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Receptionist attitude should I complain

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DestituteDesperate · 04/09/2026 20:08

Feel utterly ashamed of myself, today I watched a doctors receptionist speak so appallingly to two patients and, instead of challenging her, or mentioning it to another staff member, like a coward I froze in fear.

long story short, long queue at surgery for the last appointments of the day and one late 20s girl and another maybe 50s, asked something rather innocuous, as I heard blood test and referral. Each time the receptionist was talking to them both like they committed a crime.

The younger girl took her bollocking and said she would call back on Monday after 2pm. The woman though, fair play, tried to give it back but the receptionist used her leverage as staff to make the woman back down.

maybe both patients had done something so terrible to illicit such a response but the receptionist appeared that she quite enjoyed belittling them, loudly and publicly. The thing is, most of what I heard in the queue was from her tone not theirs.

Most of us were shocked and we did the rather British thing of tut and shake our heads.

However, I am ashamed because I would have desperately wanted someone to stand up for me if I were being baited and humiliated it public and instead I froze (I’ve had an incident where I was reduced to tears so I know how demoralising it can be) instead of being a good human being and standing up for them.

Being so cowardly in that moment, is really affecting me to such an extent on a Friday I’m on MN writing this thread.

should I report what I saw? I know I couldn’t help in the moment but would it be reasonable to report it via an online reporting form or a call on Monday?

or should I let it go and hope she doesn’t humiliate any other patients.

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Soontobe60 · Yesterday 14:25

Aussiesgettingsmashed · Yesterday 14:18

It most certainly is true. It’s very well known that a staggeringly high proportion of Doctors receptionists are horrendously vile people.

Can you point us to the source of your claim? In my 60+ years of life, I can honestly say I’ve never come across a rude receptionist but have witnessed many rude patients !

Soontobe60 · Yesterday 14:24

Happyjoe · 05/09/2026 21:12

Why do you care? Or.. is it less of you caring and more of you wanting to lord it over someone to make you feel better in your life?

Don’t be so patronising 🤣🤣🤣

Aussiesgettingsmashed · Yesterday 14:18

askmenow · Yesterday 11:18

That’s untrue and if you’ve found it so then it’s a “you” problem rather than every receptionist being awful.
Consider your tone when speaking to people.

It most certainly is true. It’s very well known that a staggeringly high proportion of Doctors receptionists are horrendously vile people.

pestowithwalnuts · Yesterday 14:04

You need to speak to the practice manager.
If you can't bring yourself to speak then write a letter. Be sure to mention the date and time. and what was said. Then they can Weedle it down to which patients it was.

Don't be a coward.

EmmaB1309 · Yesterday 14:04

Yes complain. Most GP receptionists are fine, but why are some such vile jobsworths?

Tashazet · Yesterday 13:56

ArcticBells · 04/09/2026 20:24

I think you should stay out of it.

Are you a dr receptionist by any chance?

Pherian · Yesterday 13:42

DestituteDesperate · 04/09/2026 20:08

Feel utterly ashamed of myself, today I watched a doctors receptionist speak so appallingly to two patients and, instead of challenging her, or mentioning it to another staff member, like a coward I froze in fear.

long story short, long queue at surgery for the last appointments of the day and one late 20s girl and another maybe 50s, asked something rather innocuous, as I heard blood test and referral. Each time the receptionist was talking to them both like they committed a crime.

The younger girl took her bollocking and said she would call back on Monday after 2pm. The woman though, fair play, tried to give it back but the receptionist used her leverage as staff to make the woman back down.

maybe both patients had done something so terrible to illicit such a response but the receptionist appeared that she quite enjoyed belittling them, loudly and publicly. The thing is, most of what I heard in the queue was from her tone not theirs.

Most of us were shocked and we did the rather British thing of tut and shake our heads.

However, I am ashamed because I would have desperately wanted someone to stand up for me if I were being baited and humiliated it public and instead I froze (I’ve had an incident where I was reduced to tears so I know how demoralising it can be) instead of being a good human being and standing up for them.

Being so cowardly in that moment, is really affecting me to such an extent on a Friday I’m on MN writing this thread.

should I report what I saw? I know I couldn’t help in the moment but would it be reasonable to report it via an online reporting form or a call on Monday?

or should I let it go and hope she doesn’t humiliate any other patients.

Call and ask what the complaints process is and who the head of the surgery is. Complain directly to the head and not to the receptionist. Focus on her behaviour and not about her personality . They will have to investigate it and speak to the receptionist.

RainbowMoonbeam · Yesterday 13:37

A written complaint escalated as much as needs to be is actually going to be more helpful in terms of results. Do that. X

Monty36 · Yesterday 13:12

You never see practice managers do you ? I have never seen one.

ForCalmScroller · Yesterday 13:09

Typical of those who work in healthcare by the sound of it!

askmenow · Yesterday 11:18

Aussiesgettingsmashed · 04/09/2026 21:27

There must be a Doctors receptionist that isn’t a complete Dickhead but I am yet to meet one.

That’s untrue and if you’ve found it so then it’s a “you” problem rather than every receptionist being awful.
Consider your tone when speaking to people.

TangyChina · Yesterday 10:32

Hopomythumb · Yesterday 09:59

So are front line staff quite often.

That's quite differnt isn't it ?
Yhey are in paid employment and choosing to be there.

People who are worried about their health and need help are vulnerable .
They feel nervous and worried.snd don't need to be spoken ro rudely.
My docs receptinists are always polite

LlynTegid · Yesterday 10:09

Yes please complain to the practice manager. Were it me I would add in any letter that as long as my name etc is not disclosed, I would be ok with it being used in support of disciplinary proceedings.

Hopomythumb · Yesterday 09:59

TangyChina · Yesterday 07:04

People in doctors are already feeling vulnerable so yes .

So are front line staff quite often.

TangyChina · Yesterday 07:04

People in doctors are already feeling vulnerable so yes .

Mrtumblestit · Yesterday 07:02

ArcticBells · 04/09/2026 20:24

I think you should stay out of it.

You should absolutely report it. I heard the very sad news this week of a work colleague who took their own life. Imagine, for example, someone like them going in, very fragile, suicidal and in a vulnerable state of mind trying to seek support and met with someone like the receptionist you’ve described. It could make all the difference.

FantasyFoodhall · Yesterday 03:40

The receptionist at our GP surgery is the most self-important cow I’ve ever had the misfortune to meet. She really can make a very difficult day unbearable.

TheDevilWears · Yesterday 00:42

I’ve taken to google reviewing people like her. I came across a woman like her at the Science Museum a couple of weeks back … she was so horrible and absolutely should not be working with the public. She looked at everyone like she hated them 🙁 raised her voice, spoke down to everyone. if the opportunity arises I place one of my carefully designed and printed stickers about their person … 🤭

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TheGodlyGirl · 05/09/2026 22:19

Report report report

Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 05/09/2026 21:56

I don't understand why anyone things ridiculing someone makes them look good it just makes them look mean.

Absolutely complain they have a difficult job but that's still doesn’t give them the right belittle anyone.

Last week I had a blood test booked I got the time wrong and was 7 minutes late I was upset and the receptionist just said you're not late and booked me in with a giggle. Thankfully the nurse was running late and I got seen. There was no ridiculing.

RumPidgeon · 05/09/2026 21:17

I would complain and no, you’re not a coward at all. You’re an empathetic person who was shocked at hearing someone being spoken to like that. It doesn’t matter not reacting in the moment. Consider a well written complaint and don’t back down. Patients shouldn’t be spoken to like that.

Happyjoe · 05/09/2026 21:14

Soontobe60 · 05/09/2026 18:23

Why did you feel the need to share your daft decisions with us? I don’t care - in fact, I’m quite pleased that by striking yourself off the waiting list someone who was below you will now move up the list.

Ah, so it was just to lord it over. Well, am so glad that you now feel big. Bravo.

August1980 · 05/09/2026 21:13

I had a bad experience with a GP receptionist about 20 years ago! I was early 20 ‘s too. I did complain, the practise manager called me back and belittled me and demoralised me even more ‘protecting’ her staff rather than apologise or try to find a way forward. It was horrific. Never used the NHS since..in my 40’s now had kids too all done privately, even vaccinations done at their paediatrician. I just don’t think I would ever get over how I was made to feel when I asked for help and the follow up call from the manager just put me right off.

Angelfru11t · 05/09/2026 21:13

It’s not uncommon for some receptionists especially doctors receptionists to be exceptionally rude. You could complain to the surgery or alternatively laugh about it by watching Sandie Cameron on Instagram ‘Receptionists in 2026’ which relates to this very topic 😁

Happyjoe · 05/09/2026 21:12

Soontobe60 · 05/09/2026 18:20

Probably - but certainly well deserved 🤪

Why do you care? Or.. is it less of you caring and more of you wanting to lord it over someone to make you feel better in your life?