AIBU to make a roast when my daughter asked me not to?

But she also made a pasta bake so whether or not she made the roast for herself and the others is irrelevant, DD still got her needs catered to.

@TURTLE74 your DD is spoiled, that’s the issue.

Why are u pandering over your ADULT daughter if she moaning she cooks her own she should be grateful!
Most kids of this age be cooking their meals by now stop babying her !!

Sorry but who doesn’t like a roast?! Seriously, if your daughter didn’t want a roast then maybe she could have cooked something different using the chicken.

Your daughter is a brat!! You’re creating a monster by pandering to this

Do people still use bread bins?

Misses point of thread........

200 replies on this already! 😄

Sod this, I'm going to read a book...

I think you're being unreasonable in the fact that this is even a thing in your house.
"Can we not have a roast?"
"Well we are, because I've a chicken to use, but you can have..."
Is the way to go.
Getting yourself locked in to obligations about menus, only to be chastised if you change things is way too stressful. You need to be clear that there's no promises where food is concerned. You'll provide a meal trying to accommodate people but you're not a resturant, and reserve the right to decide/change.

I think next time you introduce her to the bread bin and the cheese and let her get on with it.

Probably a bit late now to start teaching her to be less entitled, but do look forward to the time in that future when she has moved out, has her own home and invites you to a meal she has bought with her own money and cooked………..

This is like that posts on insta where people cook but get like piece of obvious plastic into the food from packaging and just mix it in. Or do really stupid thing like pour in half the bottle if salt so they get shittone of "there is plastic in it!" comments for engagement numbers....
And it's not the only thread like this.....

Your DD sounds like a princess. Maybe she should make dinner for everyone?

I don’t get the freezer thing either. You freeze stuff but then still use the original sell by date or what?!

A few days makes no difference to a frozen chicken. But you felt it did, so that's not the point. It sounds as if DD was a bit grumpy and you took offence at that. Perhaps you are getting on each other's nerves a bit?

So if you “just” made pasta bake would she not have eaten it?!

Seeing as she then didn’t eat it as she didn’t fancy it.

I couldn’t deal with such a picky eater at 22. She’s acting like a child.

I'm mainly here for the freezer explanation but I also can't understand why a 22 year old can't do their own cooking.

Agreed it is ridiculous behaviour. My kids grumble depending on which meal is served, I ignore them and plate up. I decide on the meals and do not make a second dish!

I cant believe this lengthy thread on something so trivial! Let this spoilt adult do their own blooming cooking!

I’m kind of with your daughter here. I see sharing food as a social activity, it isn’t just about making sure everyone is fuelled; it’s about sitting down together and enjoying the same experience.

You had said to your daughter on this occasion you would make something for everyone that she could enjoy too, and then you didn’t do that.

I voted that you are being unreasonable:

• DD asked you not to do a roast, you said you wouldn't, but you did
• chicken in a freezer doesn't need to be "used up" by the sell by date - that's what the freezer is for
• you could have done something other than a roast with the chicken if you needed to cook it

I feel the food prepared and served is not the main issue here; your daughter asked you not to do something, you said that you wouldn't and then you did. It's a trust issue, not a dinner issue.

I’m in my thirties and currently back living with my parents with my DC due to personal circumstances. I’m also a vegetarian and my parent is gluten free.

I just appreciate when my mum cooks. She might ask, when doing the shop, for any tea suggestions but I eat what she cooks and she eats what I cook.

Never growing up or now would I ask my mum to make or not make certain meals, or expect a completely different alternative. I certainly wouldn’t sulk over it.

It sounds a bit spoilt and princessy, to be honest.

I’m really hoping this is rage bait.

Is it also the smell that upsets her? If yes, ....

None of this makes any sense. So your daughter had pasta bake and cottage pie while you all had roast? Or you made her a pasta bake which she didn't eat and had leftovers instead? Either way you are not her personal chef. If she doesn't want what you are cooking she can get herself something else, exactly as she did. However if you actually agreed with her not to do a roast and then went back on your agreement, a brief apology is all that's needed 'oh I have just realised the chicken needs cooking today. I know I said I wouldn't do a roast but I have to use the chicken up. I will do something different next Sunday.'

The chicken being in the freezer but needing to be used today makes no sense. Even if the sellby date on the freezer was 31 August 2026, cooking it a few days later would not have killed anyone. Everyone knows sellby dates are a guide, not gospel. Especially when it comes to frozen stuff. It could have been left another few days (in the freezer) I'm sure...

Also, you cooked her a pasta bake, so why was she so 'angry' about the roast?

None of this makes sense to me.

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