Is the trans kids trend over? Aibu to wonder what happened to the kids caught up in it in the 2010s?

Walking sticks, what do you mean?

Not really the point of the thread but you must have been very young when you had your dd according to your dates.

I was a teacher by the 2010s and never had any trans students then - it was more in the early 2020s.

My kids are very early 20s and ime queer and non-binary are more common now. The latter seems more popular with girls in particular although this might be a reflection on my children’s friend choices.

My dc is in this generation.

of her friend group, those who changed names and became non binary have stuck to the changed names.

nobody did any physical transition so can’t comment on that.

we went to our local pride last month and there were a few trans people around. There’s a pub night for them in my local town.

Totally agree.

Both of mine went through some gender questioning. They went to secondary in 2019 and 2021 respectively.

The youngest took it to the extent that she gave me a letter saying she wanted us to talk about us calling her by a boys name.

I didn’t give an emotional reaction at all just said sure let me know when you’re ready to talk. I almost felt as though I was being offered a role of the reactionary parent and then she could push back against that and all the teachers could make me the bad guy (woke school).

Without that reaction it just kind of fizzled out. She is now the most feminine, clothes interested girl you could imagine and she’s also been diagnosed with autism which gives me insight into why she might have been so prone to outside influence.

There will be an enquiry about the medical ethics of this. Cosmetic medical and surgical intervention for minors should never be approved. People can't get tattoos until they are 18 FFS.

It's all walking sticks and ADHD now.

Agree with this. The teens that were most affected by hype/fad are now around university age or slightly older.

I work in a secondary school of around 1500 students and before the fad we had on average three kids that were openly trans. During the peak of the suddenly very fashionable/hype just after covid we suddenly had 4 or 5 kids per year group.

Now it has died back down to around 6 in whole school. Whereas my 20 year olds cohort still has a high number of trans kids/young adults.

Though I believe some kids can definitely be trans for others it is about confusing teenage hormones, feelings of attraction and not knowing who you are going to become. Some kids at the hype were the schools most likely before the trans thing to be have rather bullying personalities or attention seeking. Therefore not for one moment did any sensible staff member feel they were truly trans. However we all still had to just go along with it so long as not too disruptive. In a few cases through it was definitely being used very clearly as a weapon to bully other students or even staff. As much as possible this was stopped but quite frankly it was difficult and the students in question new this.

Glad things have got more normal in school now. No problem with genuine trans kids or those that are just unsure of their gender/sexuality. After all teenage years have alway been about find out who you are. They just didn't include before grown arse adults pushing you into making permanent life choices regarding gender because it was fashionable or whatever.

Its definitely decreasing where I live and I live in a very accepting/bohemian place.

3-4 years ago at least 20% of the people applying for jobs where I work would be non binary and trans. We have had none for the last couple of years.

Also, as others have said, the kids at my son's school who were trans seem to have now stopped

I had no idea about this @Shedmistress . That’s horrific.

The Good Law Project is also horrific and an embarrassment to the legal profession.

It is not over. Just last week, the Good Law Project, who share a director with Mumsnet, offered to fund 24 kids with puberty blockers and potentially cross sex hormones for free, sourced through Anne Health, run by a non medic who herself gave her son puberty blockers and cross sex hormones and took him to Thailand on his 16th birthday to have his penis inverted. In fact her and her mother found it hilarious that his penis was so small at that stage the doctors did not have enough material to work with.

Personally I think a Mumsnet Director adovcating to mutilate and sterilise kids is not 'in the spirit' of any parenting forum but hey ho.

So yes, people are still raging about it all, many people think sterilising and mutilating kids because they like the wrong toys is a bad thing.

I very much hope it’s on its way out. There are so many internal inconsistencies in the ideology and it has been used far too frequently at the expense of investigating underlying issues such as ND, trauma, abuse, eating disorders. There are many reasons why a young person might wish their body was other - those need to be treated with curiosity and care. Not simply affirmed.

There were four trans children in my daughter’s old school and they have all been assessed with autism. I definitely see a link between the two. One is still trans but the others have gone back to their real gender and are gay. I do wonder if being gay and going through puberty made them feel “wrong” and they thought they must be trans to make sense of it?! I do believe counselling should be offered and not hormones. We can all be who ever we want without changing gender.

Several in my DD’s friendship group, she’s 17, and going strong. My sister is devastated that her daughter (16) identifies as a boy and has changed name. I can’t imagine they’ll climb down at uni as it’s prevalent there. Also more context - these are all kids from affluent white families with parents on the gentle side, I think that’s enabled it.

I’d love to believe it was going to be over soon but as PP said, head over to the Feminism board and see how much is going on. And that’s in the UK - lots of other countries have put self id into legislation (but then if it’s a trend that wanes, maybe we end up with few people affected by that).

I really hope you're right and it's over. Where I'm from in rural Ireland, we always tend to lag behind quite badly on the trend front so for me, we're not much past the peak but I can definitely see glimmers of sanity appearing amongst the young people I know. Sadly though, there are still far too many of them entrenched in this absolute nonsense.

ND diagnoses are possibly more common, at least for now.

There are a lot of videos on TikTok now from people who are detransitioning and who are admitting they were either mentally unwell or getting swept up by the online popularity of it all.

I agree that medical transitioning of minors should never have been allowed but my understanding is that only a tiny % of children/ teens who identified as trans actually medically transitioned at all, especially girls who considered themselves boys. Happy to be corrected though.

I think it’s definitely on the decrease. The children I know, the ones in my own DD’s friendship groups, just stopped. Walking stocks are in the up in secondary school children.

not sure what's you AIBU is ? And saying a generations lives have been ruined seems dramatic?

Yeah I feel like non binary is more of a thing now, especially among girls. It also seems to be region, and, to an extent, school specific within areas- my friend’s dd is at a school in Kent where it’s super common whereas at my dc’s school there are literally none who present as trans or non binary ( similar size and demographic of the two schools otherwise and both schools allow all students to wear a “trouser and tie” or “skirt and blouse” uniform). The non binary girls I know basically look like Emo kids from the 90’s ( nothing new under the sun).

@EricTheHalfASleeve interesting- I guess the other thing is that essentially there’s currently a “backlog” of cases as legally changing gender not been around for that long. Will be interesting to know what the numbers are when that has gone through the system.

My daughter is almost 22, just graduated from university, there are several among her peers from school and uni who are on cross sex hormones, at least two of them are trying to crowdfund for surgery (unsuccessfully as far as I can tell). There were none in her brother's (18) school year. He is starting university next week, be interesting to see if there are any among the fellow first years.
It's the kids who were in their mid-teens when Covid hit who were most affected, I think.