AIBU to ask for advice on how to overturn a school decision - quickly

I do hate academies. Horrific schools.

Phones should be used by adults (not children) but in moderation.

They are not a necesssity. They are not essential. If you think they are you have an unhealthy phone addiction and are passing it on to your children.

Do you live in this century? Everything is digital nowadays. My son gets a bus to school and the passes are only on phones. Even to access my gym it's a QR code.

It’s not healthy to be able to be in constant contact with people.

Not healthy to you, essential to me.

It’s not healthy to be able to be in constant contact with people.

No child needs a phone. Neither does an adult, come to that.

You are not being unreasonable at all. Your child should be able to contact you at all times in case of emergency.

The school sounds insane (like most secondary schools do), I would not send my child there.

What can I do to overturn a school decision - quickly? It is regarding mobile phones. The school has introduced a no phones at school policy. If a teacher is on a journey home and sees a child on a phone, they will “chase them down the street and snatch it out of their hand” as it shows they had a phone in school.

There was a horrible and frightening incident fairly near school today. So whilst school were busying themself with catching children out for taking a blazer off at a bus stop or using a phone after school, my child was involved in something bloody terrifying. I’ve been up half the night. It should involve the police, but we are not going down that road and time would have been of the essence anyway. My husband was driving about a minute away from her at the time, happily oblivious. I’m shaken up, but also feel in an impossible situation.

This occurred close to school, with a couple of friends, in daylight with people nearby. Her journey also includes much larger elements where she’s on her own and secluded. I’m really fucking angry and revolted too (huge understatement) that the school have the power to dictate the removal of a tool for use outside of school, compromising my child’s safety.

As a bare minimum, I want a brick phone allowed in school - turned off, handed in, confiscated if used or seen - I don’t care. I want them to find a way that the other 97% of schools do, so that my child has access to a phone, even if it’s just a brick phone, should she need it out of school.

They have lots of draconian rules, appear very rigid and authoritarian. I can grit my teeth on those. I cannot grit my teeth on this one. It’s a very large academy, gives the impression so far that “we are always right and totally trustworthy” and others will have it wrong or lie. Please help. How best to approach a school that seems terrified of giving an inch, (whilst it simultaneously encroaches the fuck and takes miles) to get an outcome that will make my child safer out of school.

If you’ve read this far, please help. I also believe from what I’ve seen so far that if I raise this, the school will frequently check my daughter’s bag. I am willing to now break the rules on this, but obviously can’t keep replacing mobiles and she shouldn’t have to be punished by school for it either.

😂 to a teacher ‘chasing down’ a student on a mobile phone out of school- no chance!

No school said they would chase someone in the street outside of school hours and wrench their property from their hand by force. That's illegal.

I don't think I'd be too happy with someone chasing down my child and taking their phone surely that's no one's business outside of school.

They tried this no phone thing in some schools here in Ireland but they didn't take into account that most schools have ebooks 😂

I've had kids go through school and tbh they were handy to be able to contact each other especially with all the extra curricular activities now, it wasn't the same in my day as everyone just went home after school so if you didn't turn up your mam knew something was wrong.

Our school bus tickets are online too, no physical ticket unless you're using a leap card and I think you top that up online but a lot of the schools you can walk to.

There's good and bad reg phones in school, ours all just ended up signing them in and out, more work for secetaries but kids could access them during school for books and emergencies. It's hard to know what's right but all you can do is give new things a try and if it's not working then address it with your concerns.

If an adult chased after a child in the street and stole their phone off them you would laugh?

Thank god your an ex call handler.

😂 to a teacher ‘chasing down’ a student on a mobile phone out of school- no chance!

I’m struggling to understand what’s happened.

Are you saying due to the phone ban your daughter was witness to an unpleasant incident? If she had her phone you could have warned her away from that area?

If you have verbal witness to something which requires police notification I can’t understand why you wouldn’t report it? If you’re saying you’re so horrified by a phone ban the police should be involved then no, that’s a waste of their time.