@Barney221
Never help again. You should have not started it anyway. People take advantage. My DH used to cut the hedges and mow the lawns of a woman on her own closeby (about 5 years older than us,) and he did it for 7 years.... I do my share of everything, and then some... I have always done 80% of everything ... shopping, cooking, childcare, washing, housework, life admin, and most of the gardening. DH cuts the high/big hedges and the lawns. (And various blue jobs, like to do with the car, DIY and heavy lifting etc, and occasional household tasks!) We are in our mid-late 50s.
A couple of years ago, DH started to get a bad back - a combination of old age, and lots of physical labour in his 30s and 40s, (before getting into admin at 48.) And he said he can't do it for her any more. He can still do ours but it's too much doing other peoples. It took him ages as she has 4 quite large lawns and long high hedges. It was taking a day or two a month during summer.
So I told her in 2024, that DH wouldn't be doing it any more, because of health reasons, and she said 'oh, OK, well I don't know what I shall do then....' I said 'there are several people nearby who mow lawns, and cut hedges, and the like.. I have a card in the house I can pass to you...' She just frowned.
Then she said 'well can't you do it?' I said 'well not really, I don't do big hedges and lawns, its out of my physical remit.' She said 'well maybe you should give it a go, it may make you fitter and get you out of the house, and trim you down a little bit.' I was gobsmacked. I said 'no I don't think I will be doing it, and I do get reasonable exercise and do a lot, and I get out of the house plenty!' and I was like 
(I am not even that big/overweight, so the 'get trimmer' comment was out of order!) Even if I had been, it would still have been rude!
She could see/detect I was offended, but she laughed and said' ooh, don't take it personally I can see I've hit a raw nerve.' I said 'of course I am taking it personally, the comments were aimed directly at me.' She said 'oh don't be so silly!' Speaking to me as if I was 5! Really dismissive and rude. I said 'I have to go put dinner on now.' Then I turned my back and went back home.
2 years ago, and I have never forgiven her, and don't speak to her anymore. She has tried to speak a few times, (in the 3-4 weeks after she was so rude!) but she hasn't bothered since. GOOD. She can fuck off. We may have been able to help her a bit with other things that she was struggling with, like taking her to the shops if her car was off the road, or bits here and there, but I wouldn't lift a finger to do anything for her now. She was so fucking rude, ungrateful, and nasty, and KNOWS she offended me, but never apologised. In 2 years, not one word of 'sorry I offended you.' So to hell with her. For 7 fucking years my husband did her lawns and hedges.
Bit of a rant there sorry, but I just wanted to explain how bloody ungrateful some people can be. So be prepared for some anger and resistance when you start refusing to do anything else, after helping for so long! No good deed goes unpunished and all that!
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