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AIBU to think parents should lose benefits /homes for persistently antisocial children?

313 replies

Soddingcat · 02/09/2026 06:31

This has been suggested, im not sure if it will happen , but i think this is a great idea, if the parents think they will lose their council house and benefits , they may attempt to to control their feral offspring .

My friend is in a local harriers group that starts at a local sports centre in the rough part of town, they are now having to stop their favourite route because of gangs of young teens who intimidate them , run along side them and are abusive, one delightful boy said “ lift your legs higher you c**t ,

How have we come to this ?
Do you think it will make any difference ?

I would remove child benefit from them too , maybe this will force them to parent if they risk losing money or their home

Obviously not all the parents are bad, but virtually all the awful kids round here riding motor bikes with hoods, abusing people are from the council estates near by

Im absolutely sick of it, and sick of decent people being targeted by them

What rules /sanctions would wise mumsnetters suggest ?

OP posts:
Jane379 · 02/09/2026 11:00

LittleFootprintsInSand · 02/09/2026 08:11

Like the reform schools or industrial schools of old or the residential SEMH special schools of new?

You know it's not that simple right? Housing all these kids together, with seriously challenging behaviours, expecting (relatively low paid) staff to deal with it without becoming cruel, developing certain institutional cultures or ever snapping?

This, sexual abuse was known to be a problem in the old borstals. The staff would need to be highly motivated and trustworthy...

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:58

Howmanycatsistoomany · 02/09/2026 10:55

But one of the main roles of the police is to prevent crime. More physical police presence in communities, regular patrols, etc, would go a long way to achieving that and would address the problem of feral youths.

Yes, we definitely do need more physical presence. The paperwork issue needs to be fixed but not at the expense of that. It seems somewhat like the NHS, where we still have paper for a lot of stuff that other countries have online, and healthcare staff are bogged down in paperwork.

Error404FucksNotFound · 02/09/2026 10:55

Ok.
And how does that work for people who own their own homes? Do you propose they are seized by the local authority?
And people not on benefits? Do you propose they have the equivalent benefit amount deducted from their wages?

Howmanycatsistoomany · 02/09/2026 10:55

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:39

This is true but as some criminals lawyers point out, we also need more efficient police paperwork management. At the moment many cases fall through due to badly collated evidence. While it may be foolhardy, I do hope that maybe AI could help with the paperwork issue so the police can focus on physical policing.

But one of the main roles of the police is to prevent crime. More physical police presence in communities, regular patrols, etc, would go a long way to achieving that and would address the problem of feral youths.

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:53

Fieldday26 · 02/09/2026 10:47

One example is, police are rarely able to chase down the youths on electric scooters because it is deemed unsafe to chase them.

Car thief’s are often let go once they go into a residential area or the wrong way down the road etc.

I obviously understand this is for the publics safety but the criminals know exactly what is and isn’t allowed.

I see what you mean but this is, as you say, partly to protect the police, not simply giving criminals more rights than victims.

It's very hard, as the police shouldn't be put in unnecessary danger but we do also need to catch the types.

Lomonald · 02/09/2026 10:51

Fieldday26 · 02/09/2026 10:47

One example is, police are rarely able to chase down the youths on electric scooters because it is deemed unsafe to chase them.

Car thief’s are often let go once they go into a residential area or the wrong way down the road etc.

I obviously understand this is for the publics safety but the criminals know exactly what is and isn’t allowed.

It is big electric bikes here they race up and down the town centre, popping wheelies they are an absolute menace, the police are stuck between a rock&hard place.

Fieldday26 · 02/09/2026 10:47

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:34

'We place fair too many rights on the criminal / antisocial people to properly be able to enforce good behaviour.'

Can you expand on what you mean by this?

I don't think we have gone too far to restore. Imo the main issue is that we need to build more prisons. At the moment they are at breaking point so there is little room left. The one near me is housing hundreds more than it was built for.

One example is, police are rarely able to chase down the youths on electric scooters because it is deemed unsafe to chase them.

Car thief’s are often let go once they go into a residential area or the wrong way down the road etc.

I obviously understand this is for the publics safety but the criminals know exactly what is and isn’t allowed.

Laurmolonlabe · 02/09/2026 10:46

Peronally I would review social housing every 3 years, checking the people who are registered are actually the people living there, I would also check for complaints against the property for noise and anti social behaviour. Whether the whole property is occupied , and I would also check for complaints against the children in the house and the income of the adults ( to show they actually need subsidised housing). Using all these metrics the tenants could stay, or not depending on all these factors.
Obviously this would not remove the councils responsibility to house the tenants, but the possibility of being moved to B&B accomodation might improve behaviour, and the system would open up more housing for those in the most need.

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 02/09/2026 10:45

Maybe a curfew?

more tagging? It is surely more cost effective to tag than anything else? Computers would do most of the work, and when an alarm goes off then the police could get involved and the strikes start to build up towards a greater penalty This would weed out the less persistent offenders, I reckon - those who are basically good kids from good homes, because their parents would enforce the tag and they themselves would want to play ball to get rid of it

Police and social services would then be able to concentrate on the little scrotes who don’t give a toss and just refuse to stay within the tag perimeter (home and school), whose parents either won’t or can’t control them.

OonaStubbs · 02/09/2026 10:45

Yes I would evict them and they would lose their right to be housed. They would have to rely on the private sector, or just be homeless.

Mamamiacanisitthisoneout · 02/09/2026 10:44

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:39

This is true but as some criminals lawyers point out, we also need more efficient police paperwork management. At the moment many cases fall through due to badly collated evidence. While it may be foolhardy, I do hope that maybe AI could help with the paperwork issue so the police can focus on physical policing.

I think WRT teen anti social behaviour having someone patrolling and getting to know the teens can really help. When I was a teenager there were always patrols passing through on evenings, whether you lived in a town or village. There was a presence that kept the teens in order and gave residents someone to approach should anything occur.

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:44

DrumsPleaseFab · 02/09/2026 07:55

Tired of anti social behaviour too but not sure this is a solution

there is no longer any respect for authority in our society and this has partly to do with status and pay. Police and teachers and social workers and anyone really are not just not respected, they are despised and treated badly and paid badly, which all fits together.

Not sure what the solution is

there is no turning back

it is like a cultural shift where everyone knows their “rights” but nobody wants to have any duties or obligations

or maybe I am just officially old haha

'there is no longer any respect for authority in our society and this has partly to do with status and pay. Police and teachers and social workers and anyone really are not just not respected, they are despised and treated badly and paid badly, which all fits together.'

  • I think this is too pessimistic. There have always been gangs and crime in some areas, look at the East End of the Kray Twins era, or in the years before. The problem now is that there 's extra elements : zombie knives, drugs, online radicalisation...
CaptainMyCaptain · 02/09/2026 10:42

Howmanycatsistoomany · 02/09/2026 10:35

How have we come to this ?

We got rid of local bobbies patrolling the streets. The current standard of policing in the UK leaves a lot to be desired.

There's not a lot of respect for the Police among many MN users who presumably are not all in council houses and on benefits (while I'm sure most council house tenants and benefits claimants are perfectly law abiding) so why would the criminally disposed behave better with hobbies on the beat?

lljkk · 02/09/2026 10:40

Yeah it's definitely going to make out of control kids behave better if their parents live on the streets. Probably thieving and begging to get food or money. Sure, that will help. #AnyMoreGeniusIdeas?

Strict public boarding schools for the miscreant kids and foster care for the innocent kids? Since foster care places are so bountiful... and yeah residential care for kids without stable homes has a great track record (Barnardo's homes). And of course we know how much the public loves to plough taxpayer funding into public services, especially when the service might benefit miscreants. This is why our prisons are so well funded and have a great record for stopping re-offending. #Sarcasm

I wonder if social workers aren't respected because the public is told heavily how incompetent they are when they "should" be able to stop bad things happening, they let Baby P happen, etc. Why would you fund and promote the status of people vilified for not fixing enormous social problems?

Pffffffttt.

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:39

Howmanycatsistoomany · 02/09/2026 10:35

How have we come to this ?

We got rid of local bobbies patrolling the streets. The current standard of policing in the UK leaves a lot to be desired.

This is true but as some criminals lawyers point out, we also need more efficient police paperwork management. At the moment many cases fall through due to badly collated evidence. While it may be foolhardy, I do hope that maybe AI could help with the paperwork issue so the police can focus on physical policing.

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:37

Thechickenhasmypillow · 02/09/2026 10:25

I lived in a high rise for many years, it was decided it's easier to group the problem families together.

It was absolute hell, at times terrifying. My car was vandalised, I witnessed stabbings, they set fire to their own home etc.

I honestly don't give a shit about the whole demographic any more and I grew up there with a teenage mother.

Set them adrift for all I care as ong as they are away from me and mine.

I'm really sorry. 💐

This is key problem: grouping aggressive families together makes them worse, but non aggressive ones understandably don't want and shouldn't have to live near them.

Howmanycatsistoomany · 02/09/2026 10:35

How have we come to this ?

We got rid of local bobbies patrolling the streets. The current standard of policing in the UK leaves a lot to be desired.

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:34

Fieldday26 · 02/09/2026 06:40

Whilst I can see how that feels appealing, it would just drive the families further into poverty and homelessness and then eventually more crime.

Im not sure what we can do about it. I think as a country we are too far gone to restore. We don’t have enough police resources or respect for authority, We place fair too many rights on the criminal / antisocial people to properly be able to enforce good behaviour.

'We place fair too many rights on the criminal / antisocial people to properly be able to enforce good behaviour.'

Can you expand on what you mean by this?

I don't think we have gone too far to restore. Imo the main issue is that we need to build more prisons. At the moment they are at breaking point so there is little room left. The one near me is housing hundreds more than it was built for.

CaptainMyCaptain · 02/09/2026 10:32

Its a stupid idea. So, they already have chaotic lives snd you make them homeless with no money? How does that improve things?

I don't suppose I'm the first to point this out as I haven't RTFT.

Jane379 · 02/09/2026 10:30

Soddingcat · 02/09/2026 08:04

My kids are not perfect at all, they are young adults now, we have all had terrible racist abuse, my 26 year old son was punched in the chest by a tracksuit clad cyclist when walking across a bridge recently

My post was intended to discuss what people think solutions are,

I just think that the current acceptance and excuses made for them do not help in the long term .

Im happy to be wrong , it all just feels a bit desperate now.
I live near Middlesbrough and it is lawless there.

This is awful, I'm really sorry. I'm not sure about the benefits measure though. This needs to be stopped somehow but it seems somewhat of a blunt instrument to punish parents who may not be responsible. Single women in particular may find it very hard to physically control aggressive teen boys no matter how much they might want to.

But clearly a lot of parents do NOT care, and they should be made to take the penalty.

Thechickenhasmypillow · 02/09/2026 10:29

Raspbellies · 02/09/2026 10:25

They will steal.

They already steal.

ISpyNoPlumPie · 02/09/2026 10:29

MissMappsGardenProduce · 02/09/2026 10:22

I'm sorry to say @ISpyNoPlumPie that is all bollocks.

What do you propose?

I'm off now but look forward to reading your suggestions later

🤣

Cos you said it!!! Ok! You say eugenics is a brilliant idea. That’s an opinion, and one with a disgusting history so I’m not engaging with your opinions. You say countries with the death penalty have lower rates of criminal activity. That’s evidentially incorrect so no need to engage with your “facts” either.

I enjoy a debate. I enjoy a discussion of evidence. I like to keep an open mind. I see this is not what you are here for! Enjoy your rage ❤️

JohnofWessex · 02/09/2026 10:28

Howmanycatsistoomany · 02/09/2026 10:26

Not even remotely true that those who hunt are upper class but don't let facts get in the way!

Irrespective of the demographic if hunts and their supporters were vile that would be a major improvement.

Howmanycatsistoomany · 02/09/2026 10:26

Slightyamusedandsilly · 02/09/2026 06:43

So the riding roughshod over land and abuse thrown at the general public by those on horseback in the fox hunt is totally different? They are violent, will use their whips and have no respect for land ownership or others but because they're upper class, it's acceptable?

This issue is absolutely not confined to the lower classes. They're just the low hanging fruit it's possible to sanction. The upper classes have the money and the power so they're untouchable.

Not even remotely true that those who hunt are upper class but don't let facts get in the way!

Raspbellies · 02/09/2026 10:25

MissMappsGardenProduce · 02/09/2026 09:55

They start selling things. They get a job, two extra jobs. Who cares? I don't.

Do what they must and I hope it fucking hurts.

They will steal.