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Things not what they seem ?

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Daygloboo · 03/09/2026 09:09

I know someone who makes a great big song about how lovely food is but doesnt actually seem to eat much. It took me a while to twig....if indeed I have got the right end of the stick. They are often lovely and I would never mention it but of late Ive felt uncomfortable as if there is a whole layer of something that is actually driving the entire dynamic and that things have not been what they seem for a very long time.

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Daygloboo · 03/09/2026 10:06

OX0 · 03/09/2026 10:04

What is it you think is going on?

An eating problem

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OX0 · 03/09/2026 10:04

What is it you think is going on?

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Daygloboo · 03/09/2026 10:02

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 03/09/2026 09:39

I'm often at the receiving end of comments like this. I love my food but have a small appetite. I'm fed up of hints and digs about suspected disordered eating.

I'm in my 60s, super fit, and healthy with a BMI of about 22 (I can't give an exact figure because I don't weigh myself but that was the result at my last health check 4 years ago) so there are no medical grounds for people's faux or genuine concerns.

it is perfectly possible to love food AND eat small portions.

Yeah, I'm sure that's true on a lot if cases, but in the particularccase I'm talkkng aboit I thjnk yhere might be something ellse going on.

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Daygloboo · 03/09/2026 09:47

ColdAsAWitches · 03/09/2026 09:34

They could be anorexic, they could be one of the lizard people. Your post isn't exactly full of details of what you're on about.

I had a school friend who was really bubbly, intelligent, made the whole class laugh. My best friend in the lower years.Then in 6th form and beyond she became judgemental, scoffing, mocking, competitive and seemed to develop a completely different personality..she met up with me and another friend several years later and told us she had food problems, so I'm.probably s bit sensitive to the whole issue. I know it's an illness but if there is a barrier between you and the other person because it's so secretive, you cant really bring it up, can you, even though it might be driving the whole dynamic of your friendship. That's the problem I guess..... not knowing what to do with that..

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SilenceInside · 03/09/2026 09:47

Unless you are often making food and serving it to this person, why does it matter? Even then, it wouldn’t be a big deal. They may have some issues around food and eating - are you saying that’s affecting your whole relationship?

JLou08 · 03/09/2026 09:46

People can love food without over eating. Unless you live with this person, you couldn't know that they don't eat much. Don't most people do the majority of their eating at home?

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 03/09/2026 09:39

I'm often at the receiving end of comments like this. I love my food but have a small appetite. I'm fed up of hints and digs about suspected disordered eating.

I'm in my 60s, super fit, and healthy with a BMI of about 22 (I can't give an exact figure because I don't weigh myself but that was the result at my last health check 4 years ago) so there are no medical grounds for people's faux or genuine concerns.

it is perfectly possible to love food AND eat small portions.

ColdAsAWitches · 03/09/2026 09:34

They could be anorexic, they could be one of the lizard people. Your post isn't exactly full of details of what you're on about.

ZippyPeer · 03/09/2026 09:19

I'm sorry but this makes no sense to me. Could you explain more about what you are talking about?