shouldn't do this.
They are for disabled people....its so frustrating when your colostomy bag is aboit to burst and you cant access the loo for people with kids 💩

Children’s safety comes before adults comfort, doesn’t bother me at all, if it’s an issue for you wait until they are done and then use the toilet, just like we would have to do if I needed to take my child into the accessible toilet and it wasn’t being used as intended.

When my daughter was younger I used to try and take her to the disabled toilets where possible. In many cases, these were just marked as disabled toilets not family/baby change, so it is misuse and I understand the perspective of people who consider this unacceptable.

I have taken her to the men's a couple of times but frankly, most mens toilet cubicles are disgusting and she was also less comfortable in a group of unfamiliar men than women at nursery age, probably because all her nursery practitioners were female.

I have never used the women's. I am just glad that she's now 6 and I can send her in to the women's toilets alone and my younger child is a boy so don't have to deal with this question anymore.

Young children go into the toilet their parent would use. So my 8 yr old DS comes into the women’s with me, in some places he’ll go into the men’s alone. My DD when young went into the men’s with her father.

Yup. Exactly . I went to the men’s changing rooms every week as a child with my dad. Didn’t knock a fidge out of me. Was completely unfazed and unbothered by it , as was my sister .