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She took me to her abortion and is pregnant again couple weeks later

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Peaceofmind12 · 01/09/2026 12:16

My friend had an abortion last month, as she had been with this guy for two months and in that time, her beat her up and was verbally abusing her. She wanted me to come with her which I did. I don’t know why, but for some reason I found the whole experience a little traumatising but I never said anything to her about how all of it made me feel as she was going through a lot. Her abusive boyfriend was constantly calling me to get to her, she was crying loads and I was emotional support as she wanted to terminate the pregnancy so the guy could not ruin her life. Couple weeks later she is back with him and pregnant again after the abortion. She keeps saying she wants me to support her etc but I’ve completely checked out. I don’t know what she’s doing I think she’s making a mistake and I just don’t know what to say to her.

i feel conflicted as I feel like I’m not being a good friend by not congratulating her. But at the same time I’m so taken back we went to the clinic to terminate the other pregnancy so she could get away from him and now she’s back with him and pregnant again

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Rothburypixie · 01/09/2026 12:21

I get what you’re saying 100% but if she is in an abusive relationship, I’d be reluctant to cut ties. If she ever needs help to get out you might be a life line for her, he’d probably love for her to be isolated from family and friends.

paradisecircus · 01/09/2026 12:20

Congratulating her for what? It sounds like a real mess.
If she's a good friend, I'd perhaps continue to offer support on some level, but probably wouldn't accompany her to another abortion. The fact that the boyfriend is calling you is troubling too - is it feasible that you could ignore the calls or block him if this starts again?

Yourguessisasgoodasmine · 01/09/2026 12:20

Bullshit

Timeforachange26 · 01/09/2026 12:19

How could she know she was pregnant again so soon if she only had the abortion last month