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AIBU to complain after my child ate poisonous items at school twice?

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LOTR21 · 03/09/2026 17:30

My child has autism and attends an SEN school. Last year and this year it has been the same layout - 4 adults to the class, 6 children (including mine).

Earlier on in the year, school called and said she had eaten something poisonous at school. She has been back a day, and they rang again to say the same thing had happened again. Last time we had to sit in hospital for 6 hours for observations, looking like it’s going the same way again today.

They know my child has a tendency to do this, but they are clearly not being watched closely enough when outside and these things are around.

AIBU to put in a complaint to school, and who to - the headteacher or head of year?

Just want to add, that if I had taken my child to hospital with two cases of poisoning over a few months that had happened at home, they would have been reporting me to social services, yet there seems to be no consequences because it’s happening at school instead and the school aren’t being reprimanded for it.

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user1492757084 · 04/09/2026 03:46

Yes, ask for better supervision.
Can you investigate whether there are comfortable, decorative and fun face masks that allow for great vision and hearing but are designed to block eating?
Would they be a useful item to invent?

OfficiallyOnVacation · 04/09/2026 03:36

The schoolteachers are being totally idiotic. They shouldn’t have 4 year old SEN kids planting bulbs fgs

Yes complain - ask to see the activity risk assessment. Four adult brains should have been able to anticipate that.

I don’t even know where to start with the poisonous fungi. Our Reception class has an outdoor area fenced off from the playground - none of the kids have “access to nature”. The school needs to rethink.

roaringdragon · 03/09/2026 23:25

I would request an early review of the EHCP and use these two incidents to push for 1:1 when DD is outside, and when doing tasks inside that use potentially toxic materials.

cestlavielife · 03/09/2026 23:18

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It is a school for kids with SEN who are likely to eat stuff
They should not be planting toxic bulbs when alternatives exist

concertinacornflake · 03/09/2026 23:16

x2boys · 03/09/2026 23:15

Wtf?
Why do posters like yourself who havent a clue bother to reply?

Oh everyone has the right to an opinion whether they have a clue or not. Just say anything, about anything.
Just make it up.

Duckduckgander · 03/09/2026 23:16

x2boys · 03/09/2026 23:15

Wtf?
Why do posters like yourself who havent a clue bother to reply?

Because they're ignorant arseholes!

x2boys · 03/09/2026 23:15

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Wtf?
Why do posters like yourself who havent a clue bother to reply?

dracn · 03/09/2026 23:10

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LovelyLassie · 03/09/2026 23:07

LizandDerekGoals · 03/09/2026 22:32

4 adults and 6 children?!?!?‘ wtf were they doing?!

if all the children are 1:1, then the staff will be stretched. Often there are a couple of violent children in such a class and when heightened the focus will be on keeping the whole class and adults safe, which can be complicated.

Switchnow · 03/09/2026 22:59

MyArtfulGreySloth · 03/09/2026 22:00

So would you prefer your child be excluded from every activity? It’s not the schools fault your kid likes to eat things they shouldn’t.

No, but it is the school’s legal and moral responsibility to take reasonable steps to prevent it.

Duckduckgander · 03/09/2026 22:55

MyArtfulGreySloth · 03/09/2026 22:00

So would you prefer your child be excluded from every activity? It’s not the schools fault your kid likes to eat things they shouldn’t.

You really have no idea. It's a SEN school they should be very aware that eating non food items is very common with SEN kids. There is no excuse for the incidents happening. The fungus should have been removed, repeatedly if need be and there are various non toxic bulbs that can be used for gardening activities with the kids.

x2boys · 03/09/2026 22:51

MyArtfulGreySloth · 03/09/2026 22:00

So would you prefer your child be excluded from every activity? It’s not the schools fault your kid likes to eat things they shouldn’t.

Did you miss the fact its a special school?
If its anything like my sons specisl school loads of kids will have pica and be trying to eat inedible things.

TheLette · 03/09/2026 22:44

Surely it would take more than one mouthful for a child to eat a bulb? Or was it a really small one / did your child just ram it down before anyone could stop them? Just wondering how no one stopped them mid-eating! Surely no one should be eating during a gardening activity and proper supervision would identify eating (even if it couldn't prevent it first).

cestlavielife · 03/09/2026 22:42

Safe Bulb Options

  • Muscari (Grape Hyacinth): Produces lovely blue spikes in spring and is great for naturalising.
  • Crocosmia: Features bright orange-red summer blooms and sword-like leaves.
  • Edible Alliums: While ornamental varieties should be handled with care, true edible allium bulbs like garlic, chives, and onions are safe to grow
cestlavielife · 03/09/2026 22:39

An SEN school shoukd be taking care that garden items are non toxic. So dont plant poisonous bulbs. Etc. Raise it with the governors. They can create edible garden
Creating an edible sensory garden for our students | by Henshaws | Medium share.google/3DEl12UHc6F8qqrRy

Glidinglikeaswan · 03/09/2026 22:35

LOTR21 · 03/09/2026 21:56

No, they were doing planting as a class activity. However, the school was completely unable to identify what bulbs they were actually planting so I had no information to go off when getting to the hospital so we never actually found out what my child had eaten!

Not knowing what the bulbs are is insane. Many bulbs (eg daffodils, prepared hyacinths) cause skin reactions in a high percentage of people. Sounds like they didn't do a proper risk assessment of the activity for all the children - and the adults.

LizandDerekGoals · 03/09/2026 22:32

4 adults and 6 children?!?!?‘ wtf were they doing?!

Sam1000 · 03/09/2026 22:30

Ofsted!

Dreameth · 03/09/2026 22:28

Ooo.

Make sure they get a tetanus shot.

Regarding poster above saying remove/ fence off all plants - that’s absolutely ridiculous. Only way round this is supervision.

SpottyPyjama · 03/09/2026 22:25

Who do you expect ‘the school’ to be reprimanded by? That is a silly comment.
I work in an SEN school and children have a very high level of supervision but they are not 1 to 1.
when we’ve become aware that mushrooms are growing in the playground we go out and check each morning and remove any that we see before the children go out, but I can see how that would be missed so early in the school year before anyone is aware of what’s growing.

It does seem a bit strange that they don’t know what type of bulbs they are planting, so this is worth questioning. However, you sound like you’re looking for an argument with the school, which won’t achieve anything. There are going to be a lot of various staff members working with your child and she will
not be supervised as closely as she is with you got her entire time at school unless her needs are extremely high and she is given funding for 1-1. If she is developing a tendency to eat non edible things then you need to ask that this is included in her risk assessments and profile/ passport/whatever document the school
uses in classes, and maybe explore a PICA diagnosis.

DaisyChain505 · 03/09/2026 22:05

Definitely a safeguarding issue and should be investigated.

Ineffable23 · 03/09/2026 22:04

MyArtfulGreySloth · 03/09/2026 22:00

So would you prefer your child be excluded from every activity? It’s not the schools fault your kid likes to eat things they shouldn’t.

It's a SEN school, I am pretty sure it's reasonable to expect them to be able to adequately supervise children with SEN.

DailyEnergyCrisis · 03/09/2026 22:02

I’d raise with the school governors- there will be one appointed to health and safety matters.

MyArtfulGreySloth · 03/09/2026 22:00

So would you prefer your child be excluded from every activity? It’s not the schools fault your kid likes to eat things they shouldn’t.