AIBU to make a roast when my daughter asked me not to?

The date doesn't matter on a frozen chicken. Except, potentially, with respect to quality over time

I don't think OP understands the concept of frozen food.

@TURTLE74 Do you understand that once the chicken goes into the freezer, all bets are off regarding use by dates?

You can leave it in there safely for at least 3 months although I’ve definitely got food in mine that’s over a year old.

Do you have any other strange quirks regarding food hygiene?

Why didn’t your daughter want you to cook a roast dinner? Is she worried that you faff about too much in the kitchen rather than spending time with the family? Seems odd that she’s asking you not to cook something specific but isn’t offering to cook an alternative meal instead.

What's the point in freezing things if you're always going to use it by it's original use by date?

I'm assuming that you know the purpose of freezing foods is to pause the use by date. If stored properly it could last a year or more.

You do know that freezing food preserves it?

This whole thing is bat shit. Your daughter is an adult. The conversation should have been something like this - “mum, I don’t fancy a roast dinner this week. I’m going to make X instead - would you like me to make that for everyone, or just me if you’re still having a roast?”

I can understand her being annoyed that you said you wouldn’t cook a roast but then did it anyway… except you cooked her an alternative! Did she say why she didn’t want the pasta bake?

I’m also wondering about the chicken/freezer/date thing - did you mean it was in the fridge? If it was, why didn’t you just freeze it then after you agreed to do a different meal? If it was in the freezer, why not just leave it in there til next week?

She is 22. An adult, not a child. Tell her to make her own food!! Both my sons came home to live for a while after uni/travelling. They cooked their own food as they both know I hate cooking.

Tell her to think about the orphans in Gaza. Honestly I’ve never heard something so entitled and petty in all my life.

I have questions OP

Was DD upset that you made a roast or was she upset that she asked you to do something, you agreed to it, then didn't?

Do you have a history with her of she asks for something, you agree to it and then don't carry through?

How many people were you cooking for? If it was just you and DD

Why didn't you use the chicken to make something that is not a roast?

Also the date on the chicken, what is that all about?

Why did you bother freezing the chicken if you were always going to eat it before its best before date? That makes no sense and completely defeats the point of freezing fish and meat!

I think given she is an adult she’s veing very unreasonable. Did you end up making 3 dinners in the end to please her (roast, pasta and cottage pie)? You should cook whatever you want and it is her choice whether to eat it or make her own food. You’re not eu ning a restaurant!

Maybe it is the smell of the roast dinner or all the faff that goes with it that puts her off eating it. She had dinner, she’ll survive.,

If my 21/25 year olds don’t like ‘what’s for dinner’ they make something for themselves. As they are adults. If that was my daughter it would’ve been oh well sort yourself out then, at 22! If I liked a roast I’d make one far too much pandering and faffing over nothing. Why was she upset about a roast she didn’t want?

Who the heck has the time or inclination to be negotiating what they cook for an adults dinner, she can cook for herself. Mine eat what I make no moaning if they don’t like/want they make their own, my younger sons eat what I make. Can’t please everyone but I would not accept them being rude?!

Leaving aside the whole chicken > frezzer > date issue because that's as mad as a box of ( unfrozen) frogs .

Your dd asked you not to cook a roast , you said you wouldn't but you did anyway so solely for this point yabu.

You cooked her a pasta bake instead so, solely for this point she is bu.

There was leftover cottage pie that she ate had this ( or any of its components) been frozen at any point ?
So solely for this point she is bu

So on balance she ibu.

Now come back @TURTLE74 and please explain what you think frezzers are for.

>>>> wonders if fish fingers dated Feb would make a suitable breakfast <<<<<

I have a 22 year old DD. Here’s how that conversation would go in our house.

DD: I don’t like roast dinners.
Me: Well everyone else does so that’s what I’m making. You can have some, or you can make yourself something else if that’s what you’d prefer.

No making other meals, no justifications over frozen chickens. She’s an adult woman.

Why bother freezing it then? Has she got her neuroses from you? 😂

A year you say!?! 😬 (sidles off to hang head in circa 2014-ish freezer shame 😳) 😂

No wonder DD got upset about the roast. If it's a mumsnet chicken she'd be eating the leftovers for a week.

She had a choice of three meals! She was a lucky girl - you aren’t a restaurant. Did you ask why she wanted to deprive others of a Sunday roast?

YANBU at 22 she should be cooking at home as well, and definitely doesn’t get to dictate what the cook of the day prepares for the household. If you’d given her the choice and said roast or X, then made a roast then YABU. However if she just said yesterday please don’t make a roast today then my response would be ok, what are you cooking instead.

(However using up frozen chicken is necessary - the use by date only applies to chilled food - it lasts for months in the freezer)

Wait for the drip feed of excuses that will try to make us all feel bad for asking about the chicken.

This!

Why are you discussing meal planning with your adult daughter who doesn’t seem able to cook? Presumably you’re not running a restaurant and she’s not paying to order a specific meal? YOU decide what you’re making. If she doesn’t fancy it, tough shit.

She sounds unbearably spoilt, and your agonising about whether you did the wrong thing by making a roast, suggests it’s you who’ve spoilt her and pandered to her. She’s 22 fgs! Stop babying her.

Why does it matter? @TURTLE74 can make a roast dinner any time she wants, she doesn't need an excuse and she doesn'tneed her daughter's permission. The daughter got an alternative dish so she didn't go without

People are dying she needs to get a grip in the nicest way possible 😂