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AIBU to blank another parent who witters on?

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BoomBoomsCousin · 30/08/2026 08:15

I Am Being UNKIND but AIBU (and what can I do about this)?

My DD has started horse riding. She's currently having a lesson once a week with one other kid. I take her and sit to watch. The other kid's mother also stays to watch and she is SO BORING and won't shut up.

I have heard 4 times now about how tedious it is to fill in all the forms for her DS's school sport (we're in the US and school sport here is a bit crazy). Last time she spent 12 minutes (I was clock watching) explaining how she went to bed to late. It involved her telling me about four separate loads of laundry, though it turns out she actually stayed up watching TV. I smile and nod and try to get focus on my DD or read the book I bring each week. Sometimes she gets the hint and goes on her phone, but after a few minutes she'll tut or sigh and start telling me about some admin problem she's trying to solve. I cannot bear it.

She seems like a nice woman, but I just don't can't stand her. AIBU to blank her a bit when she goes does this? What alternative is there that doesn't leave me dreading taking my DD to her lesson?

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ilovesooty · 30/08/2026 08:57

BoomBoomsCousin · 30/08/2026 08:51

I have!

You'll have to keep telling her then.

Shmee1988 · 30/08/2026 08:55

I think it is a bit unkind tbh. I get that you want to focus on your DD. Can you not watch her and have a conversation with this woman at the same time? Surely its an hours lesson. She may be lonely and have limited and non existent interaction with others. No one is entitled to your time and attention, but I think the world would be a nicer place if we didnt view people that want to interact with us and strike up some kind of real life connection as a nuisance.

BoomBoomsCousin · 30/08/2026 08:51

RosasDanceRosas · 30/08/2026 08:50

Then just tell her that, surely?

I have!

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RosasDanceRosas · 30/08/2026 08:50

BoomBoomsCousin · 30/08/2026 08:47

Not really seeing how wearing headphones isn't blanking?

But I couldn't wear headphones as I'm actually trying to listen to the instructor when my DD is getting instruction and my hearing is bad enough as it is!

Then just tell her that, surely?

Nitgel · 30/08/2026 08:50

Try interrupting and talking over her? I find people who witter on don't like it when wittered upon.

BoomBoomsCousin · 30/08/2026 08:50

Firefly100 · 30/08/2026 08:36

I’d respond ‘sorry I want to read my book today’ when she starts to talk to you. Id repeat if necessary. Then I would read my book and ignore her speaking if I needed to. If she looked for interaction from me ‘sorry, as I told you I’m reading my book’
Or if you want to watch your DD, ‘I can’t talk now as I want to concentrate on daughter. Then same as above.
I think it can be done clearly and firmly rather than rudely.

It's probably going to come down to this ad nauseam. I've tried it a few times but it hasn't stopped her yet.

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SunnyRedSnail · 30/08/2026 08:50

Perhaps she is quite isolated and this is her only time per week to speak to a grown up?

Either be polite or go sit in your car or put headphones on.

BoomBoomsCousin · 30/08/2026 08:47

purplegrinch · 30/08/2026 08:25

Another for headphones. Nod hello then withdraw. Don’t blank as that’s mean!

Not really seeing how wearing headphones isn't blanking?

But I couldn't wear headphones as I'm actually trying to listen to the instructor when my DD is getting instruction and my hearing is bad enough as it is!

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Firefly100 · 30/08/2026 08:36

I’d respond ‘sorry I want to read my book today’ when she starts to talk to you. Id repeat if necessary. Then I would read my book and ignore her speaking if I needed to. If she looked for interaction from me ‘sorry, as I told you I’m reading my book’
Or if you want to watch your DD, ‘I can’t talk now as I want to concentrate on daughter. Then same as above.
I think it can be done clearly and firmly rather than rudely.

purplegrinch · 30/08/2026 08:25

Another for headphones. Nod hello then withdraw. Don’t blank as that’s mean!

Openmouthinsertfood · 30/08/2026 08:19

Maybe start wearing some obvious headphones?