I’m genuinely confused by this. You agreed not to do a roast, and then you did it anyway. And somehow the justification is that it was a frozen chicken that could have stayed in the freezer for another week? That makes absolutely no sense to me.
She’s 22, not 2. I genuinely find it bizarre that everyone seems to think that once someone is an adult, their wishes suddenly shouldn’t matter when it comes to something as basic as food. Obviously she doesn’t get to dictate everything the family does, but if she says she doesn’t want something and you’ve agreed not to make it, then why would you turn around and make it anyway?
I’m from an Eastern family, and in my experience we actually take into account what the adults in the family like to eat. My mum always made what I liked. Not because I was “entitled” or because she was somehow obliged to cater to my every demand, but because she was feeding her family and actually cared whether we enjoyed the food.
That’s what I don’t understand about this whole argument. What is the point of cooking for your family if you completely disregard what they like? It’s not some outrageous demand to want your own family to consider your preferences.
If you wanted a roast that badly, you could have simply said, “We’re having roast, so you’ll have to sort yourself out.” At least then she could have made her own choice.
I honestly don’t understand why people are so determined to turn this into a lesson about entitlement when the actual issue is that you said one thing and then did another, despite knowing she didn’t want it.