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AIBU to find my mum watching every nappy change a bit odd?

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Poppyseededroll · 03/09/2026 18:42

Can someone explain to me why my mum enjoys watching my baby’s nappy being changed?

Every time I go to change baby’s nappy my mum gets up to come with me and watches. She doesn’t stand back but literally at my shoulder watching baby. I find it quite weird to be honest, surely changing nappies isn’t something fun it’s just one of those slightly manky tasks that needs to be done?

I’ve tried saying to her you don’t need to get up and she say later I want to it’s cute. Really? Am I missing something?

I really don’t know whether she doesn’t trust me and wants to check if the nappy is a month old with fronts living in it or if I am being unreasonable and watching nappy changes really is sweet.

She keeps saying she wants to come over for bath time. If I thought it was for an extra pair of hands then fine; but I find the enjoyment and interest in these tasks odd.

OP posts:
Sunshine1500 · 03/09/2026 18:57

What ? You’re insinuating you can’t trust your mum changing or bathing your baby .
thats not normal to think like this!

OverpricedCupcake · 03/09/2026 18:56

Isittimeformynapyet · 03/09/2026 18:56

OP - are you insinuating that you suspect your mother of paedophilic tendencies?

Nappy changes are an intimate part of childcare so it seems more likely that it makes her feel closer to her grandchild.

I'm not sure if that's weird or not tbh.

You said it clearer than me!

Bogstandardname · 03/09/2026 18:56

Chunkybabythighs · 03/09/2026 18:54

If this was your dad you'd get very different responses. It is a bit odd op

FGS let's not start going down that route.

Isittimeformynapyet · 03/09/2026 18:56

OP - are you insinuating that you suspect your mother of paedophilic tendencies?

Nappy changes are an intimate part of childcare so it seems more likely that it makes her feel closer to her grandchild.

I'm not sure if that's weird or not tbh.

OverpricedCupcake · 03/09/2026 18:55

You're implying you think she's finding it, overly interesting?
Is this what you mean?

Chunkybabythighs · 03/09/2026 18:54

If this was your dad you'd get very different responses. It is a bit odd op

Poppyseededroll · 03/09/2026 18:52

2dogsandabudgie · 03/09/2026 18:49

This. Do you live with your mum OP?

Bath time with babies is lovely. My son in law was bathing my grand daughter recently, she's 10 months old, and he shouted downstairs to me did I want to go up.

No we don’t live there.

Bathtime might be fun, but I’m so uncomfortable with her finding nappy changes cute that I don’t really want to open up something else

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Error404FucksNotFound · 03/09/2026 18:50

Ask her what part she finds cute.

Shes probably just remembering when she was a new mum.

Poppyseededroll · 03/09/2026 18:50

Whatwouldnanado · 03/09/2026 18:47

How much time is she spending with you and the little one? Is it your first child? We have six grandkids and I have never had the urge to do this. Next time smile and say thanks mum I have got the hang of it now, could you put the kettle on please? Nip the over engagement in the bud now.

My first, her third grandchild. She probably sees us twice a week for an hour max, but during that time baby gets excited and wiggles a lot so more often than not fills a nappy. I don’t want to leave it until she’s gone because I can’t bear the thought of them maybe getting sore, but it’s making me feel uncomfortable

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2dogsandabudgie · 03/09/2026 18:49

Dithercats · 03/09/2026 18:44

Hand your mum.the baby and say i'll put a cuppa on. Enjoy the helping hands

This. Do you live with your mum OP?

Bath time with babies is lovely. My son in law was bathing my grand daughter recently, she's 10 months old, and he shouted downstairs to me did I want to go up.

Whatwouldnanado · 03/09/2026 18:47

How much time is she spending with you and the little one? Is it your first child? We have six grandkids and I have never had the urge to do this. Next time smile and say thanks mum I have got the hang of it now, could you put the kettle on please? Nip the over engagement in the bud now.

Poppyseededroll · 03/09/2026 18:47

She’s never offered any critique or advice and her enjoyment that I dont understand means I don’t want to let her do it. Also baby is lovely and clean without blowouts or nappy rash so I don’t really want to add another pair of hands to the mix and end up with a mess.

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PurplebudsWhitebuds · 03/09/2026 18:46

Oh i can understand wanting to watch bathtime. That was one of my favourite bits of my DS being a baby. He was just so happy when he was in his bath. He loved it and it was a pleasure to see him.
But I agree with you about the nappy changing. That is odd to want to watch that every time.

Jintx · 03/09/2026 18:44

My mum used to watch to make sure I'm doing it correctly and critique my method 😂

Dithercats · 03/09/2026 18:44

Hand your mum.the baby and say i'll put a cuppa on. Enjoy the helping hands

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