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To feel relieved the school has now completely banned phones

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Eastie77Returns · 04/09/2026 14:15

DD’s school has completely banned phones for all incoming Y7 pupils and this will last for the entirety of their time at the school going toward. Existing pupils are still allowed to bring phones in but have to keep to the old rule (if they are seen or heard they are confiscated for 20 days).

DD is Y9 so she will be able to follow the old rule but DS, who starts secondary next year, will not be able to take one in. I honestly feel a massive sense of relief. He doesn’t have a phone at the moment and I was planning to get him an old style Nokia as he isn’t bothered about tech or latest phones. However I was a bit worried that he’d feel left if all his friends had iPhones etc. The school seems pretty serious about it all, all pupils and parents have to sign an agreement and any child caught with a phone will be excluded - no questions asked. The mother of DS’ best friend has now decided she will not send her DS to the school as originally planned as she thinks the ban is reckless and dangerous?! AIBU to think the ban is fine and makes complete sense plus millions of children managed to get to and from school safely without phones a generation ago!

OP posts:
SomersetBrie · 04/09/2026 17:17

FirmSnake · 04/09/2026 16:48

Which bus companies?

Stagecoach near me is digital for termly or annual bus passes.

TwinklyAmberSloth · 04/09/2026 17:16

@Eastie77Returns it wouldn't surprise me if they ban smart phones for under 15s at some point in the future.

I work at a school where smart phones are banned. It is SO much better. Lots of the Y7s are no longer being bought smart phones any more and instead are getting brick phones, so they can call/text their mates but not have internet/social media access.

We will be doing the same with our Y6 child as they've asked for a phone for their 11th birthday. They can use a brick phone to contact me if there's an issue with a school bus when they go to secondary.

IStillHearTheWaves · 04/09/2026 17:15

I'd hate that. I agree that they shouldn't be allowed on in class but I think if the want to police it the form tutor should have a locker to store them in from registration and add in session to give them back at the end of the day (like on jury service). How will children contact parents if the buses are cancelled or there is an emergency, or even if they want to stay on at the library after school to work on something in particular? It was all very well back in the 90s when there were payphones readily available, but they don't exist any more!

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:13

AmazonAntiqueStore · 04/09/2026 17:11

You are assuming there is a next train or bus

Yes that poster is living on another planet where it's only ever a short wait and no impact on work or after school activities.

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:12

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:10

Of course they can wait for the next train or get a bus ! What do you think we used to do?

Oh I see. You assume there's always another train or another bus.

The next bus is the next day.

Would you leave yours overnight?

Arbourimage · 04/09/2026 17:11

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:03

No it isnt. Many parents don’t want phones in schools either. Many don’t want their kids filmed, bullied or disturbed in lessons. No need to have them in school at all and they shouldn’t be because many kids have mollycoddling parents who think they’re special and that kid should over ride rules. No phones, zero problems.

Well you’re incorrect, there will be a number of exceptions to “no phones”.

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:11

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:06

Nope many don’t. The bullying and filming happens as they leave school.

The campaigning organisations do not want brick phones banned, because parents do want means to contact.

AmazonAntiqueStore · 04/09/2026 17:11

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:10

Of course they can wait for the next train or get a bus ! What do you think we used to do?

You are assuming there is a next train or bus

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:10

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:08

So when the train doesn't arrive, would you not go to get them?
You would just leave them there? Even if it meant they can't get to their job?

Batshit.

You're entitled to be any type of parent you want, but you don't have the right to stop me being able to collect my kid and help them get to work.

Of course they can wait for the next train or get a bus ! What do you think we used to do?

FirmSnake · 04/09/2026 17:09

AmazonAntiqueStore · 04/09/2026 17:08

Then the school needs to address that behaviour, not penalise everyone who can follow instructions.

Or parents can discipline their own children? So that schools aren't having to waste time on this nonsense? If your child cant be trusted with a device at school, dont give them one!

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:08

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:05

Trust me I do. We live rurally with kids who travelled many miles to school and two full time working parents.

So when the train doesn't arrive, would you not go to get them?
You would just leave them there? Even if it meant they can't get to their job?

Batshit.

You're entitled to be any type of parent you want, but you don't have the right to stop me being able to collect my kid and help them get to work.

AmazonAntiqueStore · 04/09/2026 17:08

MooseMuff · 04/09/2026 17:02

Because they don't all do what they are told! Don't base everyone on your child who I assume is well behaved?

Then the school needs to address that behaviour, not penalise everyone who can follow instructions.

FirmSnake · 04/09/2026 17:07

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:04

Actually the majority don't want smartphones used in schools, but do want their kids to have a phone when travelling.

If parents backed schools up and reinforced existing restrictions at home, these bans wouldn't be necessary. Parents only have themselves to blame.

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:06

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:04

Actually the majority don't want smartphones used in schools, but do want their kids to have a phone when travelling.

Nope many don’t. The bullying and filming happens as they leave school.

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:05

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:03

I bet if you explained your family's logistics it would be very simple. Because you seem to have no idea at all about public transport, rural journeys or schedule changes.

Trust me I do. We live rurally with kids who travelled many miles to school and two full time working parents.

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:04

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:03

No it isnt. Many parents don’t want phones in schools either. Many don’t want their kids filmed, bullied or disturbed in lessons. No need to have them in school at all and they shouldn’t be because many kids have mollycoddling parents who think they’re special and that kid should over ride rules. No phones, zero problems.

Actually the majority don't want smartphones used in schools, but do want their kids to have a phone when travelling.

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:03

FirmSnake · 04/09/2026 17:02

Parents should be more worried about the constant barrage of media and communication their children are being exposed to. Support the schools and give them a breather from it all!

Exactly this! And we wonder where kids get it from.🙄

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 17:03

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 16:56

We all live busy lives. Many many people manage. It’s not hard. We managed before for centuries.

I bet if you explained your family's logistics it would be very simple. Because you seem to have no idea at all about public transport, rural journeys or schedule changes.

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:03

Arbourimage · 04/09/2026 17:00

It doesn’t matter if people lived without phones before, we also lived without internet and yet here you are.
Dictating what teenagers can do on the way in and home from school is overreaching.
Off and in bags, in a locker, all reasonable rules, however banning them from bringing something in for use after school is not reasonable.

No it isnt. Many parents don’t want phones in schools either. Many don’t want their kids filmed, bullied or disturbed in lessons. No need to have them in school at all and they shouldn’t be because many kids have mollycoddling parents who think they’re special and that kid should over ride rules. No phones, zero problems.

MooseMuff · 04/09/2026 17:02

AmazonAntiqueStore · 04/09/2026 14:28

I don’t agree with a complete ban. Ban on using them on school property, absolutely fine and sensible. But why can’t they take them and leave them turned off in their bags? Plenty of reasons they may need to use them while travelling to / from school and the ban makes that impossible.

Because they don't all do what they are told! Don't base everyone on your child who I assume is well behaved?

FirmSnake · 04/09/2026 17:02

Arbourimage · 04/09/2026 17:00

It doesn’t matter if people lived without phones before, we also lived without internet and yet here you are.
Dictating what teenagers can do on the way in and home from school is overreaching.
Off and in bags, in a locker, all reasonable rules, however banning them from bringing something in for use after school is not reasonable.

Parents should be more worried about the constant barrage of media and communication their children are being exposed to. Support the schools and give them a breather from it all!

Arbourimage · 04/09/2026 17:02

Eastie77Returns · 04/09/2026 16:43

Enforce which rule in my own home?

Edited

What’s hard to understand?
I’m glad schools have banned phones because I wasn’t sure I would able to hold the line on a smartphone ban in my own home is basically the gist of your whole post.

Batties · 04/09/2026 17:01

OP, why were you going to give your DS a phone?

Arbourimage · 04/09/2026 17:00

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 16:56

We all live busy lives. Many many people manage. It’s not hard. We managed before for centuries.

It doesn’t matter if people lived without phones before, we also lived without internet and yet here you are.
Dictating what teenagers can do on the way in and home from school is overreaching.
Off and in bags, in a locker, all reasonable rules, however banning them from bringing something in for use after school is not reasonable.

Mydoglovescheese · 04/09/2026 16:59

My granddaughter travels a few miles to school and uses the bus/train apps on her phone. A few times she has been completely stuck when the train she’s on has suddenly been stopped. She had to ring me to ‘rescue’ her as her mum is a teacher and doesn’t have immediate access to her phone once she’s at school!
Without a phone she would have been stuck several miles from home or unable to get to school.

She also rang me to ask what to do when she and a friend were being followed and shouted at by a man.

Maybe students don’t need phones in class but they should be able to take them to school. In her case phones have to be kept in lockers and any infringement leads to a day in isolation.