To ask how often you encounter snobbiness?

This is how you regard women from “middle England” @Nofeckingway ?

You just described my sister!

Okay that's definitely snobby, given the context. My auntie used to check our clothing labels on the back of our necks when we were little and comment how good they were (she worked in Tesco, but always had her small Chanel makeup counter shopping bags on show. Mum used to say she was 'champagne lifestyle on lemonade wages' lol.) She wasn't about that life at all. Horrible with money and went on to steal from vulnerable members of family.

46 years ago I got married after a very quick courtship. I had a good degree and was training to be a Chartered Accountant. My husband had an HNC in Engineering and worked in the Pottery Industry. One of my colleagues asked how we talked to each other. I'm still laughing about that. Another picked me up from our house one day and said the "I personally wouldn't live here.". It was a very respectable end terraced house. He lived with his parents.

@Willreturnforsure2 In my parlance , I would describe it like twee , conservative, school marmish , pearl clutching type of woman . A well known literary description no ? WI , Jam and Jerusalem. Not an insult just a observation.

Apropos of nothing, I’ve been asked if my siblings and I all have the same dad and told by the same person that she’d never been friends with anyone from a council estate before 😂. It’s a good job I have a thick skin. She’s genuinely lovely and we’ve been friends for years. We’d just led very different lives.

Other than that, the worst snobbery I’ve seen has been on MN.

Some adults are just vile, aren't they 🤑

Bollocks. Most of us have been to Europe. You’ve got just as many shitty areas and shitty Ubers and shitty taxis as we have in the UK, and we’ve got just as many nice areas and posh cars as you have in Europe. Stop pretending otherwise because you sound utterly ridiculous.

@sourglitterfrog My sister had to establish if the friend was from a suitable background for her precious daughter to play with.
If he was a doctor or pilot that was acceptable, if he worked in Tesco or the roads, it wasn't.

One does not come across such behaviour very often, though when one does, it is often 'new money'.

Snobbery is so classless, isn't it😂

I used to work for a multi millionaire (on Kent's rich list) she was a lovely old lady, very old money. However she would make her husband and herself nespresso or something nice and I would get instant coffee (she probably thought it was all I was used to). A down to earth young couple who were not poor by any standards who i also cleaned for let me help myself to their coffee machine and cakes

My husband was dissed as a child for being from a council estate

Never. I hear a lot of inverted snobbery though

Isn't that just her joking about trying to find a rich man? I'm confused.

I don’t spend my time with people like this so not very often at all. I remember my police officer friend being like this. She said in police training they’re told to look out for tracksuits, trainers and taxis so she would constantly be vigilant and certain anyone wearing a tracksuit was up to no good. I went on a night out with her once and she was surveilling people in Wetherspoons. She then had an affair with her married sergeant so I used that as an escape route and haven’t spoken to her since.

I can remember my niece coming in from school asking if she could invite a friend round to play.

My sister's response - "I'll have to find out what her daddy does first" 🙄

Oh for heavens sake. I knew them - I am not one of them (sadly, I’d like the money!) . I went to a very good school with lots of them and picked up the accent to fit in, but I am firmly working class. When I lived in West London, our wages were topped up by housing benefit. We got priced out, I had a mental breakdown after a horrible health issue, and then bought a house on a council estate in Dudley, where my husband is from, so we could have his family to support me. I wish I was old money, while I like my home and my friends, I’m not too keen on living next door to a weed dealer.

I was merely pointing out that some snobs are just rude. They have no idea that the people they aspire to be wouldn’t be impressed with their new Range Rover.

I encounter cultural snobbishness because I’m American; it used to hurt terribly but after 20 years I don’t care anymore.

This sounds like new money talking to me rather than snobbishness.

Yep, 100% agree with this.

And then we have the old money snobs popping in too. Hello!

Hahaha this happened to me all the time when I was younger. When out with a group of friends and we happened to call back to someone’s house, I was never allowed inside, I had to wait at the door as I was from the council estate.

I also had a sleepover at my friend’s house and in the morning her mum said to me ‘Natalie told me where you live this morning, had I known I’d have never said yes to you coming over but you’re actually the most well behaved and polite guest we’ve ever had, you’d never guess you lived there!’ Erm thanks I guess.

I also found it funny that when I went out shopping on a Saturday with friends that lived in the posh 5 beds in a lovely part of town, they always shoplifted! I was mortified, I just left the shop as I was always told by my mum if that ever happened, I’d always get the blame as I lived where I did.

I’ve been treated awfully because I grew up on a council estate.

I was being snobby to myself yesterday. I think I hid it well. I was on a playdate at another mum's house. I really like this woman. She's 20 years younger than me and her aesthetic is Kardashian-aspirational. Lots of neutrals and grey. Those leggings that your bum eats. Lots of filler and botox. Baby showers. Almost sexualised clothes for her little daughter. Tiny little handbag dogs. I am very different from this. I took a homemade cake and I wear Birkenstocks. A lot! I read the Guardian and I wear Hush. I can see myself here. I am a bit arty and probably a bit of a twat. Anyway... I was feeling snobby about a lot of this woman's life, but I was also thinking she was great and her taste in soft furnishings may not match mine, but her decency does. We also laugh together a lot. I would guess, financially, our two households are fairly similar. It's a snobbery of aesthetics rather than cash. However, if I am honest, I can't imagine us becoming very close friends, but that may be the age difference rather than me thinking she has naff taste.

I bet they have a good laugh at her behind her back. How rude of her.