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Child sleeps on a mattress on the floor

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Ovenpizzasarerank · 04/09/2026 18:58

Went for dinner and a playdate with my Ds new friend. Mum is very nice, child lovely. Ds called me upstairs to show me his friends lego building and his bed was a mattress on the floor, is this normal? Mum very bohemian, house very messy and not well looked after-I am not judging and these things don't bother me, my house needs painting and some new furniture, so I get it, but is a mattress as a bed ok?

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Peonies12 · 05/09/2026 21:19

Floor bed fine, mines been in one since 12 months . Just a mattress does have a risk of mould but it really isn’t any of your business

HiEarthlings · 05/09/2026 20:46

ItsABatFaceThing · 04/09/2026 19:03

No it’s pretty disgusting. Mattresses need air to circulate round them and they easily become mouldy when on the floor directly
Those posters excusing it probably live in complete chaos themselves … it’s not the norm.

but if the house is a tip in general then sounds like it’s just an extension of that? I wouldn’t be concerned if the child was clean, tidy, well looked after etc etc .. I would be concerned if there was a general air of neglect

only you know which it is.

Most posters agree it's not a problem, and only a few say otherwise, but the majority consensus is not the 'norm'? Okaaaaaaay.......

aterriblemiddleclassfanny · 05/09/2026 20:44

I had this as a child just because I preferred it! Could be the case here?

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 05/09/2026 20:43

No sheet is gross but we don’t know that he sleeps in it without a sheet though as the bedding might just be in the wash.

I think the mattress on floor is ok short term but not in the long run.

mrssunshinexxx · 05/09/2026 20:42

Need space under the mattress to stop mould so shouldn’t be directly on the floor no

Craftycariad · 05/09/2026 20:41

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 04/09/2026 19:00

No, it's not okay. Mattresses lying on the floor get mouldy.

No they don't. Any more than mattresses in a divan bed. My son had a mattress in the floor because he was lethal and would duve off a bed, Dr said it was the safest choice. Like when the mattress was on the bed it was turned and aired regularly

InvestingMimi · 05/09/2026 20:38

My grandson is currently sleeping on the floor as his bed broke last week. Bought another hopefully stronger bed from Argos who broke it on delivery and now can’t redeliver until the first week of October! Grandson will have to make do with his mattress on the floor for a little while longer he’s cool with it but his mum is not.

MixedBananas · 05/09/2026 20:24

In my culture sleeping on the floor is the norm. We all do it. We have like futons but more easily packed away and then it opens the room as another play/social space.

Inwould be more concerned about hygine and unresonable mess, child unclean and clothes unclean.

Allusernamesaretakendammit · 05/09/2026 20:24

I am literally reading this from mattress on the floor of my 3 year olds room, while I put him to bed.... so yeah, probably terrible parenting 🙄

PinkPeonies22 · 05/09/2026 20:05

Wow I am so amazed at this thread. I am very houseproud, keep my home very clean and tidy and am meticulous in how I care for my son who is now 4.5. He slept on a small double mattress on the floor since about age 2. At first I aired it every day as I was worried about mould but then realised that was excessive and did it every couple of weeks.
It worked perfectly for us as he liked being able to climb in and out and I never had to worry about him rolling.
I have never heard of this being somehow worrying or abnormal.
It's funny too how many in the thread assumes a mattress on the floor isn't being regularly aired.

Blades2 · 05/09/2026 20:03

Ovenpizzasarerank · 04/09/2026 19:09

I just thought it didn't seem that nice, not being awful, but not that nice for him not to have a bed with duvet set. It may have been in the wash. Ds said he liked his friends bedroom but it wasn't really like a normal bedroom, not in a mean way, just the way kids say things when they sense something is different.

Since the age of 6 my child has refused sheets, a pillow and a duvets I have tried endlessly to make her bed nice, she’s autistic and prefers no sheet no pillow and just a throw. I would be fucking mortified if someone posted about me on mumsner.

Dawnb19 · 05/09/2026 20:00

I follow a few mum groups from when I was pregnant with my 2 children and it seems quite common for younger children to have floor beds. As long as there no mould underneath due to poor ventilation then I don't see a problem. I suppose it's great for children who move a round a lot in their sleep. Unfortunately we have very small bedrooms so I needed under bed storage so it was never an option for us.

cucumber4745 · 05/09/2026 19:59

For a child yes. They can get in and out easily. No risk of falling.. Whats the point of spending few hundred on a trendy frame that’s basically on the floor when they will outgrow it in a couple of years.

Isinglass20 · 05/09/2026 19:58

Coconutter24

Air should circulate round the bed - it could get mouldy! What about divans? And what’s the difference between them? I agree more of an issue about lack of bottom sheet and duvet but are sleeping bags that much different?

AliceMcK · 05/09/2026 19:31

likelysuspect · 05/09/2026 11:57

Well thats quite a modern thing, kids rooms having a 'theme' like its a playground or something

Its not my cup of tea but I know people tend to do that.

I’m a 70s baby when I finally got my own room I had Victoria plumb wallpaper and pink girly bed while my brothers older and younger had superman wall paper and blue beds. Very themed. As teens in the later 80s/90s we decorated to our tastes , so teenage “themed” rooms.

Looking back on history there were very much a theme in children’s rooms for wealthy families. So hardly a modern thing.

Wonderfulstuff · 05/09/2026 19:26

BlumeUndTisch · 05/09/2026 12:26

You can't really do any thing right today.
Reported for a mattress.

Edited

After having been invited for dinner.

I'll be rushing out to John Lewis to buy a valance next time I have guests.

Randomlygeneratedname · 05/09/2026 19:20

My kids have hardly any toys in their bedroom as they are never in their rooms. Instead they are spread in various piles all across the rest of the house which, yes, does look very untidy but I dont really care. They don't have mattresses on the floor however often do not have sheets in the day as if it is bed change day, I take the sheets off, leave the mattresses to air out a bit then replace later on in the day before bed. I wouldn't assume a child didn't have bed sheets because of one quick glance into their room.

MinorQueen · 05/09/2026 19:14

gingerninja · 05/09/2026 18:33

😂 my house is pretty tidy and very well kept but my 17 year old refuses to use her perfectly good bed frame which is now in bits in the loft and has a mattress on the floor instead. It all stems from fear of people being under the bed not neglect. For a kid who didn’t stop waking me up multiple times a night until she was about 15, she could sleep on the actual bloody floor if that is what she wants!

Maybe a divan base would be more appropriate in this case? Im still like this with frames. Im 37 and hate putting my foot down out of a bed that has a gap under.

Shimmy1983 · 05/09/2026 19:09

My 8 year old has a mattress on the floor
with sheets/pillows/duvet! It’s more for safety in our house as he’s a mover - I stand it up every other day to air.

Ubertomusic · 05/09/2026 19:07

Calliopespa · 05/09/2026 18:49

I suspect it keeps them more agile than me!

I feel quite stiff on waking. I'm sure I'd look like a cow in labour getting up half asleep from that.

😂😂😂 It's a training machine then, for the same price!

MinorQueen · 05/09/2026 19:04

Ovenpizzasarerank · 04/09/2026 18:58

Went for dinner and a playdate with my Ds new friend. Mum is very nice, child lovely. Ds called me upstairs to show me his friends lego building and his bed was a mattress on the floor, is this normal? Mum very bohemian, house very messy and not well looked after-I am not judging and these things don't bother me, my house needs painting and some new furniture, so I get it, but is a mattress as a bed ok?

The only reason I would say its not a good idea is because mould can develop under the mattress between the carpet and mattress. The only way to prevent it somewhat is for them to use an encasement waterproof mattress protector. I had my mattress on the floor for the last month waiting for a delivery from mattress man. I was very worried about this issue. Other than that, its not an issue or neglect in my opinion.

ClarafromHR · 05/09/2026 18:59

When I finished child minding back in the early 2000s I did some babysitting for local families to keep my registration just in case I decided to go back to childminding.
One family that I babysat for had four children - all of them slept on blowup beds. No sheets, pillows that were dirty and throws rather than duvets.
The house was large with a lot of land and they had fancy cars which they clearly prioritised over furnishing their house.

Washingupdone · 05/09/2026 18:58

My DGS’s double-sized very comfortable mattress is on the floor. When he cries during the night someone can comfort him back to sleep and continue their night there with him, instead of him going into theirs.

Bobbinette · 05/09/2026 18:55

I worked for a multi millionaire and his child slept on the floor in a Montessori type bed.

Cloverroll · 05/09/2026 18:54

MummyOre · 04/09/2026 19:03

Honestly, how anyone could think a mattress on the floor is acceptable for a young child, is beyond me...

Really? You might voice that opinion to the whole of Japan then. Or parts of Asia and South East Asia where - shock horror - a sleeping mat is the done thing.

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