AIBU to find a baby shower wish list a bit grabby?

This seems a more American than UK idea. I feel like in the UK gifts are more token things like a sweet book or cardigan or something personalised. I wouldn't expect my friends to be buying essentials for the baby like a breast pump or sterilising kit etc. Maybe grandparents if they wanted to get a pram or something but in general it feels grabby to me to expect a particular gift.
If you give at the shower then you just do a card when baby is born.

If they have a baby shower, I give a gift at the shower and then send a congratulations message or card after the baby is born. I like a wish list as it’s less work choosing a gift for me and means they don’t end up with duplicate gifts.

You usually give a gift at the baby shower. Having a wishlist means you're getting things you actually need or are wanting, it also stops people getting duplicate items.

Another example of what I raised on another thread about unrealistic expectations.

American here. The definition of a baby shower is literally a party for giving the expectant mother baby gifts ... like it's right there in the name. What, did you genuinely think everyone was gathering for cupcakes and compulsory small talk? The registry prevents people wasting money on duplicates and nobody expects another gift after the birth. Your friend isn’t grabby—you’ve misunderstood the entire concept and somehow decided she’s the rude one.

I live in America, this is the way it's done here - and I hate it. I do it, because as a pp says, it saves the (normally) heavily pregnant woman from answering the same question 100 times, and also when in Rome etc. But I refused to have a baby shower myself, I didn't accept any gifts before the baby arrived (in that I said thank you, I'll open it once the baby is here). I find the whole thing far too attention seeking and other than weddings and babies I can't think of any other time when it's acceptable for people to ask people for things, so why now?

Usually, when you have a baby shower the gifts are given then and you just do a card when baby is actually born, so no double gifts. Personally when I had mine an Amazon wishlist saved me from answering the same question a million times (what would you like) and actually most people just asked for the wishlist as it is quite common. I don’t think it’s grabby, I’d rather someone spend £30 on a bottle rack than £30 on an outfit baby is going to wear for one picture.

I've never been to one, but I always assumed everyone brought presents for the baby to the baby shower. Isn't that literally the point - you're showering the baby with gifts?

I've never been to a baby shower, but also, I have never given a gift before baby arrives.