AIBU to tell DH his once-weekly tooth brushing is off-putting?

I'm struggling to see what is disgusting about this TBH.

Oh my god this is absolutely revolting, I would seriously resent him for this as he's gone back to his old ways....

His breath must be vile (and the state of his teeth and gums) and I would be telling him without a doubt.

How on earth did you not notice this before?!

My question would be … how often is he going to the dentist? I see my hygienist every three months (he told me off today for coming too regularly) because I’m completely hysterical about my teeth and gums. Why the hell is he being so complacent about something so detrimental to health if the teeth are rotting, incredibly expensive if teeth need work and potentially non reversible if he lapsing into periodontal disease and that can cause bone loss and extractions. Honestly I’d rather not bathe, it’s cheaper!

He’s going to lose his teeth pretty quickly if his dental hygiene is so poor. He should be flossing daily as well as brushing twice a day. This will probably cost him a fortune unless he’s happy with a set of false teeth.

@Rightsraptorits better than not at all. It’s the habit that’s important.

Why "disgusting" ?????

😂😂

That’s not empathy ! It’s not her who needs the ideas.

Send him to the dentist or better still hygienist they will soon put him straight!

You mean he brushes his teeth while he's having a shower? I've heard of people doing that: I think it's disgusting.

My DH is super careful about dental hygiene but I had to tell him he had bad breath recently. He thanked me as he would rather know and do something about it. He has a dentist appointment next week.

Jesus
his teeth must be disgusting
I use a water flosser several times a day normally after I’ve eaten something
and I brush them twice a day
go to my dentist every year for a check up and regular hygienist appointments

Does your DH have a sensory issue which makes it unpleasant to brush his teeth? Some people just avoid it without having questioned why before. They can find smaller or softer headed toothbrushes (like electric ones) more comfortable. I’d also suggest linking the brushing to another regular activity eg every morning wee has to be followed by brushing. Or even set a reminder on his phone. The prospect of never being kissed again, and dentures, should give him some motivation.

Did you not tell him that the advice has been for decades (and what most people do) is to brush teeth twice a day?

I would have found this a monumental turn off many years ago. Does he ever visit a dentist?

Sounds gross he must have the breath of a 1000 camels! Get him to dentist ASAP for a special deep clean/root plaining treatment with the hygienist, his teeth must be held together with plaque

Surely it's more embarrassing for him to allow him to walk around with chronically unbrushed teeth than to say something...

I struggle with the motivation to brush myself and occasionally skip an evening or morning but this is next level. After 24 hours or so of not brushing, soft plaque turns to hard tartar that can't be brushed off.

I would book him a hygienist appt as an early birthday present (and tell him he needs to start brushing regulsrly NOW)

I don't believe he doesn't know everyone else brushes twice a day- tell him brush twice a day or save up a lot of money to have them replaced-it's as simple as that.

Sounds like my now ex-husband. He ended up having to have teeth removed as they were rotten. His breath stank and he wondered why I never wanted to kiss him, or do anything else for that matter. It was gross.

Dental and oral health have implications for many more conditions, including heart health. Brushing is about far more than hanging on to teeth and is an essential part of basic hygiene. Get fun flavoured toothpastes and sonic toothbrushes, make it something g you do at the same time, integrate it into your routine as a habit, plus research why we brush!

Dear god my dog has better oral hygiene than your husband

Jeez why U not saying anything!!!
My DH is obsessed with keeping his teeth clean and flossing but if he eats summit smelly I say ewwww your breath stinks and that's from someone who brushes his teeth 3 X a day lol 😁
How have u not smelt it or said anything ??
If your married it's normal to say these things to each other, he needs to be embarrassed 😳

This would actually be an ultimatum from me, brush daily or it’s the end. Not least that you will be the one having to listen to his moans and care for him when he has his teeth pulled out or abscesses etc, let alone the stinky breath and bacteria. I would have no qualms in saying that it is gross and unacceptable.

You didn't tell your DH his teeth looked off because you didn't want to seem impolite? What kind of relationship do you have with him?

Of course you can mention personal hygiene issues. If he didn't keep brushing them daily then tell him he's disgusting. If he's not brushing his teeth what else doesn't he do when it comes to personal hygiene?

So every meal he eats through the week lingers between his teeth?? Uuurrgghhhhhh. I’m guessing you don’t kiss much.