To think fat women look better in bikinis than one pieces

I'm sure 'fat' women everywhere thank you for your opinion on how they look 🙄

Of course, everybody does.
But I don't presume a woman is wearing something because she feels self conscious, I would think she is wearing it because she likes it.

Do you never look at someone's clothing and think I like that or I don't like that, or that looks good, that doesn't?

I am with you all the way, op. Some of the replies are really nasty.

Look, it's this simple. The op was at the beach, an experience many of us know. She had probably had a swim, played with the kids, sunbathed, read her books and mags, played beach ball whatever, and there she was sitting on the beach. Doing that most interesting of activities, watching people. People-watching. And where better than on a beach? All of humanity is there, the young, the old, the rich, the poor, the slim, the fat, the happy, the unhappy, the straight, the gays, the pregnant, the locals, the tourists, bikins, burkinis, budgie-smugglers, one pieces etc, etc. A parade of humanity in front of her. Up and down the beach, back and forth. Conversations, laughter, arguements she hears snatches of. All with very few clothes on. All these practically naked apes. And she's observing the differences and similarities between us all, and how they clothe themselves. And since she's a woman, and a woman who has been various weights, she's observing how other women clothe themselves. How women clothe themselves is of interest to many women. It's interesting, right? This a women-centred forum, where a whole chapter is devoted to Style and Beauty. And that is all she is doing. She is looking and commenting. We all look at each other (men and women) , have opinions, comment. It's no big deal.

Good job I'm not then.

Thanks for explaining that, we were all completely clueless without it,

I am with you all the way, op. Some of the replies are really nasty.

Look, it's this simple. The op was at the beach, an experience many of us know. She had probably had a swim, played with the kids, sunbathed, read her books and mags, played beach ball whatever, and there she was sitting on the beach. Doing that most interesting of activities, watching people. People-watching. And where better than on a beach? All of humanity is there, the young, the old, the rich, the poor, the slim, the fat, the happy, the unhappy, the straight, the gays, the pregnant, the locals, the tourists, bikins, burkinis, budgie-smugglers, one pieces etc, etc. A parade of humanity in front of her. Up and down the beach, back and forth. Conversations, laughter, arguements she hears snatches of. All with very few clothes on. All these practically naked apes. And she's observing the differences and similarities between us all, and how they clothe themselves. And since she's a woman, and a woman who has been various weights, she's observing how other women clothe themselves. How women clothe themselves is of interest to many women. It's interesting, right? This a women-centred forum, where a whole chapter is devoted to Style and Beauty. And that is all she is doing. She is looking and commenting. We all look at each other (men and women) , have opinions, comment. It's no big deal.

This is an absolutely unhinged response. Did you even read my opening post where I said obviously people can and should wear what they want.

As for other posters saying I'm obsessed with fat women and staring at them...please. unless you walk round with your eyes shut, we look at people all the time. And yes most of us have opinions on things. As someone who has been fat and thin and is interested in style and fashion, I do like looking at what people wear.

I think it’s sad women’s bodies are constantly under the microscope, even by fellow women. Fat men just wear swim shorts and nobody notices or cares unless they’re morbidly obese. Lots of older men have big pot bellies and wear shorts presumably without a second thought.

To be fair I think most people’s skin would tear if they slipped on shingle, no?

Yep, that's me. I went swimming the other day in a one piece costume, slipped coming up the shingle and tore a 4" gash in the skin on my shin. This happens a lot as I have very fragile skin so now I have swim trousers and a rash vest. I do not have a great figure but I also don't need to remove huge chunks of skin. I always wear trousers and long sleeves for protection as well.

Sometimes it's just about continuing to do what you want but sensibly.

No, I’ve never ever seen anyone sitting by the pool or sunbathing on th4 beach in rash vest and shorts either, the only people I’ve seen do it are those doing water sports, snorkelling, kayaking etc, or small children.

as it would be relatively unusual. I guess I’d think maybe they’d a skin problem or it was a religious thing, or they had body hang ups.

Tbh in my part of the country the only seemingly body confident people fitting that description - ie knowing they're attractive and have a conventionally great figure – who wear body shorts and a rash vests are surfers and are so dressed for practical reasons?

I've not ever seen someone dressed like this without a surfboard under their arm 🤷‍♀️ i suppose they must exist but they're definitely the exception.