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To ask how often you encounter snobbiness?

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Thatuglywasp · 01/09/2026 16:40

Before moving in with my partner I lived in a studio flat alone, in a perfectly good area. Not a very luxurious, well-to-do millionaires' row by any means, but not run-down or dangerous either, just perfectly normal, near to a big shopping area, hospital, just completely average.

Saw a friend and her husband and he said 'Oh that's not the best area of that place' when I said exactly where I lived. The friend then gave me a lift home at around 7pm and parked on the street. She asked me if I could walk her back to her car as she'd seen a man walk down that road and was 'scared'. Just a normal-looking man, walking down the road, no reason whatsoever to assume anything untoward.

They live in an area where footballers and real housewives' cast live so anywhere else probably seems like slums to them, but it was ott! I lived there for a year and had no issues whatsoever, I found the area very convenient.

I have a car from the 2010s with a 1.4 engine, it obviously hasn't got all the latest tech but it's a very reliable car known for its durability and is a good size, smooth, never had any problems with it only the usual servicing brake pads etc.. recently someone found out what car it was and said "Oh I assume that's only used for shorter trips then as it can't provide much comfort".

I didn't say anything but laughed to myself, they must think any car before 2020 is some sort of flintstones vehicle that will crumple if it leaves the postcode area, and newer cars eject champagne and canapés from the dashboard and some sort of business class experience.

I think people sometimes just say these things without meaning to be harsh, just stereotypes or comparing to their own lifestyles. I just roll my eyes internally, does anyone else have this?

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TooOrangey · 01/09/2026 16:59

I’m an inveterate snob and I’ll happily admit it. But it won’t be about cars as I have no interest in them at all, including mine. Someone asked me what my husband drives and I said ‘a BMW 🤷🏻‍♀️’, later realised it’s an Audi.

FoodieDench · 01/09/2026 16:58

Oh every day, in my own head. Other people are dreadful!

Firstbornunicorn · 01/09/2026 16:57

Every time I see my MIL and almost every time I open Mumsnet.

Thatuglywasp · 01/09/2026 16:56

There's nothing wrong with wanting nice things for yourself, but it's when they put other people down, there's no need.

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beaglescurleduplikebagels · 01/09/2026 16:55

On here, constantly.

In real life? Never.

Willreturnforsure2 · 01/09/2026 16:53

Honestly…. Never

CaptainMyCaptain · 01/09/2026 16:52

dottiehens · 01/09/2026 16:48

You do you. Snobs are going to snob. However, tbh the UK average area looks much worse compared to other places in Europe. Sad fact.

Even Ubers are much better here in Europe. All new cars and proud clean drivers. It is all so scruffy in the UK. 🫤

I imagine this is the kind of snobbish comment the OP was referring to.

nomas · 01/09/2026 16:52

I think a lot of people are snobby but they are very good at hiding it.

Also, some people are snobby about wanting the best for themselves but they won’t care if others have something inferior.

dottiehens · 01/09/2026 16:48

You do you. Snobs are going to snob. However, tbh the UK average area looks much worse compared to other places in Europe. Sad fact.

Even Ubers are much better here in Europe. All new cars and proud clean drivers. It is all so scruffy in the UK. 🫤

Hiredgun · 01/09/2026 16:46

Thatuglywasp · 01/09/2026 16:40

Before moving in with my partner I lived in a studio flat alone, in a perfectly good area. Not a very luxurious, well-to-do millionaires' row by any means, but not run-down or dangerous either, just perfectly normal, near to a big shopping area, hospital, just completely average.

Saw a friend and her husband and he said 'Oh that's not the best area of that place' when I said exactly where I lived. The friend then gave me a lift home at around 7pm and parked on the street. She asked me if I could walk her back to her car as she'd seen a man walk down that road and was 'scared'. Just a normal-looking man, walking down the road, no reason whatsoever to assume anything untoward.

They live in an area where footballers and real housewives' cast live so anywhere else probably seems like slums to them, but it was ott! I lived there for a year and had no issues whatsoever, I found the area very convenient.

I have a car from the 2010s with a 1.4 engine, it obviously hasn't got all the latest tech but it's a very reliable car known for its durability and is a good size, smooth, never had any problems with it only the usual servicing brake pads etc.. recently someone found out what car it was and said "Oh I assume that's only used for shorter trips then as it can't provide much comfort".

I didn't say anything but laughed to myself, they must think any car before 2020 is some sort of flintstones vehicle that will crumple if it leaves the postcode area, and newer cars eject champagne and canapés from the dashboard and some sort of business class experience.

I think people sometimes just say these things without meaning to be harsh, just stereotypes or comparing to their own lifestyles. I just roll my eyes internally, does anyone else have this?

Hard to define as a lot of what I witness with friends is indulging in luxury things. But they don’t judge others or look down on people because they don’t do those things. In fact, the wealthiest people I know are the least snobby.

We can all perhaps be a little bit snobby in our own ways and I know I can be a bit with food at times.