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Mum told me on the day of tutoring that there is no more tutoring

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Thatyachtmusicsong · 02/09/2026 20:37

Can anyone help please?

I do private tutoring and have tutored one student twice per week for three years.
She has had some health issues and we changed from tutoring at her home to online 6 or so months ago.
We tutored over summer until the last few weeks of August when she said she was taking a breaj for summer and would tutor again as always in September.
Today I messaged in the morning checking that all was okay for tutoring in the evening and the mum told me that they decided to take her out of school and have signed up to an online school.
The mum said she doesn't know about the future and how things will go and she would take a pause for our tutoring as it may be too much for her.
I feel sad for her and understand the situation, but this has come as a real shock to me as we rely on those lessons financially. I had done tje planning for September and feel shocked they only let me know on the day of tutoring, which leaves me no time to find something else.

Stupidly, I don't have a contract.

What would you do about this situation?

Would it be fair to ask for a months payment since I had no notice etc?

Feel like I've really been left in the lurch

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hiredandsqueak · 04/09/2026 19:31

For dd's tutors we agreed start dates at the end of the last school year. Then yesterday the tutors checked in hoping we had had a lovely summer and confirming the dates already agreed. I feel terrible if I have to cancel a session because of illness but tutors are paid if cancellation within 24h of lesson. I think you need a contract and to agree Ts&Cs before taking on more students.

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 19:23

KilkennyCats · 04/09/2026 19:03

How are you “out of a job”, was she your only client? If you’re so reliant on the income, why haven’t you built up a proper client base?

Out of a job with them...the largest bulk of pay came from them

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KilkennyCats · 04/09/2026 19:03

Thatyachtmusicsong · 02/09/2026 21:08

I would. I would never put someone out of a job two hours before they were due to come, after they'd texted me first to check all was ok for the lesson. If I hadn't, she probably wouldn't have even told me today

How are you “out of a job”, was she your only client? If you’re so reliant on the income, why haven’t you built up a proper client base?

NavyBlueJeans · 04/09/2026 18:58

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 18:18

I had an online interview yesterday and have advertised so should be ok, just am quite curious why they're going down this route. She doesn't like to leave the house, but when she was ill the first time, they hired me to do homeschooling with her at her house and then she went back to school and I carried on twice a week after school

They are moving on with their lives and you have to do the same, there's no point in dwelling on this, or wondering if they'll ask you to come back.

Please ensure you clearly outline your terms and conditions to any new families you agree to tutor, so that you don't end up in this situation again, and have enough students on your books so that if any cancel you still have an adequate income to get you by until new students start. It's also important to keep your relationship with your students and their parents professional - the lines seem to have become blurred with this family.

honeylulu · 04/09/2026 18:57

I'm glad the dad paid you. Even though you weren't strictly entitled, I do think it was the right thing for him to do and there was definitely no harm in asking! Not rude or cheeky, you asked politely and explained why. The worst that could have happened is that he ignored you.

I'm surprised that posters were telling you that you shouldn't have asked. On another thread a poster wants to cancel her hairdresser with more than a weeks notice and people keep saying she should pay for the slot anyway. I wonder what would gave happened if the mother posted here and said she'd cancelled her child's tutor indefinitely with 2 hours notice but there are no t&cs for cancellation payments so not planning to pay. Posters would be falling over themselves to call her a CF!

Have a look at getting some t&cs in place for your other clients.

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 04/09/2026 18:55

Students shouldn't be communicating with teachers/tutors like that.

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 18:44

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 04/09/2026 18:32

Why does the pupil even have your number? Surely that's not remotely appropriate for a teacher/student relationship?

? She texted from her mum's phone to say thank you, I don't think that's inappropriate? her mum communicates via Whatsapp.

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beaglescurleduplikebagels · 04/09/2026 18:32

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 17:38

Feel a bit sad. The pupil sent me a text saying she hopes I had a good summer and that she just wanted to say thank you so much for all my help and that i've been the best teacher
I'm guessing it's not a pause?
What are online schools like though? I'm really not sure she'll cope with it?

Why does the pupil even have your number? Surely that's not remotely appropriate for a teacher/student relationship?

IdaGlossop · 04/09/2026 18:30

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 17:38

Feel a bit sad. The pupil sent me a text saying she hopes I had a good summer and that she just wanted to say thank you so much for all my help and that i've been the best teacher
I'm guessing it's not a pause?
What are online schools like though? I'm really not sure she'll cope with it?

It's a tribute to you and very sweet that the pupil has texted you. Now you need to draw a line and use your energy to look for new work. You've had a shock, you've been paid, the family has moved on.

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 18:18

I had an online interview yesterday and have advertised so should be ok, just am quite curious why they're going down this route. She doesn't like to leave the house, but when she was ill the first time, they hired me to do homeschooling with her at her house and then she went back to school and I carried on twice a week after school

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Migalow · 04/09/2026 17:58

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 17:38

Feel a bit sad. The pupil sent me a text saying she hopes I had a good summer and that she just wanted to say thank you so much for all my help and that i've been the best teacher
I'm guessing it's not a pause?
What are online schools like though? I'm really not sure she'll cope with it?

Why are you still thinking it might be a pause?

You need to crack on, advertise and get those empty slots filled. You have a month.

NavyBlueJeans · 04/09/2026 17:56

minipie · 04/09/2026 17:49

You know it’s not a pause OP, they have said so. Wish your former pupil all the best, make a diary note to send a Christmas card (aka reminder that you exist if it’s not working) - and then move on.

Yes, wish her well and move on with your life. Have you decided what you're going to do? Are you looking for more pupils to tutor and preparing contracts, etc., or are you going to look for work as an employee somewhere?

minipie · 04/09/2026 17:49

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 17:38

Feel a bit sad. The pupil sent me a text saying she hopes I had a good summer and that she just wanted to say thank you so much for all my help and that i've been the best teacher
I'm guessing it's not a pause?
What are online schools like though? I'm really not sure she'll cope with it?

You know it’s not a pause OP, they have said so. Wish your former pupil all the best, make a diary note to send a Christmas card (aka reminder that you exist if it’s not working) - and then move on.

MichaelmasDaisiesAndAutumSunset · 04/09/2026 17:42

I looked at online school. The one we looked at had tiny classes. Head was also very education focussed - told me at this stage to just hire a primary teacher for 4 hours a day as better for my children’s ages and set up. Did seem very flexible.

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 17:38

Feel a bit sad. The pupil sent me a text saying she hopes I had a good summer and that she just wanted to say thank you so much for all my help and that i've been the best teacher
I'm guessing it's not a pause?
What are online schools like though? I'm really not sure she'll cope with it?

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ClawsandEffect · 04/09/2026 12:16

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 08:46

Yes true!

Thanks x

There are LOADS of good agencies out there for tutoring. Have your rate set in stone, so you can't be talked down. The good ones will pay it. The ones that won't you know are top loading their profit, rather than your earning.

Do a Google. You'll be snowed under, so do a BCC'd mailshot email application to cut down the leg work you have to do.

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Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 08:46

LittleMissFooled · 04/09/2026 08:39

Well it’s true what they say ‘if you don’t ask, you don’t get!’.

Join PMT Education. Online tutoring. I found a science tutor on there for my daughter. Payment is in advance of lesson.

Yes true!

Thanks x

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LittleMissFooled · 04/09/2026 08:39

Thatyachtmusicsong · 03/09/2026 13:26

He's paying me for the month 🙏 He said yes of course and to remind him how much. He said best not to mention it to the mum (his ex) and she doesn't really get these things. They are very different characters, he always pays me though and it's from his money
i'm so relieved but also need to find work asap before the month is out

Thank you for all who have given advice

I think it's easier to try to find a job where they just pay me and I have some security if anything goes wrong.

Well it’s true what they say ‘if you don’t ask, you don’t get!’.

Join PMT Education. Online tutoring. I found a science tutor on there for my daughter. Payment is in advance of lesson.

Thatyachtmusicsong · 04/09/2026 08:27

Joliefolie · 04/09/2026 00:09

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? 😅

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Joliefolie · 04/09/2026 00:09

Thatyachtmusicsong · 03/09/2026 23:30

Yes she's a strong lady, I don't understand either why it would be her concern what he pays for when they're not together, it is a bit odd.
He pays for education etc-previously private school. He is the calmer, kinder one from what I can see

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ifonlytheydlisten · 03/09/2026 23:31

tutors often are cash in hand no contract. So risks are there

Thatyachtmusicsong · 03/09/2026 23:31

Joliefolie · 03/09/2026 23:15

Surprising how the dad had no input/idea on the tutoring requirements/changes for his child and just pays for it as instructed by his ex/you. Good for you that he is "kind" - you know what you need to do from here on!

Do you mean set up contracts?

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Thatyachtmusicsong · 03/09/2026 23:30

Joliefolie · 03/09/2026 23:15

Surprising how the dad had no input/idea on the tutoring requirements/changes for his child and just pays for it as instructed by his ex/you. Good for you that he is "kind" - you know what you need to do from here on!

Yes she's a strong lady, I don't understand either why it would be her concern what he pays for when they're not together, it is a bit odd.
He pays for education etc-previously private school. He is the calmer, kinder one from what I can see

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Joliefolie · 03/09/2026 23:15

Surprising how the dad had no input/idea on the tutoring requirements/changes for his child and just pays for it as instructed by his ex/you. Good for you that he is "kind" - you know what you need to do from here on!

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