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To think this is outrageously irresponsible parenting

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CaffeinatedMum · 30/08/2026 21:52

On holiday in France at a Eurocamp park. Yesterday I was in the outdoor pool and noticed a little boy maybe around 18 months, certainly no older than a young 2, bobbing around by himself in a float vest. For context my six year old was out of his depth in all of this pool apart from the steps to get in, so it wasn’t a toddler type splash pool.

I watched him for a minute as he didn’t seem to have anyone with him and then both me and another lady went up to him to ask him where his mummy or daddy was, obviously he didn’t reply as was very young. Led him to the steps and his older sister came rushing up to him, I can’t imagine she was more than five (considerably smaller than my six year old).

Long story short, the parents were watching the kids from the bar nearby with their friends. This isn’t a pool bar and they weren’t in swimwear. it’s the other side of a gate and foot bath. So yes you can see the kids but you’re a fair distance away, not just on a lounger next to it,

They absolutely fell about with laughter when their son was helped out of the pool.

I genuinely can’t believe how irresponsible this parenting was… I am assuming I will get a unanimous YANBU but obviously there are parents out there who think this is not only ok but funny.

Now kicking myself for not saying anything to them about it but didn’t want to cause a scene, they were quite a big intimidating group standing their laughing their heads off.

OP posts:
Namenamchange · 30/08/2026 23:13

Gowlett · 30/08/2026 22:29

Wouldn’t be laughing if the child drowned.

No, but would be blaming someone else

MyArtfulGreySloth · 30/08/2026 23:12

Thats not any form of parenting, that’s neglect.

zigazigaaaing · 30/08/2026 23:08

Yep that’s awful, I just don’t understand some people

whatsnewpussycatt · 30/08/2026 23:02

I’m on holiday just now.
Today by the pool a toddler, similar age, definitely younger than 2, was leaning over the pool trying to fill up a little cup. This was a deep pool where I can’t stand up, apart from the steps, very much like you describe. Toddler had no floats on or anything. No parents in sight. He was leaning so far over, he was almost in and could have fallen any second. Eventually a little girl, who was probably his sister, who was only about 3 herself, started screaming looking at him. She didn’t seem to be able to voice her concerns but looked on screaming as if to get attention. Dad eventually comes strolling from god knows where. followed by mum. Neither batted an eye. Sad that big sister, just a toddler herself, has had to learn what is unsafe parenting and can only scream on helplessly. I obviously stayed next to him but parents didn’t even notice.
A different family left their very young baby and toddler strapped in push chairs sleeping, in the blazing sun, while they went off, probably to the bar but who knows. The children were left strapped in at the pool side alone in the heat for a long long time. Parents gone and out of sight. No one checking on them, they could have overheated or anything. Other guests and staff intervened because parents eventually returned looking annoyed.
I could probably give many more examples. You see it all the time. It’s ridiculous.

PromoPerson · 30/08/2026 22:53

God. The sheer neglect. And same for @REDB99‘s post, shocking and cruel. What the heck is wrong with some people

Toastersandkettles · 30/08/2026 22:37

That's very shit parenting and I would definitely report it. I don't even leave my 12 year old in the pool alone!

BinNightTonight · 30/08/2026 22:34

Terrifying!

REDB99 · 30/08/2026 22:33

You get these types of parents everywhere. I was away recently in a very busy theme park, there was a little girl who was about 3 clearly in distress, she appeared lost and was wandering about. Me and three other people stopped and went to get a staff member. Parents were sitting on a bench about 100 yards away laughing at her distress. They eventually got up and came over when it was clear several people were concerned about her. Of course if anything did happen it would be someone else’s fault,

PinkNailPolish2026 · 30/08/2026 22:33

There was a thread on here last week that a child’s head went under the water when they had a swim vest on. It would’ve been a different story if anything had happened to the child - it would probably have been everyone else’s fault. Utter morons.

JemimaTiggywinkles · 30/08/2026 22:31

I’d tell the staff. I’d bet good money there’s a rule about children being adequately supervised and if you tell the staff they can keep an eye out and have a word if it is repeated.

Gowlett · 30/08/2026 22:29

Wouldn’t be laughing if the child drowned.

BobMortimersSmile · 30/08/2026 22:28

That's neglectful.

seahorsessky · 30/08/2026 22:26

It's awful, and you should have reported it. But I'm not surprised-lots of mums at softplays seem to get in fights and think it's funny when their kids fight. And at a waterpark in the UK, when a 4 year old got in trouble, the mum blamed the lifeguard.

24Dogcuddler · 30/08/2026 22:23

Unbelievably irresponsible. Good job you were there.

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