AIBU to question a pool asking my four-year-old daughter to cover up?

No, from that question it appears she knew it was someone"s daughter but needed to clarify if it was your daughter, however having read a lot of the thread I now agree with you, it is of no real consequence if your daughter wears just bottoms at that age, but what did the company say, that is the thing most people want to hear I think?

They also just sell bottoms for girls .

It’s ridiculous, this narrative that you can’t put your daughter in a common or garden one piece swimsuit because they’re so fiendishly difficult to get in and out of.
These are able bodied women of average intelligence, presumably?
What will happen to these poor children when they start school swimming lessons in Year 3 and have to do it all by themselves??
Actually, they’ll manage perfectly well, just like all the other children 🙄

No you don't just have to accept everything someone tells you

You don’t have to go swimming, if it’s so hard that it’s such as struggle to get them changed then don’t go. Or get the costume on before you go under clothes, that’s what I do. A colleague working in a pool that you don’t own and pay to use is entitled to enforce a policy. It’s like men having to put on a shirt when you go to a campsite in public places. It’s respectful.

I agree with you OP and YANBU. For the woman to call it out and raise it with you is inadvertently or subconsciously sexualising your child by saying she should cover what will in 8 years or whatever grow to be breasts. It’s ridiculous. She’s a child of 4 whose chest is exactly the same as a boys. You were right to question her

I am absolutely baffled. What on earth is so hard about getting a 4 year old in and out of a swimming costume? Surely she can get it off herself at least? It’s hardly a complicated piece of clothing.

It's actually shocking

I think you are right to be annoyed . It’s like she is insulting your parenting choices or implying you have done something wrong by saying “I’m a mother” when she is just a child and has nothing there to cover up .

Yabu for using ai.

I agree young children wearing bikini tops is strange. They have nothing to put in them.

Apparently several people on this thread have this mindset...

It doesn’t, it means that a pervert can’t see the body parts that they find themselves attracted to. It’s about the kid not the parents beliefs.

Same. Beach ok, Leisure Centre not ok. I can't even explain my mentality on this.

Yes, obviously. And no, don't prevent them from swimming, obviously. But yes, ensure they are clothed, to discourage your child from being the easy target, obviously. Really is not hard to put appropriate swimwear on your children, I'm quite frankly stunned that so many people seem to struggle with this.

So now you're just being deliberately obtuse because you have nothing better to say. How expected. Yes most boys have long hair and wear pink and most girls have short hair and wear blue. Just as boys develop breasts which is why they're expected to cover their top half, while girls don't develop breasts and as such are not typically expected to do this.

Have we finished being stupid now?

Also, people dress their kids in gender-typical colours as a part of socialisation, not with the intention of encouraging pedophiles to take their pick. Unless thats why you do it? Strange.

Actually Id rather they not oggle them at all. But Im not prepared to prevent my kids from swimming to ensure it and I dont think that the type of swimwear they wear makes any difference at all.

Sorry I cant resist but how does this make them safe?

It's true. No girl has ever had short hair or any boy long hair. And besides all girls are dressed in pink and all boys are dressed in blue. Why parents colour code them for the pedophiles is a bit of a mystery though. * *

If only everyone had this level of common sense

Sadly in this day and age no way would I let my girls in a public pool wear no clothing on top. Prefer to be safe than sorry.

4 year old girls and boys are obviously very distinguishable. Nobody would look at my 4yo boy and think with his very short hair, boy features and boys clothes that he is a girl. Nobody would look at my 2yo daughter and think, with her long hair, female features and girls clothing that she is a boy.

This thread is truly something else holy fuck

So you'd rather a pedophile oggle your 4yo child topless than in clothing? Have you hit your head?