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BeardySchnauzer · 31/08/2026 00:47

I’m going to posit a theory

OP only keeps a chicken for exactly 12 months from the sell by date and that’s the date she meant. Otherwise 🤷‍♀️

Whoops75 · 31/08/2026 00:47

Freezer chicken good for 6 months

You said ‘I have a chicken to use up what will I cook’?
DD said ‘not a roast’ please.

You cooked one anyway!
why did you bother asking?

Strawberrydelight78 · 31/08/2026 00:46

TURTLE74 · 30/08/2026 23:23

Because of the date

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It’s frozen so can be stored in the freezer for at least a year after the best before date. How can you not know that?😂😂😂

BusterGonad · 31/08/2026 00:44

TURTLE74 · 30/08/2026 23:23

Because of the date

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😂 Wtf....

HumbleStumble · 31/08/2026 00:44

neilyoungismyhero · 31/08/2026 00:39

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So if anything OP, the freezer actually inconveniences you, as you still eat the food by the use by date for the fridge, but now have to defrost it as well. If any good comes of this strange thread, it's that you learn how to use a freezer.

Savvyshopper17 · 31/08/2026 00:42

Christ0nABike · 31/08/2026 00:41

OP please just say you meant fridge so we can all get to sleep

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Christ0nABike · 31/08/2026 00:41

OP please just say you meant fridge so we can all get to sleep

AbsintheMakesTheHeartGrowFonder · 31/08/2026 00:40

Why the fuck is a 22-year-old not capable of sorting her own dinner if she doesn’t fancy whatever you’re cooking? She’s a grown woman. Why is she behaving like a 13-year-old?

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Savvyshopper17 · 31/08/2026 00:39

TURTLE74 · 30/08/2026 23:19

Adult daughter 22 is not a fan of roast dinners. She asked me if I could not do a roast dinner today and make something else which I agreed to. However I had a chicken in freezer that needed using up today but I did make a pasta bake which is something she likes as an alternative. I like to make a family dinner on a Sunday for us all. Daughter was disappointed about the roast but I explained to her I had to use chicken up but I did make something she liked as alternative. She said to me you told me you wouldn’t make a roast and she looked upset. She didn’t go hungry though as she had Cottage Pie after saying there’s nothing to eat. AIBU to of made the roast even though there was pasta dish as alternative or was she being unreasonable here as I feel bad about it.

She is 22, a whole adult woman! She needs to make her own dinner or move out! The audacity

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · 31/08/2026 00:37

MyArtfulGreySloth · 30/08/2026 23:49

There’s other things you can do with a chicken 🤷🏻‍♀️

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AIBU to make a roast when my daughter asked me not to?

Yupstillhere · 31/08/2026 00:36

You're both bat shit. Why would she care what everyone else eats. You don't understand the advantages of freezing food.

TyneTeas · 31/08/2026 00:32

What has you agreed to make instead of a roast dinner when she originally asked?

Ghastisflabbered · 31/08/2026 00:31

TURTLE74 · 31/08/2026 00:15

Daughter did not ask for any other dish to be made she said can we not have roast but I made her pasta bake

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Your OP states

“Adult daughter 22 is not a fan of roast dinners. She asked me if I could not do a roast dinner today and make something else which I agreed to”

so which is it?

CrushingOnRubies · 31/08/2026 00:30

Voted YABU but only because of the chicken has a sell by date if frozen thing!!?? Dd is still a brat for having 3 menu options

thisismeithinkorisit · 31/08/2026 00:28

I'm so confused.

Chicken was in freezer, so unless it had been in there oens, wouldn't have gone out of date. However you so had to have realised this early enough to get it fully defrosted before cooking and you make it sound like a last minute realisation

Daughter asked you to not make a roast, so you made pasta bake alongside it which she didn't eat so had leftovers from yesterday? And was then upset with you. Is there more to this than the food? What else happens oat Roast Dinners that doesn't happen at other meals?

LivingTheDreamish · 31/08/2026 00:25

I would never have been this rude to my mother at 22. Fine to say she didn't fancy a roast, but you made her a pasta bake, and there was shepherd's pie on offer too. And she still made you feel bad.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 31/08/2026 00:22

I also need an update about the chicken and the freezer.

Smittenkitchen · 31/08/2026 00:20

Your DD's behaviour sounds like mine as I never liked roast dinners or traditional British food like that and was a vegetarian but I would've been about 14 when I behaved like that and my DM would've given me short shrift . Don't give it another thought and think about ways in which you can support her transition into adulthood and stop babying her.

Babyboomtastic · 31/08/2026 00:20

TURTLE74 · 31/08/2026 00:15

Daughter did not ask for any other dish to be made she said can we not have roast but I made her pasta bake

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Great

Now to the important question about the chicken and the freezer!

LBFseBrom · 31/08/2026 00:19

Ohdearnotthisagain · 30/08/2026 23:20

Maybe she could cook next time. Bloody hell you made her a pasta bake.

Exactly.

Your daughter needs to be less finicky and is fortunate that you cater to her tastes.

BeardySchnauzer · 31/08/2026 00:17

TURTLE74 · 31/08/2026 00:15

Daughter did not ask for any other dish to be made she said can we not have roast but I made her pasta bake

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i think everyone has agreed she is a brat so can we move onto the more important question of how you put a date on frozen chicken?

Original poster

TURTLE74 · 31/08/2026 00:15

Ghastisflabbered · 31/08/2026 00:10

I think, as a grown adult, cohabiting with other supposedly grown adults…if following a conversation about dinner where one person had specifically said can we not have x and it had been agreed to have y…then I’d have been pretty pissy if X had appeared on the table with no warning.

Unless the pasta bake was the alternative meal you had both agreed on it’s a bit odd to deliberately make something someone has asked you not to for family dinner?

especially when the star ingredient for the meal that you’d both initially agreed not to have was safe in the freezer and could happily remain there for another few days?

Daughter did not ask for any other dish to be made she said can we not have roast but I made her pasta bake

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saraclara · 31/08/2026 00:12

DaisyDooley · 30/08/2026 23:57

There’s probably chicken in my freezer from last year - and when we eat it, we will be fine!!

I’ll side eye with you. Although I’m much better at rolling them!

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I've got a poussin* in the freezer that's probably two years old. In fact today I looked at it and thought "I really should use that this week". Just as I do every week.

And when I use it next year, it will also be fine.

*I'm not posh. It was a yellow label bargain.

Ghastisflabbered · 31/08/2026 00:10

I think, as a grown adult, cohabiting with other supposedly grown adults…if following a conversation about dinner where one person had specifically said can we not have x and it had been agreed to have y…then I’d have been pretty pissy if X had appeared on the table with no warning.

Unless the pasta bake was the alternative meal you had both agreed on it’s a bit odd to deliberately make something someone has asked you not to for family dinner?

especially when the star ingredient for the meal that you’d both initially agreed not to have was safe in the freezer and could happily remain there for another few days?