Isn't "she" gorgeous? Look at "her".......argh!

Thank you for saying this @HibiscusIsland1. I heard ‘Ooh, she’s a feisty one!’ squealed about a jar of sourdough starter the other day and wanted to rip my own head off. It seems especially prevalent about food items being made. I HATE IT.

The word "haul" makes me cringe when it is being used by influencers for their videos of the latest load of stuff they have bought from Temu/Shien/Primark/The Range/B and M/Home Bargains. I must confess to hate watching a few on YouTube and wondering where on earth they put all the things they buy every month, how can they ever wear even a quarter of it, how many handbags,(" it's giving me Chanel vibes") how much costume jewellery, toiletries does one person actually use? Do they send half of it back, sell it on? how much money can you make on YouTube by just filming yourself going round these places every month and then then wafting on about it online?

Vocal Fry is the horrible gratey sound beloved of young ladies especially.
I don't know why they do it , elongated the end of the word but with a throatiness.

Practically every female voice on YouTube does it some worse than others.
I don't do Tik Tok . If combust 😆

I have read that with cars it was because engines at the time were fickle and tricky to keep happy, so they referred to anything with an engine in it as female!

Grinds my gears is pretty dreadful tbh

What is vocal fry please?

Its stupid, along with the obsession of tapping everything.

I’m very exited today! Where’s all my bronzer loving girlies at?! There’s a hot new edit from pukeybydingbat, she’s gorgeous and I am obsessed! Grab your coffee, I’m going to swatch them all for you!

aka ‘ bye this, commission paid’.

My robot vacuum is a he called Clive

More over Wiltshire way, but I think she spent part of her life in Somerset. Yes, as you write it was very much as she sounded. I love the switching around of objective pronouns and subjective ones (I think that is the right way of putting it???) -- "'Ee be too fancy for I, thick ole bag, but I'll 'ave ee anyway!"

I've probably got it all wrong. Years since she was around. Closest I hear of her voice now is when I watch The Singing Detective - the bits in the Forest of Dean.

Yep and also that clapping thing with two fingers

It’s the use of the word ‘girlies’ that grinds my gears. ‘Autumn girlies…’, London girlies…’, ‘Matcha girlies…’. Since when were adult women happy to be infantilised like this FFS?

I hate this and can’t continue to watch anyone who does it. Holding up a handbag and saying “Look at her. I’m obsessed” and then tapping nails on it.

No.

Agreed OP. It sounds ridiculous. In every accent.

Why do they all follow the same patterns and use identical phrases? To do with the algorithm I presume.

Also: she's giving Autumn/cosy/ (insert commercial hard sell words here) vibes...

Has it replaced describing everything from a shed to a sausage roll as 'this bad boy'?

It’s the finger movements for me! Tapping and pincer like claws when talking. Makes me cringe.

Ooo eerrrr missus

There is so much shit out there especially on line that people get excited about. So many brain deads if this is what passes for excitement.

This is misgendering and it is literal genocide.

Another trend, not that recent, but disconcerting. 30 years ago I was in a posh shop where they spoke of 'a well-cut trouser' and even 'a suitable knicker'.

Not the same I suppose, but if I remove a contraceptive implant that’s being a real fucking stubborn pain in the arse, I automatically refer to it as ‘he’ !

Any straightforward removal is an ‘it’!

And it " screams class"
This navy trousers with the red shoe is giving me Cote dAzure vibes, it just screams class .

No.

This trend (on Insta etc) for referring to inanimate objects as "she"........it is infuriating - handbags, holiday homes, bronzer

Has anyone asked the handbag, the holiday home or the bronzer their preferred pronouns?

Why would you watch trash on social media if it just winds you up? I don't even have an Instagram account, so I have no idea what you are talking about.

I've noticed this trend big time in reference to dresses, but not so much other objects; likely a reflection of my social media interests rather than the ubiquity of the vocabulary.

I agree that using "she" to name an 'it' is conspicuously jarring. I'm not used to it. I am 53.

However, I do think it may be worth thinking about more deeply before casting scorn. Ships and planes etc were labelled 'she' by men. Women have historically rarely had the opportunity to label anything using 'our' third person personal pronoun.

Male coded vocabulary is so often widely used as the default that it becomes very easy to accept it as normal and view anything else as weird.

I can't help but feel that reclaiming even this tiny bit of feminine space and language is good and reflects psychic progress in gender equality.

I do see where you're coming from, feeling that it's infantilizing and twee. Maybe that's because handbags and bronzer and dresses are so female-coded. But doesn't society diminish and infantilize femaleness? Could that be the source of our collective discomfort, rather than the language?

I have probably hugely over-thought and over-complicated your AIBU question. Those are traits I possess. But here's my tuppence worth anyway.