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AIBU to expect contact with my children while they are away camping?

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Dolphinoise · 02/09/2026 09:38

My 2 children have been camping this weekend with their dad since Friday. Contact has been a bit tricky, he left me for another woman and I sent a few nasty messages a few years ago which led me to being blocked. I know I shouldn’t have done it, I was angry and I acted out. Fast forward 3 years I am happy with somebody else and I am still blocked. He can contact me when he likes but not the other way around.

i had a strange voicemail from my ex and his partner in the background was slagging me off saying it’s been 4 days, I don’t know what they have done etc like im not interested?

the kids could have gave me a call, I missed them so much and would have loved to speak to them. Surely she knows im blocked so my hands are tied so not sure what she expects me to do?

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Dolphinoise · 02/09/2026 10:01

Twoshoesnewshoes · 02/09/2026 09:59

How old are the children?
tbh they should be able to call you if they want to, but definitely not an expectation. They need to enjoy themselves with their Dad.

I have got used to the idea that I don’t hear from them when they are with dad. If they wanted to call
me they would have done I presume. As long as they are happy that is all I care about, if I would have called I probably would have been slagged off anyway, can’t win.

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UniquePinkSwan · 02/09/2026 10:00

Would you like it if the dad called constantly when you were on holiday with them?

Dolphinoise · 02/09/2026 09:59

It’s unfair of her to say that when I don’t have the means to contact them if I wanted to?

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Twoshoesnewshoes · 02/09/2026 09:59

How old are the children?
tbh they should be able to call you if they want to, but definitely not an expectation. They need to enjoy themselves with their Dad.

Dolphinoise · 02/09/2026 09:56

He won’t unblock me I have asked. I have even apologised for my behaviour and explained that I was hurt. This was 3 years ago and I am
in a much better place now. I just don’t think it is fair that he can get in touch with me when he likes but not the other way around.

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Lulu1919 · 02/09/2026 09:54

Ignore her
ask ex to unblock you for the sake of the children.