AIBU to keep my sister’s former dog after she moved back?

Dont listen to those idiots OP, dont even respond, if they honestly believe you should've given the dog back out of pity or any other dumb reason then they are just as self-centred and thoughtless as your sister (no offence)
You adopted the dog, the dog officially brlongs to you end of, and good on your DD for having a pop too, hopefully it would've given your sister something to think about on the flight back.

And sheis a terrible mother

You don't know this woman at all!!
The fact that OP has you and a load of other strangers on the internet believe that about her sister and eviscerating her character like this , says it all. That's exactly my point.

Yeh, not sure you seem the kindest to your poor neice's/nephew's who've been dragged across the world by their parents and now dragged back by one and oh yeh, they are separating and may divorce. Dad's abroad so they wont get to see him which is crap. Maybe show some compassion to them who had no choice and give the dog back? Or help them get a new one? I'm guessing your family life is abit more stable compared to their cousins and the lesson learned is don't get roped into helping your sis out with the first dog again. It might teach your kids that sometimes we do kind things for other people, especially when they are having a shit time.

And sheis a terrible mother

You don't know this woman at all!!
The fact that OP has you and a load of other strangers on the internet believe that about her sister and eviscerating her character like this , says it all. That's exactly my point.

That’s exactly what I was thinking, she’s your sister and the kids are your neices and nephews, they’ve had a really tough time, give them the bloody dog, your kids can visit. Then buy a puppy.

That’s exactly what I was thinking, she’s your sister and the kids are your neices and nephews, they’ve had a really tough time, give them the bloody dog, your kids can visit. Then buy a puppy.

And sheis a terrible mother

You don't know this woman at all!!
The fact that OP has you and a load of other strangers on the internet believe that about her sister and eviscerating her character like this , says it all. That's exactly my point.

Sounds like your sister and her kids have had a shit time recently. Why would you not do anything you could to make that better? Give them their dog back.

Oh for fucks’ sake give it up. OP’s sister is a flake. She doesn’t care about the dog and never did - that’s obvious, to everyone except you. And she is a terrible mother. She dragged her kids to another country, split up with their dad, dragged them home, changed her mind and dragged them back again. OP has made it perfectly clear what happened - you just don’t want to see it because it doesn’t suit the assumptions you made from the beginning.

I said I stepped in and told my daughter to leave it.

My daughter has had to deal with stress caused by my sister and is allowed an opinion when it involves her dog though and her life has been impacted. It is my daughter’s home and my sister has asked to be brought here. My daughter missed a night out when we went and collected my sister as she was needed to look after her younger siblings. She also missed out on a day out with me today that we had planned for weeks. Her life has been impacted and she is annoyed that our family has bent over backwards to support her and all she has seen my sister be is rude to me, my husband, my mum and dad today. My daughter was annoyed that my sister caused a big fuss about having the dog back and then now doesn’t give a shit about the dog and is off again. She is annoyed that my sister seems to have given no thought as to how stressful this has been for anyone else, her young cousins and us. She saw my sister demand rather than ask that she was taken back home tonight. By the time my sister left, it was like everything was sorted for her and she didn’t give a shit about the stress she had put anyone else through. My daughter has helped strip their beds and wash the bedding and tidy up the mess left by my sister and the kids as she has just breezed out now all is sorted for her.

My teen was spot on. I stepped in because I didn’t want another row. She has booked her flights, had made her decision, upset my parents, fucked everyone around, decided she was now ok and fuck everyone else and the dog. I stepped in because I just wanted her to leave by that point, not because my daughter was wrong. Don’t dare come for my daughter.

Your sister/ her family is in serious crisis , and your teen missed on one night/ day out?
its been clear from the beginning of this thread that you hold your sister in complete contempt. You've pointed out how outing this post is, yet you've dragged her in the worst way- including accusing her of being a terrible mother.

You are keeping the dog. It is settled. She has gone. Maybe you can stop dragging your sister on the internet now?

I just want to point out I don’t hold the kids to blame for wanting a hamster and not the dog. They are very young and don’t understand the importance of being a responsible pet owner. This is all my sisters fault.

Agree. Sister is going back to her DH and fro OP’s update it’s clear she didn’t give a monkey’s about the dog beyond getting her own way.

I was waiting for someone to still somehow blame OP with that update.

Sister has caused a lot of upset and trouble and is now saying she can keep the dog anyway. Of course OP (and her kids) are going to react to that.

I said I stepped in and told my daughter to leave it.

My daughter has had to deal with stress caused by my sister and is allowed an opinion when it involves her dog though and her life has been impacted. It is my daughter’s home and my sister has asked to be brought here. My daughter missed a night out when we went and collected my sister as she was needed to look after her younger siblings. She also missed out on a day out with me today that we had planned for weeks. Her life has been impacted and she is annoyed that our family has bent over backwards to support her and all she has seen my sister be is rude to me, my husband, my mum and dad today. My daughter was annoyed that my sister caused a big fuss about having the dog back and then now doesn’t give a shit about the dog and is off again. She is annoyed that my sister seems to have given no thought as to how stressful this has been for anyone else, her young cousins and us. She saw my sister demand rather than ask that she was taken back home tonight. By the time my sister left, it was like everything was sorted for her and she didn’t give a shit about the stress she had put anyone else through. My daughter has helped strip their beds and wash the bedding and tidy up the mess left by my sister and the kids as she has just breezed out now all is sorted for her.

My teen was spot on. I stepped in because I didn’t want another row. She has booked her flights, had made her decision, upset my parents, fucked everyone around, decided she was now ok and fuck everyone else and the dog. I stepped in because I just wanted her to leave by that point, not because my daughter was wrong. Don’t dare come for my daughter.

Agree

Oh so first you were dragging her for asking for the dog, now you are dragging her for saying you can keep him?.
Who needs enemies eh?

Yeh, not sure you seem the kindest to your poor neice's/nephew's who've been dragged across the world by their parents and now dragged back by one and oh yeh, they are separating and may divorce. Dad's abroad so they wont get to see him which is crap. Maybe show some compassion to them who had no choice and give the dog back? Or help them get a new one? I'm guessing your family life is abit more stable compared to their cousins and the lesson learned is don't get roped into helping your sis out with the first dog again. It might teach your kids that sometimes we do kind things for other people, especially when they are having a shit time.